/girltalk/ - Girl Talk

>>11967

>They

Is he still using the same forum after almost a decade? Kek.

>>11973

Nah, found their facebook.

Sobered up now, back to not being sad over them.

>>11967

Happy birthday anonette.

>why did it fuck me up?

Some people never get over their first love.

So, basically you broke up because you cheated on him?

And You're making yourself the victim because it happened a day *after* your birthday?

Honestly, when the relationship's over it's pretty rare I want to maintain contact with an ex. There's only one ex I have I kind of want to contact, and it's not for romantic reasons. We talked for like six years. I was used to looking for stuff for her. Shows, video games, clothes, just things she'd like. I got OCPD, so it bugs me. Every so often I'll find something and be like "Oh, she'd love this." and I'll just sit and stew because I can't contact her. It was a bad relationship, and if she isn't in one right now she'll think I want to get back together. I don't, I'm not single, but it's like I dedicated a chunk of my brain to her and it's still running.

Like, shit I'll just vent here. I watched The Sopranos some time back, she likes violence and angry dudes and gore. I think she'd really enjoy the sub-plot about Johnny Sack and his wife. The short version? He basically starts a war over someone in another crew making a fat joke about his wife. His wife is quite morbidly obese, it's true, but he loves her. And she's always buying all these diets to lose weight, so it pisses him off because he feels it's insulting her efforts. Then one day he comes home and he stumbles onto her eating junk food out of her secret stash. They have a big fight, but in the end he tells her he didn't care. He never wanted her to lose weight, he loves her just the way she is, and they hug. And then realizing he's been a fool, he calls off the war. Calls off a hit seconds before it would have happened.

Or like she always liked jiggly cutesy monsters in games ya see, like Studio Ghibli shit and the that copy of Digimon Ditto, the Slime from the Dragon Quest games. So, I'd love to be able to tell her about Slime Rancher, the game pretty much looks like it was made for her.

That's the other dichotomy, while she likes gory morbid shit she can't handle any harm coming to animals. She actually used to walk out of movies if something happened to an animal. She can't handle it. The other day I was googling some horror movie, and I found a sister site called dayoftheanimal.com. It's run by a bunch of women similar to her. They love horror movies, but can't stand harm coming to animals. So the point of the website? They attempt to watch every horror movie ever made and provide content warnings for violence to animals. She would *love* that site.

Oh well.

>>11980

Maybe you should tell that girl you want to make things work again?

I know you want it.

If i was you, i'd burn every last memory i had of her.

>>11977

>Some people never get over their first love.

Perhaps we didn't evolve to fuck random people, but instead pair bond with one person for life. Each sexual partner reduces the ability to pair bond significantly until there is nothing left.

>>11982

We know that, m8, but srsly no Larping, also some relatioships are just fucked.

Besides, you are gonna trigger some people around here with this, and we both know how fragile some "girls" and white knights can be around here.

>>11977

Not just that- even if it's someone you now have no feelings for (or even hate) the memory of what you used to have might be enough to trigger an emotional response.

Putting down old Yeller will still hurt no matter how rabid he is and how much damage he did- since you remember him being fun & playful and nice.

Likewise, even if a parent fucks you up and you no longer care, it can still sting when you talk down to them.

And of course, people hate rejection/shutdown- even if it's from a source they shouldn't care about. It's like being turned away from a job you know you're not qualified for or someone after the first date they don't want to see you again- being told "I don't want you" hurts us on a primal level since we're social- even though we know logically that person/community would make us miserable if we were forced to hang out together.

>>11967

While it could be because he has a genuine reason to not wanting to see you again, it can also be laziness. I.e. fear of you wanting to reestablish a relationship or being bitter. He doesn't know you now, and doesn't want to try and find out why you're talking to him now.

On Grindr, I tend to block guys flirting with me who I don't want to speak to. I'm sure a polite "I'm not interested" wouldn't go down poorly 90% of the time, but it's just easier for me to slam the block button

Sounds pretty petty, but could even be because he has a girlfriend and he doesn't want her to see messages from the ex.

End of the day- you have not lost a potential friend or chance to rekindle an old flame. You have safely cut off a route that wasn't worth traveling, so you can focus on ones that are.

>>11980

>So, basically you broke up because you cheated on him?

>And You're making yourself the victim because it happened a day *after* your birthday?

What are you talking about? Also, funny story, I was the one who was cheated on in that relationship. I stayed perfectly faithful the entire time. And my birthday had nothing to do with the breakup, it just happens to be today.

>>11989

We've both moved in these last 9 years, we no longer live near each other. I was simply interested in how life had been, which is part of why I was confused I gave a shit.

Honestly I think a safer explanation would be that I drank hard soda followed by rum which typically gets a sadder drunk out of me that wants to mope.

>>11995

If you were the one that got cheated on why won't he have a thing to do with you nine years later? Why would you reach out to a douche that cheated on you after so much time? Have some self-respect.

…Does your name start with an A?

That's the horrible error number 3

You never contact an ex again. That's why its over.

>>11980

Autism.

She never said anything about cheating in that post, what the hell are you on about you huge incel.

>>12000

Aww, sweetheart, you do know what question marks are for don't you silly? It would be awfully dumb to make an assertion like that as if you didn't know they meant a question was being asked, but you're no where near that massive a retard I'm sure right dear?

I asked it as a question. Why else would she be contacting him after nearly a decade and him immediately block her as soon as he found out who she was? In most cases I can think of that's how it would play out. That's how it's always worked with me. I have never once reached out to a girl that cheated on me, but they often years later will reach out to me. So I was asking *IF* that's the situation.

In fact the text struck a cord because while I haven't been contacted on facebook -as I haven't logged into the site in at least months- it sounds remarkably similar to an ex I had, exactly nine years ago. I caught her cheating on me, she denied it but I cut contact with her and moved on and started dating someone else like a month later. Like three months later she messaged me frantically claiming I was the one cheating on her in this new relationship, and I just messaged her and said "How in the hell can I be cheating on your three months after you dumped me when I caught you with <guy's name>?" In the years since she would pop up every few months. I actually deactivated my okcupid account because she was using it to track when I was single. I got an e-mail message once that just read "So you're never going to talk to me again?" I never replied.

This girl's circumstances, reaching out to an ex from so long ago, her reaction, it reminded me so much of that situation so I *asked* if she cheated on him. Why would she go to the lengths of tracking down the facebook of a guy who cheated on her nearly a decade ago?

>>12006

>"This happened to me, so it's likely that it happens to everyone"

Dude, your anecdotes do not reflect what could happen in every outcome. I think that's kind of obvious. Maybe she tried to contact him just to actually check on him? Like how old school friends get in contact with people they used to study with. Doesn't sounds weird or farfecthed to me at all.

>>11995

>Honestly I think a safer explanation would be that I drank

Well that pretty much explains why it fucked you up. If you were sober it's just "what a dick."

Drinking can go either way for me, usually "embarrass myself" or "mopey fuck"

There's also the tipping point where everything is alright with the confidence boost but the amount of alcohol to get and stay there isn't doesn't really count as "drinking" imo.

>>12013

I just mentioned what happened to me because I could almost believe she *is* that ex. I'm not using it as the basis for believing that's what happened, I'm just looking at it logically from my perspective.

Why would she pine after this guy for nine years, reach out to him and then immediately be blocked when he discovered who it was? That makes me think there's more to it. Now granted, it could be a number of possibilities, but it's the combination of her reaching out to him after nine years after searching her up on facebook, and him responding nicely until he found out who she was and then immediately blocking her. There has to be a reason for this, more than she previously stated.

Why is she skill interested in him after nine years?

Why is he so angry with her she doesn't want to even talk to him?

Every scenario I can think of sounds like she did *something* wrong. It has nothing to do with gender either. What would you think if a guy was dumped nine years ago, then after stumbling onto old messages searched for his ex's phone book, didn't mention who he was, and then as soon as the ex found out who he was she instantly blocked him.

I could be more specific with possibilities, but everything I can think of sounds kind of insulting. Cheating on him just sounds like the most likely situation to me.

>>12006

>>12030

>>11980

tl; dr

If i was bo i would have long banned you for being obnoxious

>>12040

I have to agree.

>>12040

>>12065

I mean I could unironically have banned him at any time I just… don't really care if someone wants to try to insult me I guess.

I'm still enjoying that birthday though.

>>12067

It's not all about you, are you dense?

I'll post my opinion on metatalk since i don't wanna make this thread worse than it already is.

Happy Birthday.

About to be 29 on Saturday. Fuck me.

>>11967

Sounds like the problem is you and his rejection made you subconciously aware of your own shortcomings.

>>12109

>29 years of AGE

Any woman above the age of 25 is literally worthless. I can't get erected by older females. The most perfect age for woman is 12 - 23.

sage