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i think that is a bad way of doing this lad, either you are called to be a monk or you aren't it isn't a fallback because you can't find a wife. You don't have to be married to be a lay person

>>726988 (nice dubs)

It’s not a fallback, so to say. My main plan is the monastic life, but if God has other plans, I want to be open to that.

>>726991

Then go and be a monk, the fact you want to wait and see if a woman comes makes me think you aren't actually serious about it. By all means you should spend a few years discerning these things but no reason to wait till you are 33

>>726988

Don't listen to this windbag.

If you feel sympathy towards monasticism, keep that option open to yourself.

In the meantime, you should get your hands on some skills that you enjoy practicing and can help you make some money.

Don't stress yourself about women. What really turns women on in a man is confidence, stability (emotional and financial) and strength of character. develop these qualities in yourself, and women will flock to you, and you can just pick the best.

In fact, a monastic lifestyle often results in greater confidence and emotional stability, so even if you don't actually join a monastic order, maybe you could become a guest in one of the monasteries and join them in their daily routine for a month or so to see what it's like.

Also you can practice asceticism with a guide without being an actual monk, and when the time comes to make a decision between monasticism or marriage, you will have a better understanding of what you're getting into.

I would strongly encourage you to get in touch with actual monks, and ask your questions to them.

Don't listen to fools like >>726988, who would have you hesitate until the day you die. You want to know what path is set for you? Go and try it and see if it feels right.

>>727004

I'm literally telling him the opposite of hesitation. I'm also just saying what i have heard many elders say before me. But clearly you know better then them. I would encourage him to go talk to the monks they will say the same thing.

the reason i have sound harsh is because i have seen people who wanted to be monks and then suddenly they drop it all when they find a woman, if you actually had the desire then you wouldn't have dropped it for a woman.

I'm 27, thinking on doing the same. Your idea make sense.

my confirmation sponsor got married in his 50s

polite sage

>>726964

Your oath is sinful and void because it is an oath to practice heresy and monkery. You are bound by God's law to break this false oath.

>>727143

What are you on about?

Like my main issue is, shouldn't you know all about the monastery if you were thinking of joining it?

Why on earth would you make a thread here asking?

I dunno man, just thinking your "oaths" through.

>>727388

It’s a very general oath, yes, but since I cannot go to that exact monastery, I wanted to ask someone who was more familiar with the Benedictines to give me a sort of general pros and cons to see if god is truly leading me there.

>>727401

Just get in touch with an actual monk dude.

>>726964

If you join a monastery they won't accept you straight away, you will be a novice for awhile, possibly a year or more before they decide to accept you or not.

>>726995

because he waits doesn't make him not serious, perhaps he is serious in discerning his vocation.