/fit/ - Fitness, Health, Exercise, Dieting, etc

>>130968

>So how often should you be having sex in a relationship?

For additional perspective, it may help to put your question next to other questions:

• How often should one be having sex in a relationship?

• How dependent should a grown man be on others for direction?

• What manner of knowledge could third parties possibly possess that could help one decide the frequency of sexual activity optimal for any given individual other than themselves?

>>130968

as many as possible

Women are whores and they put out early-on to make you think you're getting a good deal, then dry up once they've got you "locked in" somehow, whether it's moving in together, sharing bills or assets, an engagement, a bastard child, whatever. Love isn't real. If she's not fucking you anymore, she's probably already moved on to the next guy and you're just free meals.

This is just the nature of women it seems, I can't explain it any other way. I fucked my gf 3-5 times a day during our first 6 months, a couple of years later we're down to 4 times a fucking year. The >tfw no gf fags don't know how shit it really is.

Haha, you youguns don't know about the Coolidge Effect even though you really really should:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect

>>130978

tfw no gf here, I'd rather have sex four times a year, than not once in my entire fucking life. Honestly I'm not even that into the constant fucking, I just want someone to appreciate my existence. Living alone and decorating for the holidays to stave off depression, only to find that decorating for nobody is even more depressing, is a special hell.

>>130980

>I just want someone to appreciate my existence.

Women appreciate your existence for how useful you are to improving their existence. If it's genuine affection you're looking for, learn to appreciate yourself since nobody else will except for your mammy or a dogger maybe.

>>130978

Break up with her. Value yourself.

The only time a girl tried to restrict sex with me I broke up with her, and she began fucking me as a friend for a few weeks to try and get me back. I didn't take her back.

Either she likes you or she doesn't, if she isn't fucking you she's fucking someone else.

Now. That being said it also depends on your libido and patience. I usually restrict the time I spend with a woman to one or two days a week so I don't get tired of her. And unless were out, going to the movies or something, sex is mandatory for the relationship to continue.

So, I guess one or two times a week would be the minimum.

Although I dream of a wife and kids, I still don't have the patience to share a house with a woman.

>>130976

This.

>>130981

Also this.

>>130968

You need to be alpha bro

Tell her you'll kill her if she doesn't give you ass

This will make her wet

>>130968

that is normal OP, relationships start hot and tend to cool off when you get more comfortable and accustomed with one another

once or twice per week is perfectly fine, once you get regular sex you lose the drive to have crazy sex all the time

on the other hand you might be settling into a routine, where you both know what to do and how to please more the partner

its also worth noting that you should lose your masculinity, if the relationship loses polarity then you have real problems

make sure to identify when she being a bitch and throwing bitch test, and make sure you turn it around and light her up

you know, that usual "no I totally didn't want you to throw me in the bed and ravage me like a savage"

on the topic too, this is also the part of the relationship where you can experiment with stuff,

getting new lingerie and hot toys, just go wild.

>>130968

Dread game is what you're looking for.

As little as possible,relationships based on sex never work,you should only have sex if you are planning to have children.

>>130968

once you have babbies there's barely any time or privacy to have sex anyway.. besides, the older you get the less sex drive you have and once you get over 50 your wiener will eventually start having trouble.. you think those elderly couples you see at the park are banging every night? probably not, enjoy it while you can

Seek someone to fuck at the side.

All relationships cool off and "business-bore-mode" sets in.

Women are moslty unstable, snappy bastards who can feel that the adventure/romance/ignition has worn off and there's no "unknown variable" anymore… so sex ceases. You can do something out of the norm and "retake" her make sure that she sees that, for example, other women are interested in you… any woman takes that bait.

There are of course couples who have sex regularly until they die, but many modernized women see pussy as gold and hope that they can hop onto a more promising train while still young enough.

I'm about to reach the year with my partner and sex is as fresh as the first day but… sometimes i get tired of it, is normal because i want to talk about feelings or because hormones for IUD birth control colateral effects, pills and all the stuff that makes her infertile drown up her libido BUT if this not the case, as a couple, you should found some places to have sex, go on a trip helps a lot to relight the fire if you really love this person/want a serious relationship.

>>136405

some new places***

>>130995

based /pol/and tbh

>>130968

>sexless marriage

Sorry bro but that’s all marriages. She either fucks another guy or has a dead vagina. Once she has your beta bux she doesn’t put out.

Then again I haven’t have sex in 14 years and I’m doing fine. Holes are overrated

>>136411

>Then again I haven’t have sex in 14 years and I’m doing fine.

Hope you are 14yrs old bro. Otherwise monk?

>>130978

Kick her out, look for fresh meat. Why are you staying for 4x a year? I start to go slowly insane after two weeks. Mmm, slim granny on the street looking pretty hot.

Sex is for making kids. If you're not making kids it's useless.

Stop being such a degenerate faggot that you live for your cumsies. The woman you have lose all the respect for you and will not put out because they don't want to bear your children.

Stop being a faggot in other words. Grow up.

>>136418

>monk

>almost 40

tbh I got laid a few times in my 20s. then after losing my job and being NEET for a few months I got desperate. took the village bicycle out for drinks to get a slump buster. after listening to her dumb ass for over an hour i was so turned off i couldn't get hard. realized then and there, there are better things to do with my life.

My ex and I were together for a year and a half. After two first month of getting to know each other and starting to have sex we'd usually have it once a week and we didn't live together. Each at our parent's house. If we did live together it would have probably been more often but we're not together any more.

I'm glad and I'm gay and I don't have to deal with women

>>136446

you have to deal with aids though

>>136447

I don't have sex with random strangers.

>>136451

Yeah but you have aids.

>>136452

I don't, but you're a faggot. bigger than any gay guy on this site.

>>136453

I'm a big guy.

>>136423

2/3rds of them are exactly identical; if you lean back in your chair, you can't tell the difference. They're basically the same thing anyway, like German-Slavic mestizoes.

>>136458

Get some glasses

>>136454

4u

never leave a bane post hanging

polite sage

>>136515

She looks like a raider from Fallout 3 or something

>>130968

>got a bag of beans and a jar for a wedding gift, along with instructions

>says "in the first year of marriage, every time you have sex, take a bean from the bag and put it in the jar"

>"after the first year, every time you have sex, take a bean out of the jar"

>tfw it also says "no one ever empties the jar"

in the real world, you're supposed to progress from sex to love and have some kids with her during that time.

there is no "solution" and to even ask the question is to accept the premise that getting laid in and of itself is the purpose of life … which it isn't.

>>136522

just my type

>>130968

Once the honeymooon period is over two or three times a week is good until you have your first kid. After that good luck. Work and the kids will leave you too tired. Think things will get better once they are in school? Tough shit you better damned well be talking to them and helping them with their school work every night so they don't end up a mouth breathing retard who gets their opinions from the talmudvision. Honestly your parents and your inlaws are going to be a God send when it comes to keeping the relationship healthy. Once a week when the kids stay over with family for the night so you and the wife can unwind and talk is important as fuck. It is way to easy to get caught up in day to day life that you end up losing touch with the person who is closest to you. Even if your day off is just sitting around listening to music and drinking while you discuss absolutely pointless shit it is crucial that you stay on the same page. It's a cliche because it is true; Marriage is a partnership and you both have to work at it or it will fail.

Every so often though you get a really god damned good pump in and you can feel that test surging again like when you were 18 and you send the kids to family for the night and get in a good six or seven rounds. That is just the tightest shit and you are guaranteed a good month easy of lovey dovey wiffy and no complaining about dumb shit.

>>136531

>in the real world, you're supposed to progress from sex to love and have some kids with her during that time.

In the real world, virgins wouldn't bless us with their sage wisdom on marriage and sex. But here we are on 8chan.

>no one ever empties the jar

I have easily emptied the jar with just this past year. This is /fit/ isn't it? Three cockblockers running around too.

>>136531

>the premise that getting laid in and of itself is the purpose of life … which it isn't.

But it quite literally is, everything in human biology and civilization is based around propagating your seed and seeing your offspring flourish

>>136545

No, since then it wouldn't exist such things as creating unhealthy children by leaving them to single mothers and you can't possibly devote time and energy to several different families you've created. I really loath you PUA-faggots who thinks they know shit by spouting evolutionary-theories like they matter. What matters and is evident is that the amount of social and mental problems single-parent kids get, which is enough evidence that you shouldn't just run around and pump women with your seed. There is also indicators like the more sex you have, the less likely will it make you to feel a bond to that person which again leads back to unhealthy offspring. Couple it in with the amount of STD's it creates by fucking around and various more ancient knowledges and wisdom from places like religion and myth-stories and fables and everything basically tells us the magical middle road is to find a good woman, make her into a good wife and raise your children properly.

I just loath PUA-faggots like you. You're unread and just plain stupid with your animal-analogies.

>>136567

Take the blackpill

>>136564

>zucked tier:

paying for you wife's black son/adopting african pets

>incel/soyboy tier:

Never reproducing

>nigger tier:

impregnating as many random women as possible

>Aryan Tier:

Carefully selecting a good woman, or 3 having a moderate amount of children a dozen should do and raising them to the ideal.

>>136567

>those glasses

>not a crazy slut

>>136405

>Giving your GF those pills.

Anon, they are not healthy.

As a married woman i can go weeks without feeling any need to do anything. I just dont care. But after a while i will just get… Bitchy. Dick is the only cure for bitchy. Anons you NEED to give girls dick. Even if she doesnt feel like it, make her feel like it. Especially if shes being bitchy for no reason.

Most women dont realize this. Like sometimes ill be in a bad mood for no reason. Then i remember dick. Then everything is okay.

>>136986

>female here gaiz

>>>/rp/

>>136815

>being this much of a concern faggot

>>136986

How do you give dick to an unwilling gf and not end up in jail? I swear I should just grab her by the hair in bed one night after she says she's not feeling it, and just do whatever I want.

Or would a "softer" foreplay route be the better option? Massage->Foreplay/Teasing->Sex or just straight up Aggression/Manhandling->Sex? How do you warm up a cold fish?

>>137002

There's degrees of no.

I find if you are forceful, a soft no ("I don't really feel like it", "I'm tired.", "I need to shower") can often turn into an OK. You need to be comfortable being strong and being forceful.

If it's a flat out "no" then walk away. Don't be a pussy and ask though, just go for it, take what you want.

Well you gotta do something to make her wet. If it's dry then it's pretty much rape because both body and mind are saying no. But if body is wet then mind with change. If she's sleepy than just be gentle, bitches can still take a dick when they're half asleep as long as their wet. If being rough makes her wet, than what ever.

Brain knows that sex is nice and good. But if body is not wet then she will "not feel like it." Unless she's the one randomly jumping on you she will NEVER feel like it.

Here's some insight that makes no sense to men, you have to groom her. Make sure she feels pretty ALL THE TIME. Make sure she shaves legs, brushes hair, sleep in underwear instead of lame pjs. What ever SHE defines as being pretty make sure she is. Somehow feeling pretty makes wet. You can't just say she's pretty, she knows she's not.

Ya'll think a bitch gets dressed up because she wants dick. NO. She wants dick because she got dressed up.

Google agrees with me

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-terri-orbuch/a-hidden-reason-for-low-s_b_837530.html

>>137017

Fuck you Peterson, I'm not buying your shitty personality tests

>>137023

>anime poster writing several walls of text on how to deal with women

>implying I'm gonna read that

>>137017

>having sex in a bedroom

never gonna be a chad

>>137002

>>137003

>>136986

I think a lot of men, and women, too, don't understand that the root of no sex is really emotional. If a woman doesn't feel emotionally connected to you or positively reinforced by you, she won't have sex with you.

Ask her how her day was and actually listen. Find out what worries her and don't try to fix it for her or offer solutions, just tell her that in her situation you'd feel the same and that you're sure it'll be okay, and she can do it. It sounds counter intuitive and tends to enrage men, but it's what works with women.

An emotional bond creates comfort that can ease you into foreplay. Otherwise, any attempt at foreplay will be perceived as you bugging her or ignoring her initial "no".

If I don't feel like having sex with my husband it just means I'm too wrapped up in things in my own head, and I'm nervous about life. Easing that through talking it out and being reassured really helps.

Dick helps, too.

>>137033

how is talking for 5 minutes and then going to the toilet to fuck an "emotional connection"?

>>137028

Do what you want. It's good advice.

>>137033

>Be nice to women and they will have sex with you.

>Am a woman.

Now why would any of us ask a fish how to catch a fish? You don't ask a fish, you ask a fisherman. Twat.

I have gotten far more action in my time being a dick than being nice. Being nice turns off the tingles instantly.

>>130981

Alternatively, if you are into gay shit you can try that. Some men seem to share a genuine connection.