No.389285
I've noticed that sluts are easier to talk to than most. Why is that? It's always because they put on a fake personality to attract people to use, but is it possible to find someone genuine who has a friendly welcoming personality? How can I make people feel comfortable opening up to me? Is it entirely up to appealing to their lust? I don't even know how to describe this properly, but I hate how people are more comfortable talking to you only when there's lewd involved. I just want a bf, but it feels like all the cute boys who are able to get along with people and have the option of being sluts always choose to be sluts. It's only the boring ones that aren't very pleasant to talk to that are conservative.
What do I need to do to have an attractive personality, and how can I find other people with attractive personalities without being sluts?
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No.389318
I'll just leave this here.
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No.389543
>>389318
you shouldn't believe every bitter Incel on the internet, Anon.
>>389285
I don't really understand this post. Some of what you're saying I agree with, but some of it is ricocheting around?
I grew up as mostly the type of person you described - a lonely slut who developed a means to connect to others through their body. This did more damage to my life than it did good.
however, I believe that I learned an incredible set of skills, and empathy during my soul-searching. I now understand and respect my body in ways that i never knew I could.
I find it easier to socialize and relate to most everybody because I am able to see my own life within theirs. I believe that great suffering breeds great empathy - yet great empathy will return that suffering 10fold.
Be careful not to deal in absolutes, anon.
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No.389560
>>389285
>I've noticed that sluts are easier to talk to than most. Why is that? It's always because they put on a fake personality to attract people to use, but is it possible to find someone genuine who has a friendly welcoming personality?
Tbh, a lot of sluts are genuine. Like hardline sex positive star-in-porn sluts can sometimes just be really open people who've come to grips with themselves and their place in the universe. And some people are just stupidly chill and pretty much fall on dick (or pussy) because they have trouble saying "no" and setting boundaries for others. You can be agreeable more-or-less by accident.
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No.389610
>>389543
>you shouldn't believe every bitter Incel on the internet, Anon.
What are you talking about?
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No.389632
It's easy to be a dime a dozen slut with barely any personality worth mentioning
there is more effort in being a nice, substantial person that people will want to know long after any initial "i'll fuck anyone im totally a slut" stage that may exist
I also like boys who have substantial and kind personalities, OP
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No.389648
>>389285
I always i was much easier to talk with than most other cute boys, as they usually just bait me for my nudes.
I can definitely understand where you're coming from. They're always crazies.. Never found a genuinely "normal" cuteboy like I think I myself am like.
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No.389654
>>389648
is english not your native language?
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No.390259
>>389285
I think it is neuroticism vs extroversion/openness
People are just different, different genes and different amygdalas and different prevailing neurotransmitter subsystems give rise to different behaviors.
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No.390329
>>389285
I developed my personality through empathy - through learning how to mirror other humans. I grew up a pleaser, that's why I believe I became a 'slut'.
I learned from characters in anime. from friends. from others. I watched how they interacted, and I remembering constantly thinking to myself "I desire this trait, I will teach it to myself."
It sounds lame, but I learned so much from characters like Ciel Phantomhive and Honey Senpai. Edward Elric, Ed from Bebop, Cooro from +anima
all were quite kind characters. They cared and loved and we're always shining with excitement.
As i grew up I slowly gifted myself their traits. Is that not what we do? learn from others and the world?
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No.390334
>>390329
>that's why I believe I became a 'slut'.
The goal of the thread is discussing how to have a good personality WITHOUT being a slut. Sluts are gross.
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No.390337
>>389285
People with attractive personalities are naturally attractive to other people, therefore sex is more available and lmao, what boy doesn't want sex? It's the most instinctual bodily function.
It sounds like this is a you problem, anon, and you're blaming other people for you not being worthwhile talking to.
>When you try MGTOW and find out the problem isn't other people
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No.390338
>>390337
>what boy doesn't want sex?
What boy doesn't want sex with random people? Me. Sex outside a committed relationship is gross.
>It sounds like this is a you problem, anon, and you're blaming other people for you not being worthwhile talking to.
…What? Where am I blaming anyone for anything? I was just trying to find out what specifically it is about some people that makes their personality attractive so I can copy it. I'm assuming you're a massive used up whore, because people who no longer have any value left tend to be the most defensive.
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No.390339
>>390338
I'm a virgin e-cutie. And you're a sociopath. No one should help you.
I knew someone that was exactly like you and you all leech from others, give nothing back and make life miserable.
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No.390340
>>390338
>>390339
Mom, dad. Please stop arguing :c
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No.390343
>>390338
>defensive people are used up whores
wow you sound empathetic and understanding
maybe if you want people to like you more try not assuming you know everything about everyone
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No.390344
>>390339
>I'm a virgin
That doesn't mean you can't be a slut.
>e-cutie
I hope you're not saying this as in you whore yourself online.
>I knew someone that was exactly like you and you all leech from others, give nothing back and make life miserable.
But what I want to learn is how to make people feel like I add value to their lives. I want to make people happy. You're the one that's getting all aggressive and defensive because apparently I struck too close to home by mentioning sluts.
>>390343
>>defensive people are used up whores
>reversing what I said
Nice strawman faggot.
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No.390345
>>390344
>>390339
Also, it's usually the sluts who are leeches and use people until they're bored with them.
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No.390352
>>390334
>>390329
thank you for your input
>>390345
only a Sith deals in absolutes
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No.390374
>>390352
>usually
>absolute
Really?
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No.390822
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