>>16434 (OP)
Congratz on your nofap success, but first you need to answer a couple of questions that weren't clear, do you mean you actually don't have any sexual stimulation with her, or does it mean you two still have sex but you just have no interest in it? Honestly I didn't get what your problem was exactly.
First let me tell you that, I'm unsure about this myself, as I'm near two months nofap as well, my libido completely goes away sometimes, though I miss the intimacy dearly and definitely just the feeling of being horny with a female, so my first instance to being with an attractive female would be ram that shit so hard her legs would be trembling.
Now if you mean you just didn't have sex and you don't even get excited, that seems weird, or maybe you're just stopping her before things get heated?
Either way, I suggest you read on the Karezza method, I was thinking of making a library thread, so I might as well just do it today. The book seems to differentiate between amative and procreative sex, I think something like tantric sex, where one does not orgasm but gives more importance to the mutual feeling of the act instead. Like I've said, I'm unsure about it for myself, but I've seen this recommended quite a few times for me to consider when eventually comes my time, for one it was in the Nofap hackbook, it was also on "The Way of the Superior Man", and even other relationship related stuff.
And yes, while definitely women use sex as a sort of validation (and more importantly, to control their men), women tend to like that feeling that they squeeze out and satisfy their men, however after being intensely ravaging a woman, after you orgasm the feeling is just gone for a moment and we tend to lie back, so in a sense its also a moment they hate and feel disconnect. Think about it, as in a way she wont be as happy because she isn't squeezing all your jizz, she will be happy and respect you a lot more for being a strong man.
Either way, don't overthink it too much, if you get the opportunity just have good sex, and its not at all like regular PMO, and after all is what most of us strive to, just don't let sex take priority and control of your life.