/nofap/ - Fappers Anonymous

So you’re addicted to trap/cuck/loli/hypno/cp/interracial porn…

You probably know who you are. Most people don’t this guide, and if you’re fortunate enough to not have a sexually dysfunctional relationship with porn then you can stop reading here. For those who aren’t sure, here are some signs:

>Only being able to fap to porn that includes the fetish..

>The fetish is way more arousing than any other sexual stimulation.

>You spend multiple hours looking at or thinking about this fetish without actually fapping or trying to cum.

>You’re only interested in your other fetishes if they include this one.

>You no longer care about real sexual relationships outside of this fetish.

>You fap to this fetish multiple times a day, sometimes with only a few hours between sessions.

>You fap so much that it affects the rest of your life and the time you normally give to your hobbies, school or job.

>Seemingly random non-sexual things remind you of this fetish.

>You frequently find yourself fantasizing about this fetish in public.

>You’ve tried to quit fapping to this fetish multiple times, but you’re unable to go more than a few days. You delete your porn collection, only to start over again.

>Unlike previous fetishes, you actively try to contribute to this fetish in the form of uploading porn, compilations, fanfiction, etc.

>When watching porn of this fetish, every part of the video is arousing, including parts that you would normally skip over.

>The thoughts you have about this fetish are invasive, and seemingly occur without a trigger. They are persistent, and you almost feel helpless trying to resist them.

>You have tried “just accepting it,” but it changes nothing.

It’s easy to rationalize this and make excuses, saying “Oh, I’m not really addicted! What’s so bad about having my life be based around this fetish anyway? I can stop whenever I want!” Then why haven’t you? Why would you choose to let your life be taken over by porn? Would you really throw away everything that matters to you for this? To spend six to eight hours a day fapping compulsively? Don’t lie to yourself. It doesn’t have to be this way.

Despite what some people will tell you, this is NOT normal. Wanting to take your life back from a fetish that has completely consumed you doesn’t make you a religious bigot, someone in denial of their “true” fetish, sexually naive, or a traditionalist. These people hold ideologies that don’t allow them to admit that sexuality can be dysfunctional, and therefore they can’t admit that you are in pain and have a problem. They can’t even fathom what you’re going through right now, and both them along with others like you who have given up will tell you that it’s impossible, and that being a compulsive porn-addicted masterbator is just who you are. That’s bullshit.

You can quit this. You can get your life back. But if you’re going to quit, you have to start now. Not later, not tonight, not after one last fap. You have to start right now and say that you’re done forever. There is no point where you can look at it “safely” again. There’s no “safe” amount. This fetish has been so ingrained in you through repeated enforcement that even seeing something that reminds you of your fetish will flood your brain with it. The neural pathways surrounding this fetish have been given constant stimulation, to the point that they will literally force themselves upon the rest of your thoughts if they go too long without it. Their sheer activity has caused them to become tangled with the rest of your mind, resulting in unrelated thoughts becoming associated with them, and the rest of your mind being overshadowed by them. The first thing you must do is starve them.

You should know that this will be one of the hardest things you will ever do. It will be painful, and it will take years. But at the end, you will be free, and will have saved yourself from a lifetime of being a slave to this fetish. Start first by not just quitting the Internet, but quitting electronics. Let a friend or family member hold onto your computer, phone, or whatever else for a few months. If you need a phone or Internet connection for work, buy a burner phone or go to a library. This is important; the withdrawals will be so strong, that they will compel you to seek out your fetish. You have probably tried to make it before on willpower alone and failed multiple times now, so don’t leave this up to chance.

You can expect severe withdrawals within the first few days. There will be points where your brain will literally be flooded with your fetish. Don’t try to dwell on it, relieve it, edge or masturbate, because this will only enforce it further. Recognize that the thoughts are separate from you, and that it’s not who you are. These thoughts might seem relentless, but they will pass. This phase is different for everyone, but is usually over in anything from a few days to a week. However, the withdrawals are not over. Even after the initial week, expect there to be sudden, seemingly random pangs to go back to the fetish. On top of this, there will be periods similar to the initial withdrawals every three to five weeks where your brain is again flooded by the thoughts. Know that they are coming, and be prepared to wait for them to pass; they will cease entirely after about a year.

During the withdrawals, your mind will tell try to set things up in order to both make you relapse and avoid any guilt. For example, you might get the sudden temptation to go on a website where your fetish is usually posted, just to “see something funny really quick” or “see if anything new has been posted.” Suddenly, your fetish is triggered and you relapse again, but your mind rationalizes this as not being your fault. “It was a complete coincidence, I couldn’t help it. It’s not like I could prevent it from happening again!” Parts of your mind, desperate for stimulation, will resort to any means available to make you relapse. Be aware of this and criticize their excuses. The rest of your brain outnumbers these sick neurons, and once you realize their tricks then they don’t stand a chance.

There may be a lot of nonsexual things that remind you of your fetish. These might include phrases, songs, places, people, objects, shapes, and so on. If you find something that triggers your fetish, either discard it or avoid it. If it’s something you can’t ignore, like a person or your body, be aware of the effect it will have on you and prepare to resist the trigger before interacting with it. Notice how the urges are separate from the object itself as you fight them, and how they have twisted the object into a false perversion of what it really is. Eventually, these objects will go back to appearing non-sexual to you, but it will take time.

You can take the risk of using your computer again after about four or five months, but even then you should avoid forums, imageboards or any other sites with images of porn that will trigger you for at least another three months. Know that you never become completely immune to the addiction; even years later, you can still relapse and a dead habit can become alive and strong again in an instant. It may get easier with time, but this addiction will leave a lasting scar on your psyche. The urges will go away, but the potential for these neural paths to form again will be there forever. However, with the strength of your will you can beat it.

I have to agree with everything you said and I like your approach. Recently relapsed after reading articles about how porn pulls blood from other parts of the brain to feed the craving. I did push ups, squats, and lunges and I still fired up my browser to fap. I'm gonna give up on my computer for a while and leave the chans alone too. I want my sanity back

you are right, I will escape the black hole of debauchery that is my lust

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>>13135

Good luck to you both. It's hard, but you'll quit it. I'll be lurking if you need any help.