I /fit/ and work hard, to be a man.
I don't want to follow what women want men to be, meaning just a cash machine bringing them material security, while men being totaly subverted by them.
I just want to be a honorous man. That's what real women (that nearly don't exist anymore, because their fathers weren't real man either, or got scammed by public schooling) would want from a man.
Moreover, a real man have to be self suficient. Not at all that he have to live alone, but that he actually can. So you have to stop chase, and let the happening happens.
Working and /fit/ just to get girl is retarded. That may gives you one, but definitively not make you a man, if you don't take the problem with maturity.
Don't be superficial. You, if you are capable, build yourself a philosophy, a general culture about history, litterature etc…
I'm not talking about spirituality, because it's not like the world in the most anti-spiritual ever, but spiritual virility is incredibly important. Actually (and I'm taking from Evola, even though I don't agree with everything, like the fact that you should not use religion to makes you get high spiritual level but whatever), what's truly makes you a man is to have a greater spiritual potential than women, and that's why that in a traditional system, when everything is calibrated towards tradition, man are considered superior to woman (read Evola if you need more). That's why I would say that being as close as you can from your true self is actually having as much spiritual virility as you can.
Or just embrace nihilism, get /fit/ to fuck, get drunk, get as much money dominating every people you can, and destroy to make up for your existencial crysis.