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The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?

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5adb31  No.725664

My brother came to my house and I find him extremely annoying. I hate how he speaks. I hate his face. I hate the way he kowtow to everyone he meets. Like wow he is so winnie the pooh humble

I just hate his presence and I am going angry.

What should I do?

d6bb19  No.725665

>>725664

Grow up.


5adb31  No.725666

>>725665

Really?


be381d  No.725707

>>725664

Express this to him without losing composure.

Bottling up will only make you explode and be even less charitable in the future.

Be honest about how you feel.


c497b9  No.725719

>>725707

do not do this

You have nothing to confront with him because it's entirely irrationality on your end


be381d  No.725735

>>725719

Let's assume OP's concerns are entirely irrational and only related to small things like the voice.

Even if they are irrational it's still better to let other people know rather than acting as if one feel nothing and then randomly sperging for some stupid reason.

If OP feels "uncomfortable" should let him know, otherwise OP will look completely enygmatic and this will make the situation worse in the long run.


2096fd  No.725750

>>725664

Please find 3 minutes of your day to watch this video.

https://youtu.be/7wQkF8dWGiY?t=62

Pay especially close attention to the part after 2:36


5adb31  No.725919

>>725750

I hate it


2799b1  No.725984

>>725919

I pray that the Lord softens your heart, as well as mine too. Going through a slightly different but similar situation myself.


2096fd  No.726016

>>725919

Every temptation is an opportunity to show your Love. Pray to overcome your negative feelings, trust on God, He will help.


5adb31  No.726046

>>726016

>>725984

How can I show love, when all people around me show is HATE


934fd0  No.726068

>>725919

Judging from responses like this, I'm inclined to believe at least part of your problem is your own personality. Your brother could indeed be annoying, but you probably have some things you need to work out too.


88c115  No.726081

>>726046

Start with honesty. Tell others what you feel and listen to how they feel.

Start with understanding first, instead of living closed into your mind with resentment.


2799b1  No.726100

>>726046

Why is this shifting from your issues with your brother, to the supposed hate of everyone else around you?


ae3e31  No.726101

>>726100

Because I cant love. I am the Underground man of Dostoyevsky


2096fd  No.726109

>>726046

That is a difficult question, at the very least its practical side, but it's exactly what Christ expects of every one of us.

Everyone loves their friends, but only few love their enemies.

I don't know anything about your specific situation, so it's difficult for me to offer practical advice, especially because I, like almost everyone on earth, also haven't mastered reciprocating hate with love so it would be wrong for me to act like I can teach you lessons, but the main solution always remains the same. Bring up the issue to God, formulate your problem in earnest prayer and ask for a solution.

It will still probably not all be instantaneously or miraculously solved, but if you take all the opportunities given to you, things will get better with time, either the actual extenal factor (the way your brother behaves, how much time you have to spend with him, …) or the internal factor (your own personality, how you react to his actions, …).


9d24f0  No.726124

>>725665

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12ffc5  No.726133

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>>725664

No single man "makes" any other man mad. All men instead choose to become mad of their own will.

The seeming irrationality of your attitude towards your brother suggests that deep-seated beliefs and fears are what actually lie behind it. My statement might seem like psychological mumbo-jumbo but it makes perfect sense once you understand how emotional reactions work, see the attached image, for example. You will need to reflect to come to some understanding of these underlying beliefs, there's no doubt some history behind them, and in order to give them a proper burial, because a life in Christ must absolutely reflect different attitudes and behavior. Not all, or even maybe much, of the following link will relate to you, but it's an important topic to explore, and I recommend you read it. It explores the psychology of anger from one Catholic's perspective:

http://www.guidetopsychology.com/anger.htm

Also consider what attitudes should be driving a Christian's behavior instead. Think about what attitudes and beliefs parables like The Hidden Treasure and The Pearl of Great Price are supposed to impart: "The kingdom of heaven is like unto a treasure hidden in a field. Which a man having found, hid it, and for joy thereof goeth, and selleth all that he hath, and buyeth that field. Again the kingdom of heaven is like to a merchant seeking good pearls. Who when he had found one pearl of great price, went his way, and sold all that he had, and bought it."

It's a long process, but we all have to start somewhere.




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