Ok, I'm the Calvinist who made that thread asking to see if my Calvinist beliefs were compatible with that of the Catholic faith since I am sincerely considering becoming a Catholic. Since then I have done some studying and have felt that I have come closer to the faith of Catholics but there are still some issues.
Ok, so while I was reading more of the bible and talking with other, more intelligent Christians, I came to a more compatible interpretation of Romans 9. So first off we have Romans 9:22 which says:
<What if God, desiring to show his wrath and to make known his power, has endured with much patience vessels of wrath prepared for destruction,
Most people will see this as God creating people for the soul purpose of hell, hence the name vessels of destruction which coincides with the imagery used my Paul when presenting God as the potter as is as the clay. But a good word to focus on here would be "endured with much patience." The significance of this word was brought to my attention by a user on discord as claiming that God is being patient with the vessels of wrath prepared for destruction because God is waiting for their repentance. Despite their destiny for the eternal fire by God we can still infer that there was an actual possibility to actually convert even though they are vessels of wrath prepared for destruction. The user even referenced some protestant interpretation to Romans 9 to support her view. The individual even gave the example of Abraham and showed that by looking at the grammar of exodus we see that pharoah was presented as a person hardened and hostile to God has God's constant plaguing of Egypt was at first to change his heart but after was actually to destroy him. Another argument I used was pointing out Paul's utilisation of the term "call" in Romans 9:11 as well as in Romans 8:28 where we are the golden chain of redemption:
<And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
I used this to prove that the loving of Jacob and hating of Esau wasn't about nations but God actually selecting individuals for salvation and to prove not all people are called since I thought the golden chain of redemption would be weird if one who was called could then deny that. But I read just before Romans 8:28 in Romans 8:16-17 which states:
<The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. And if we are children, then we are heirs: heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ—if indeed we suffer with Him, so that we may also be glorified with Him.
This seems to state that there is a conditional requirements to receiving the gift and being considered a child of God. And so when I put this all together I come to the conclusion that we are totally depraved and incapable of coming to God as John 6:44 states, Isaiah 64:6 states and Romans 3:10-11 states and it is only by God's grace which calls us and it's only if we respond to this calling and stay in it then we can go heaven.
But despite all this we can accept that God doesn't actively damn some to hell the same way He unconditional imparts grace on to people. For example Romans 9:14-18 states:
<What then shall we say? Is God unjust? Not at all! For he says to Moses, "I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion." It does not, therefore, depend on human desire or effort, but on God's mercy. For Scripture says to Pharaoh: "I raised you up for this very purpose, that I might display my power in you and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth." Therefore God has mercy on whom he wants to have mercy, and he hardens whom he wants to harden.
Some might say that Romans 9 is talking about the incongruous nature of grace but limiting it to this would be a myopic view of what Paul is trying to state. Paul loves to use antitheticals and especially in vs18 Paul displays sides of God's sovereignty. One part His mercy and the other part His hardening. One should also bare in mind that both these words are actually verbs in the greek and shows that the same way God is gracious to some He is also actively hardening others for damnation.
I've heard some Catholics claim that although God gives all people enough grace to come to Him, He only intends some to be saved and so gives them the necessary grace to come to salvation. Is there any way this can be compatible with the Catholic faith? I'm genuinely interested in Catholicism but there are just so much scriptural passages one must deal with.