/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover★

I like the idea of it, I'd definitely date an incontinent girl, but I doubt many girls would like me fetishizing their inability to hold their shit and piss. I'm sure material for this fetish is rare because most incontinent people I'd presume are embarrassed about their problems. Disabled I'm not really into though. I don't have any material to share but I'll be keeping an eye on this thread

>>74370

I've hypothesized dating an incontinent girl before, and sure it would be walking on thin ice, but I feel many would probably end up liking their incontinence being fetishised. To give a comparison in my reasoning, a fat girl would nearly be required to accept their significant other fetishises their weight to be in a sexually active relationship with them. At the end of the day, an incontinent person has to have their diaper removed to be fucked, there's no way it could be a complete turn off.

>>74372

That's a good point, I'm sure the dating pool for incontinent women is a bit smaller. I don't even know how one would meet such a woman though, I doubt they advertise it around

>>74374

> I'm sure the dating pool for incontinent women is a bit smaller.

Finding an incontinent woman is not that difficult if you don't mind age being incredibly senior, but to thin the herd to your age group and then to try to thin it further to those who are incontinent without other major disability and then those who would be open enough about it for you to sniff it out on a dating app or some speed dating service is putting odds down to some pretty deep statistical unlikelihood.

I would personally love to find a 20yo non-disabled incontinent redhead who is into ABDL but the likelihood of that existing at all let alone in my area is slim at best and most of those criterion are unknown, statistically speaking.

Forseable roadblocks to your retarded plans:

- incontinent girls are going to notice you’re fixated on their medical problem. So there goes your non-abdl girl medical fantasy

- 99% of incontinent girls are not ABDL and/or will not put up with you fetishizing their predicament

- 99% of incontinent girls avoid the kind of diapers you’re into which in the real world are reserved for the bedridden. Hope you like granny pull ups

- if you do happen to find this an incontinent girl (abdl or not) who puts up with your fetish, the odds of:

A. you actually liking her enough to stay in a relationship with her

and B. You actually being good enough for her

Are fucking slim.

Long story short start using fetish dating sites like a normal person and fuck off with this very specific scenario in your head. This is why old people get raped in old folks homes.

>>74406

>This is why old people get raped in old folks homes.

Is that what happened to you? You seem awfully bitter and angry about something.

OP will probably still struggle to find an incontinent girl who is sexually and emotionally compatible, but I don't think the odds are anywhere near as slim as you claim. You're pulling stats out of your ass because you clearly don't want OP to succeed.

>>74411

Legend mate. Ta pal.

>>74379

>non-disabled

>incontinent

you can't have both here, anon

>>74422

I meant major disability, as in something restricting movement or intelligence. Everything typical with the one difference being their incontinence.

>>74411

no, she was obviously faking it given that she very quickly set up a 'donate to pay to fix up my teeth' which never filled up so she deleted the entire blog

>>74409

>>74409

>pulling stats out of my ass

Clearly my consistent use of 99% was meant to emphasize my point. Is this really the hill you want to die on?

I’m not bitter, you guys are just autists who want to take advantage of disabled peoples legitimate suffering for your twisted needs.

Meet a girl willing to put up with your fetishes like a normal person, fagget. Of course I don’t want OP to succeed, his fixation on truly incontinent people is unnerving.

>>74411

No, aaashweeee is just another fetishist, and was lying for upcummies

>>74411

I'm pretty sure she was an ABDL looking to get orthodontic work done via donations who pretended to be IC for fans and thus money.

Recall her blog disappearing suddenly into thin air when the gofuckme or whatever failed to even hit a fraction of the goal.

Could totally do and incon gal, even outside of my obvious AB/DL kink.

Disabled though? I mean, that’s a little much. Like, occasionally changing some diapers is one thing, but someone who needs you constantly for menial tasks? Eh, I’d really need to fall for her, especially if it’s not someone I knew before what ever hypothetical event/accident made her like that.

Honestly you people would be looking for girls in wheelchairs. If your nerves are too damaged to walk, they're also likely too damaged to use the toilet. But I think most girls like that use catheter bags, not diapers. A girl who's in her 20s-30s with no other medical problems aside from incontinence would be very rare.

I don't see any inherent problem with liking a girl for being incontinent, but it's not healthy to try to build a relationship on that.

Also I feel like I read somewhere that like 33% of women are at least temporarily incontinent for some period before age 50 due to stuff like pregnancy and stress.

My best friend just married an inco-girl. She was issues with nerves and her hip-position and was forced use a wheelchair for a long period. Now she can walk again -- it still looks a bit funny, though. I could hardly hold back when he told me that she use catheters for the day and diapers for the night, especially when he said “that he does not mind when is diapered at night”.

I am still not jealous, because my wife wear diapers for fun from times to times.

>>74562

>thanos them off my computer

So you are only going to delete half of the files at random?

>>74446

Yeah, incontinent people should just stay isolated or shack up with people who resent and berate them for their issues, right? God forbid they meet someone who genuinely loves and is attracted to all of them.

>>74694

>God forbid they meet someone who genuinely loves and is attracted to all of them.

Not the anon you're replying to, but how can you say you are attracted to all of them when all you're fixated on is their incontinence?

That really doesn't sound like genuine love so much as being really turned on for an incontinent.

>>74411

Aaashweeee was best girl. RIP.

>>74712

It's almost like people have preferences or something. How can you say you like all blonde when really you're just fixated on their hair colour? How can you say you like fat people when really you're just fixated on their body weight and how it compares to a norm established by society? How can you say you have a preference for a certain type of people when it comes to sexual attraction when you just have a preference when it comes to sexual attraction?

I like how whatever anon implied that incotinent = retarded, but this board still tops alleged retardation without breaking a sweat.

>>74722

Sucks. Personally I'd be turned off that my medical condition was a massive fetish for my partner.

>>74723

Because this "preference" involves you visiting dedicated image boards sexually fetishizing part or all of their medical condition. If I had a secret fetish for blondes and only really got turned on by them then I'm dating them for the hair color, not the whole person.

>>74722

>>74723

The problem is when people with this fetish act like they have to find someone who's already into the fetish, finding relationships based on fetishes isn't smart, because love is based on more than just sexual desires. Like I've looked on fetlife and reddit and other abdl sites and a lot of the girls wouldn't be a good match for me to begin with, you have to just meet someone and if you're lucky they'll be open minded or kinky and try shit with you or if you're extremely lucky you can meet someone with the fetish but that's pretty rare unless you're very attractive or lucky

>>74742

Well, I think we went from the MEDICAL FETISH to the topic MEETING THE RIGHT PERSON. For that I can say, that after my divorce (broke up for 90% other reasons, but because of 10% she has been not at all open-minded) I decided to look for somebody that shares my fetish, because I was sick and tired of hiding something that I like too much. I looked for somebody on a fetish-board and (because I was super lucky) I found somebody that is a great person in real life AND share my fetish.

That said: If you have a strong fetish, I think it is wise to look for somebody that shares the interest.

And why not?

If you are crazy for cars, you need somebody that accepts this and -- if possible – shares the hobby.

>>74722

I for one am happy for you

Like the OP I've always thought it would be pretty cute to meet someone who genuinely needs diapers, obviously because I have a fetish, and honestly I feel like those people would be a bit more interesting long term: the only other people who do that level of diaper stuff have a tendency to be a bit…high maintenance. I can think of nothing cuter than just having someone come home, soggy and exhausted, and just watching a show or something together after a change

But as the argument points out, it's tough to approach those kinds of people without just looking like a creep. I actually see a LOT of different little stories about incontinent people complaining about dating difficulties, but I always figure they wouldn't want to hear from someone like me anyway and leave them alone, which is probably only making it MORE difficult for their dating pool, but that's kind of the gamble.

What was your experience like? Were you always "okay" with needing them? Were you approached by fetishists that pissed you off because of this? How did you meet your person?

>>74742

The problem is that for some people the fetish is their sexuality. A normalfag relationship isn't going to get as far as discussing fetishes if you aren't even interested in vanilla sex.

I would love to date an incontinent person, but ONLY if they were OK with it being a fetish for me, and with me wearing diapers as well some of the time. Preferably they would also share the fetish. I feel like you would just tell them upfront, say something like "Hi, I have a diaper fetish and am looking for a relationship, do you want to get coffee or something and see if we have anything in common? I dont want to appear rude or creepy or anything, so if you want nothing to do with me I get that and wont bother you again." or something. Probably would send this in some online thing, rather than in person though.

>>74716

ashley is still alive, she just doesn't do tumblr anymore. I talked to her just the other day.

>>74836

"Alive" meant socially active, didn't mean actually dead.

>>74736

>If I had a secret fetish for women and only really got turned on by them then I'm dating them for the gender, not the whole person.

This is really fucking retarded.

>>74786

New to this tread, but thought I would jump in. This exactly why I looked into ABDL and got involved in the community. I've been incon since childhood, and there seem to be few women into a guy who needs to wear diapers to function in society.

Unfortunately, there are fewer "mommies" in ABDL, but the 2 I've been approached by over the past couple of years have been great (just didn't work out long term due to other normal differences). Kinda been waiting for there to be an incon dating site.

Off topic: https://www.incontinencedating.com/ is not exclusively for incontinent people. It's just a marketing ploy. They through your profile into a generic dating pool. I was super pissed (pardon the pun) when I figured this out.

>>74786

Changing time is never going to be meaningful to them like it is for you. This is where your fantasy falls flat. You are going to fixate on a problem they wish they didn’t have. If they cured it you’d dump them

>>77439

Should mention that the majority of them were AB/DLs. Of the ones who weren't, only a few had a hardline "don't message me if you have a diaper fetish" stance.

I imagine a disproportionate number of incontinent dudes end up joining the dark side, especially if (like me) they were incontinent during puberty. No clue how it manifests for girls.

>>77446

Literally all I have is in that screenshot, so there's not much of a point. There were dozens of blogs that I added to ArchiveTeam's backlog instead of archiving them myself, most of which didn't get finished.

>>77483

Your best bet is to search archive,org directly. It will only search the title text. However, you may find something decent if you look through the reblogs.

https://web.archive.org/web/*/bedwetter%20site:tumblr.com

https://web.archive.org/web/*/ab/dl%20site:tumblr.com

>>77439

/r/ing some of that d1ap3r content, even though he's a guy his messing videos are insane.

>>77571

Not the other guy you’re replying to but I’ve got a question for you. I know you’re taken now but how would you feel about a guy actively untraining while he was dating you? Would it bother you that he was s willingly throwing away something you never had or would it almost be nice to have someone joining you in it if they were happy with it?

>>77571

i might be reading it wrong or i am asuming it wrong but are those pics you. i mean i seen them before and it was dude not a she and he dint have wee wee problems

>>74369 (OP)

I love this stuff, too. I had to wear diapers for medical reasons all throughout my childhood and that's actually what gave me the fetish (that, and lots of embarrassing accidents in public). Nowadays, after years of medication and treatment, I'm mostly normal (well, medically, if not psychologically) but I always have this perverse desire to pretend the old problems have come back and tell everyone that I have no choice but to wear diapers 24/7 again. Luckily, my gf is cool with the fetish, though I'd be lying if I said it wouldn't turn me on if she had to wear them for real (though I wouldn't want to inflict that on her).