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I don't get it, what are you asking? Monastic life and marriage are available, but you don't HAVE to choose one or the other, you can just be single

>>557504

Mom always tells me to become a monk if I refuse to get a wife. I for one think that it doesn't make sense. Why does she consider making a family to be a substitute for monastic life? Just asking you guys because I'm too shy to ask around. Also, asexual men are a rare breed, so there aren't many who would give a thought into this. Just in case there's someone with a similar opinion on this subject.

>>557500

You're not asexual.

You're not interested in sex with women? Go see a doctor. Even monks are still interested they just grit their teeth and clench their fists bloody fighting the urge.

If u have actually no desire you might have low testosterone levels (quite common these days) or maybe neurological malfunction, depression , who knows.

See a physician asap

>>557511

>Why does she consider making a family to be a substitute for monastic life?

Because by you perform a spiritual service through both by assisting God's children. It's the duty of God's followers to preserve his faith.

>>557525

>it's somehow a problem to never have to worry about lust

>>557532

I'm not even saying that, man. There's nothing wrong with marriage, although it apparently diminishes your focus on God.

But even after you're married, you still can fall victim to lust for other women. On top of that, you have a good chance of getting divorced or cheated on. Of course, this is assuming you can even find a Christian woman, let alone one who takes her faith seriously. Combining all these things, it seems that if one was free of the sex drive that makes marriage necessary in the first place, it would be more a blessing than a curse.

>>557539

>following God's law diminishes your focus on God

>there are no good Christian women

>sexuality was a mistake

garbage opinions. re-evaluate your life.

>>557532

You don't need to marry if you are not so inclined.

Unless you mean to suggest Christ sinned by never lusting or taking a wife.

>>557543

>following God's law diminishes your focus on God

1 Corinthians 7:32-35

"I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord."

The rest of 1 Corinthians 7 is also pretty relevant.

>there are no good Christian women

Perhaps I'm being biased. I go to an engineering school with next to no women anyway, but young people in church seem to be outnumbered by the old, and even fewer are young women.

>sexuality was a mistake

By no means. Lust was a mistake, and a very tempting one as well. It would be nice to have one less sin to have to worry about falling into.

>>557545

Sex is an inherently human trait. Marriage is our gating in and controlling of said trait, because the emotional sway of breeding is the single most powerful motivator in the human experience. To suggest that Christ was merely human is sacrilege.

>>557555

You didn't answer the question at all. Did Christ - truly man and truly God - sin by his perfect abstinence?

it's a yes or no question

>>557556

no.

All I'm saying is that marriage is preferable to monastic life.

>>557560

If it's a no, then so no man sins by abstinence. OP should be appreciative, chastity is a gift.

>>557560

Didn't Paul say the exact opposite of that?

>>557518

>>557525

I like women, but I've never masturbated in my whole life, not even once. I don't like imagining having sex with anyone either. Well, take it or leave it.

>>557526

Is it okay to have sexless marriage and adopt a baby?

>>557555

>Sex is an inherently human trait

Every living creature with more than a single cell has that trait though, it's hardly unique to human. The only unique trait is the capability to reason.

>>557563

I believe that every piece of a human's existence is a gift. But every gift carries a responsibility, and sometimes trying to find out my responsibility a kind of baffles me.

I wouldn't even consider marriage. But I don't really want to look for some order. I don't know, I will wait and see.

>>557511

She's right you know. You should at least try to find a good wife and have some kids. A family is the greatest gift and responsibility God can bestow. Giving up and embracing "asexuality" or whatever just makes you another sad modern man. Or become a monk like she said, that's a righteous path as well.

If you have no interest then you have no interest. You're relieved of the burden of women.

>>557635

>I've never masturbated in my whole life, not even once

You're lucky…masturbation turned me asexual

No. Either monasticism or marriage.

Loving a woman is the same analogy as Christ loving the Church. Marriage is extremely tough nowadays, because of less and less Christian women that understand your worldview, so getting married today is considered great and noble sacrifice in my eyes. Many saints were married. There's a very good reason Marriage is a sacrament in the Church.

But then again, protestants don't have sacraments at all.

There's a big misconception here that lust is any type of desire for a woman. Lust can happen in marriage too! Lust is just sex without love, it's just loving a woman's body, not the actual woman.

To tell you the truth, it's just the consequence of protestant mindlessness. It's because they have no tradition, and the ever rationalizing West always judges things with the mind, not the Spirit.

Marriage is a great battle full of ups and downs, so it's not in any way "lower" than monasticism.

You should talk with a priest and think about what's best for you. Although, there's a general rule that a good monk will always be a good husband, and vice versa.

>>562479

also, it's perfectly okay if you don't want sex, but if you have no drive to get a girlfriend then yes, perhaps that's not very healthy

>>566612

I like both Leone's stuff (top kino) and the more edgy spaghetti Western stuff. Bot have value in them, even if one is silk and the other is but wool.

>>557511

You should know being single outside of clergy is a valid vocation in the Catholic Church, but really you should be talking about this kind of stuff with a priest. Schedule a meeting.