/christian/ - Christian Discussion and Fellowship

>>707140

>Is there anyone who would even want me (I mean a decent guy) knowing all the drugs and BS i've done?

Yeah, Jesus is a pretty decent guy.

In all seriousness, hope isn't lost. You've taken the first step to admit you did stupid shit in the past. The next step is to seek forgiveness from God (protip: it's pretty easy. God really really wants to forgive you, more than you want to be forgiven)

>>707144

Jesus is amazing, but are there really other people around. I don't even want to say or i dunno, seriously i have a problem with drugs/drinking and all. Am I too far gone? Honestly.. i feel like it's not an issue until i feel like no one wants me and i go back to it and all, does that make sense. I've been like.. i haven't.. well lost it yet and all but yeah and all but i'm just.. i don't think people can get how lost i feel. Maybe i'll run back to a pile of drugs, i don't want to. Jesus is too good for me. :(

>>707145

Jesus is too good for any of us.

He didn't come to call the righteous, but for sinners to repentance, and all of us are sinners. Don't ever think Jesus doesn't love you. In fact he loves you so much he died for you.

>>707146

hard for me to understand, but thanks, i'll try to stomach this. sorry :(

>>707145

>Am I too far gone?

Nope. Jesus saved all kinds of people when he was here, including prostitutes and thieves. No matter what you've done in your past, God will always still love you.

In terms of finding a decent guy, you will. If you change then there's nothing stopping you. Obviously people can find it hard to overlook things in the past, but a decent Christian guy will be looking at someone who has changed.

Do you currently go to church?

Remove tattoos though

'Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.' (Leviticus 19:28)

>>707140

I know a few girls at my church who are like you; they have tattoos, a past history of drug abuse, slept around a bunch, etc., but have since found Christ and are trying to lead better lives. Some of those girls are my closest friends.

You could probably find a decent guy. Lots of them are willing to settle simply because there's so few girls out there who haven't done the things you've done. I'll be honest though: if you don't have a pretty face, it will be much tougher.

If you're going to college, I'd suggest you study a more feminine career; all the Christian men I know are dating/married to homemakers, waitresses, nurses, child care specialists, and so forth, not lawyers and doctors.

Go to church already, btw. The girls like you that I know poured their hearts out to me and others, and no one shamed them for their past behavior. It's what you do today that counts.

>>707140

For by a single offering he has perfected for all time those who are sanctified. And the Holy Spirit also bears witness to us; for after saying,"This is the covenant that I will make with them after those days, says the Lord: I will put my laws on their hearts, and write them on their minds," then he adds, "I will remember their sins and their misdeeds no more." Hebrews 10:14-17

Every single on of us sins and does stupid things, but if truly repentant, God won't even remember your sins.

>>707208

>willing to settle

Ok, that's just rude.

>>707214

Reality is harsh, we all have to grow up and accept it.

>>707232

I think it's better to be celibate for life than to get roped into a marriage where they "just settled" for me. A husband is supposed to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Christ didn't "just settle" for the Church.

>>707244

That's easy to say but when you're old(er) and staring down a life of solitude than "settling" might not seem so unattractive. Besides I'm not saying that you don't/won't love a person you settle with; you honestly think most people who got married in the 1st century AD were madly in love with each other? There's nothing wrong with having a marriage that is simply comfortable and familiar rather than passionate.

>>707251

So, you disagree with scripture that husbands/wives are supposed to love each other? Ok, then.

>>707244

>>707214

Harshly put, but it's true. Means different things to different people though; basically one person accepting his GF will not be the flesh and blood incarnation of Christ-Chan is wise, another person talking themselves into marrying a thrice divorced crack addict earning money by hooking is stupid. Use judgement, obviously.

Femanon if want to find decent companionship you will need to be as stable as possible, no matter what you look like. If you can present yourself as trustworthy, guys will be drawn to you. so long as you're not mean or unhygenic, obvs And if you can demonstrate you can be sane and stable, people will start to view you as trustworthy. It all falls into place on its own.

One thing I found helpful was picking out "negative role models", like, who do I NOT want to be like? And then making sure I was nothing like them. Usually friend's moms who were really off the rails; do you know anyone like that? One of the things I saw in common with all of them was degenerate behavior. I made a point of avoiding things I thought so and so's mom or my aunt would do. Eventually it led me to conclude that traditional, conservative behavior made more sense and was healthier, physically and mentally. Next thing I new I was prowling around my local church.

Tl:dr get your head on straight and things will fall together. It will boggle your mind, no joke.

>>707255

lol see only what you want to see kiddo

>>707140

>Is there anyone who would even want me (I mean a decent guy) knowing all the drugs and BS i've done?

First: God awaits you to come back. Start by going to church, confess the sins, attend the communion then. Do not justify coming back…satan wants to trick you into being proud - thinking you may deserve the forgiveness from God bby somethin you do/say. Pro-tip: No sinner deserves what he gets from God. Nobody. Only God can help you out of this. Go and pray for forgiveness.

Second: All hope is not lost. If you want a decent guy you should be a decent woman though. That means dumping all drugs, cease drinking too much.

As for the tattoos I would recommend removing them. Many guys do not like them and may discard you almost immediately if have them(I do that often tbh). Or the second option is to accept them as a mistake and be confindent about you growing out of this madness. That might be attractive to some guys. But I would strongly recommend removing them with the second approach when mentioning them.

Third: A decent Christian guy will be looking for a wise, kind woman. After you overcome those hardships by changing your ways and most importantly praying to God to help you to change, you may very well become such a woman. But first you have to become a trad girl. For now work on your relationship with Christ and things will fall into place, the guy will appear all of sudden when you're ready

Anyways. As I have said: God will give you the strength you need in confession,communion and prayer. You should go confess at first, then pray and work on getting your life in order.

No ifs and buts. Do it now. Confess. Start right now by changing the things little by little.

Good luck.

>>707255

Scripture commands you to love your wive. It does not say anything about "muh being in love".

You confuse those terms. Putting"Muh being in love" on pedestal is what is wrong with modern world.

>>707255

you can love a spouse you 'just settled' for, my friend. it takes work, but not more so than any other relationship.