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The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?

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b41dd9  No.710678

THE RESPONSIBILITY IS YOURS

As someone who is quite successful in finding a wife, I seek to help my own sanity by keeping all the boohoo no-gf/waifu lamentations to one thread. You can't complain if you don't give it an honest try as anything is possible with God. I found my very own christ-chan, thank the Lord all the more for it, and seek to help you too.

PRIMER

>Become someone worthy of dating

Self esteem is not the pride of life, as we can't ever love someone else if we can't love ourselves as children and representatives of Christ.

>>>/fit/

You can't be a slob and expect to attract a 10/10, as its indicative of entitlement and egocentrism as you don't have a right to anyone's affection. A strong body requires a strong mind. Learn what your TDEE is, make a goal weight, count calories, learn to love skim milk, and do cardio and compound movements 2x/week at least and you should start seeing results in about 3 months. The person who God has for you will appreciate it, encourage it, and join you.

>Be learned and confident in Christian doctrine

Be confident in what the bible says, and its inherrent principles. A good marriage minded Christian will quiz you to see if you are legitimate in your beliefs or are just desperate for companionship. Start with the minimum of proverbs, ecclesiastes, and the New Testament. Even at just one chapter a day, this should take you about 10 months to complete.

FUNDAMENTAL CHRISTIAN PRINCIPLES

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Objectivity_(philosophy)

We serve the eternal God, who is the very essence of Objectivity by virtue of being the creator who clearly defined the reality in which we live through His intelligent design.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asceticism#Christianity

In this reality, we are called to cast aside, as much as possible, whatever seperates us from worshipping and glorifying our Objective God for our salvation via His Son Jesus Christ.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Individualism

Only Jesus can save us, but no one else is responsible for us as individuals in accepting Him as our Lord and Savior.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honesty

Defined as "fairness and straightforwardness of conduct" and "adherence to the facts." Take an honest assessment of yourself, your desires, faults, and make a plan to reach your desires by minimizing your faults. Reconcile that you will need to be just as honest about what you find to your potential mate.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neostoicism

Practicing all of the above will earn us scorn from the lukewarm and heathen alike. We are called as believers to endure the suffering of unjust criticism and the natural difficulties that come with living in a secular world.

INTEL

https://www.christianmingle.com/

>Does it cost money?

free to join, only communicating via the site/app costs money. This can be circumvented somewhat by leaving your full name on your profile and the smart ones will make their cm handle the same as their fb/ig handle.

>Which tier should I get?

3 months tops. You will either find enough suitors to keep you busy, find the one, or you will completely burn out due to lack of success.

https://www.match.com (SECULAR, free to join, claims to have the largest Christian dating pool on the net, proceed with caution and don't answer any of those stupid questions as they will be stalked)

https://www.christiandatingforfree.com (free join/message, qt vault but possible bots)

https://www.catholicmatch.com/ (Mostly for Roman Catholics, maybe you can get away with identifying as "little c"atholic if you aren't a dirty papist.)

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b41dd9  No.710680

GENERAL EXPECTATIONS AND WHAT TO WRITE

>What can I expect?

This varies on population density, as larger towns will have more "low quality" suitors and rural areas will have fewer, higher quality yet distant ones.

>What about pictures

Post pics from your social media to make you easy to identify if you're gonna be a cheap skate. Make sure the pictures show you at your best and give glory to God. If you don't have social media get your family/friends to take or scan in pictures of you in your Sunday best and business casual, nerd.

Introduction

Start with your full name and stick to facts (age, weight, height) and hobbies. List and label yourself as an "ultra-traditional your denomination" of however many years.

What You're Looking For

The following are the ideals one should aspire to in themselves and their mate, the expectation is that you look for a person who has the same shortcomings you do. Feel free to copy and paste this to your dating profile as needed.

>No Degeneracy

Illicit drug and alcohol abuse are hedonist. No drinking is best, but open to taste. Minimal secular media consumption limits the ability of the devil to work against your life. KIK/SNAPCHAT/SELFIES ARE INDICATORS OF SOLIPSISM, A HUGE RED FLAG.

>No body modifications

Tattoos, hair color changes and piercings are signs of self doubt, as the person doesn't believe that they are interesting enough on their own as representatives of God.

>Sexual Responsibility and Family Mindset

You want children and desire a traditionally Christian household. State that you don't want sex before marriage. No sex until marriage respects not just to your partner but to yourself. No fapping either.

>Sexual Roles

-Men should have a Sunday best for church (blazer, shirt, tie, slacks, and dress shoes), business and/or casual in general, and be assertive in regards to considering themselves, their woman, and the people important to each other.

-Women should enjoy wearing dresses and skirts in church and in public, use modest amounts of makeup and jewelry (if any), delight in submission, and earn respect of themselves from others.

>Misc Demographics

Recommended height up to +/- 6in or 15cm, aged +/- 5 years from each other. To taste.

Similar body types, gym/church attendance rates, intellectual pursuits, income levels, race, etc.

"OPPOSITES ATTRACT" IS A LIE

https://web.archive.org/web/20180724181848/https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/12170295/Relationships-opposites-do-not-attract-scientists-prove.html

FAQ

>What will people think?

Don't worry about it. Care about your goal of embarking on a proper Christian journey of marriage with a mate you will see as your peer.

>I can't find my denom, what do?

As long as you both believe the Nicene Creed and the Chalcedonian Definition, personal, doctrinal, and familial tastes and compromises apply.

>First date?

Coffee shop. Low investment opportunity to see if the truth lives up to the small talk.

>Fission Mailed, what do?

If you don't make a lasting connection in 3 months of honest effort, take a break, continue to improve yourself in Christ, then try again when you're further along.

>Why are girls so hard to find?

Instead of focusing on the woman, focus on making yourself the kind of man that your ideal woman wants. Stop hiding your cowardice and self hatred as inability on your part or impossibility on her part.

>What's your personal experience?

There are tons of lovely christian girls 18-25 on these sites. I was starting to burn out because I was in my late 20's and all the christmas cake on the site were either divorced, had kids out of wedlock, hit the wall, desperate, etc. If you are younger should have much more success than I did if you're just as devout. I got the six month plan, got burned out 2 months in, met a nice girl who was 3 hours away, then managed to find my waifu right before the 3 month mark, and wasted the other 3 months I paid for. I am certain that my personal adherance to all of the above mentioned was essential to my success but your mileage may vary.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO DISCUSS IN ORDER TO UPDATE OP FOR FUTURE THREADS

MAY THE PEACE OF THE LORD BE WITH YOU

DON'T BOTHER POSTING UNTIL YOU ATTEMPT THE OP, KEEP YOUR SELF PITY TO YOURSELF




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