/fit/ - Fitness, Health, and Feels

>>133528

motivational speakers/puas/charismafags are dogshit also

Theres not really a shortcut. Just like you need to pick up heavy things to make gainz you will need to pick up heavy feels and force yourself to be social.

>>133531

Can confirm, don't stoop to the level of normalfags but put slowly yourself out there anyway.

Controlled progressive overload to improve social skills, same as anything else.

>>133557

ok mayng, redpill me on eye contact pls

is it ok to look people in the eyes or is it rape? is it gay to look a dude in the eye when talking to him? do i just stare people in the eyes or what?

>>133565

lol, Mexico. Asiatic people (includes Central Americans) don't do eye contact as much as those of European descent for whatever reason. There may be conflicting cultural notions of appropriate eye contact in your society because of all the Spanish blood in your country. This isn't an inescapable fate. But anybody trying to force that behavior on you just doesn't get it, and judging by your response, you don't get it either. I wouldn't fixate on it, as you probably don't have the background context to understand what it's about. Feel free to try it, but forcing it will cause problems, as it can be a good experience for you and a bad one for the person you stare at. It's a mutual activity. If you're able to do it, it will just happen naturally, and it will make sense.

>>133566

thanks bro

>>133528

>force yourself to be social.

This is your answer, OP. Immersion therapy cured me of most of my social anxiety.

I stopped having anxiety since I lemontekked a 1/4oz of shrooms in 2012 but that's probably brain damage don't do that OP

>>133576

This is sadly the correct answer. No silver bullet.

>>133586

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/210962

Old article, but heavily cited if you want backstory

Subjectively, I was having a very rough time in my life, my father had died recently and my anxiety (diagnosed general anxiety disorder, ADHD, and aspergers in 5th grade) which had been apparent and managable throughout my teenage years, became a crippling pathological feature.

I ended up buying a 1/4oz of shrooms, dosing them in 2oz of lemon juice to strip the phosphate group from the psilocybin to get the more active psilocin, and laid down in a dark basement listening to a FSOL BBC Radio1 mix, and controlled my breathing and meditated. Dosed at 21:30 10 October 2012, and I quickly fell into a trance and could not move.

Three experiences I remember distinctly among the things I saw were:

>I was floating in a void space filled with faces, a blue face decended into my own and my sense of body was gone, and I experienced a whirl of imagined perspectives and patterns and identified with all of them

>there was a curtained stage, and actors who were me acted out various roles and conflicts; I saw this from the actors' various perspectives, and I also saw it from the audience.

>trip ended in peaceful, hopeful visions of projects I want to pursue, wishful things that I found interesting: vertical hydroponic farming, solar power collection grids, data centers, piloting aircraft, building a house

I woke up from my experience at ~03:45

I came away from this with a sense of how much I was emotionally self abusive and how I somehow lost sight of the future in my life. I threw up after standing up, cried hard, gave myself a hug and meant it, then went outside to look at the stars.

I haven't lost the same feeling of being able to make the best of life I first felt at the moment. It has decreased in intensity, but not left me. Your milage may vary, and I don't recommend it, but it did work for me.

>>133531

>Theres not really a shortcut. Just like you need to pick up heavy things to make gainz you will need to pick up heavy feels and force yourself to be social.

This.