/femdom/ - Femdom

This would be quite a while ago now, but back when I was in high school there was this girl. I can't remember exactly how everything started, but she would call me her little boy and would lightly slap me and pull my hair. She wasn't mean or anything, it was like she enjoyed doing it and knew I enjoyed it too so it wasn't anything serious.

I had another friend who would make me massage her feet, or would rest her feet on me whenever. Stood on me a couple times. Nothing came out of it, I moved out of the province and lost contact with them.

>>7673

>especially if she´s slightly taller or older

Year older, about a head and a half shorter than me. Used to carry her around sometimes too, which was fun. I remember she was good with her hands, like making crafts and stuff like that. We would help each other in school, she basically got me through my art classes while I would help write essays and the like.

>>7672

I've never done too many things online (8chan being the first place I've posted a lot on). What was it like meeting her, both online and in person? If you don't mind me asking for a bit of a story.

>>7671

I had similar experiences in high school. There was one girl who would always slap my butt, tickle me, try to get guys to hold me down while she tickled me, etc.

>>7685

Did the other guys help her out? Honestly, I would feel a bit out of place if it were to involve other people like that… how did it all start between the two of you?

>>7682

No reason to be sorry! It was an inspirational story to say the least. What was it like for you, meeting her for the first time?

>>7670

>How do you even get a dominant women in real life? Has anyone of you ever achieved such a miraculous thing?

I had a brief thing with this domme where she tied me up and made me drink beer from a dog bowl naked while she watched a movie and then gave me some light cbt but she was…. well… ugly and I had nothing in common with her as a person. Because of those aspects, I couldn't bring myself to continue doing anything with her,I felt embarassed to be seen with her in public and I couldn't imagine introducing her to any of my friends. I met her at events I found on FetLife.

The femdom itself felt amazing though. Like I finally getting to be open and free about myself.

Other than that, I used to do a lot of orgasm control with one of my exes and it was fucking incredible but she was mostly a sub and I usually had to domme her (which I am good at because I know what subs enjoy but doing that doesn't turn me on at all). I met her at parties in college.

>>7670

I've had a few experiences.

First time was pretty mediocre. Met her on CL, she was an older woman, married to a diabetic who had erection problems, so she was more fixated on having vanilla sex with me than anything, but it was hot when we finally got to the femdom part, just very brief. It was mostly me following her around with a collar/leash.

Then another woman I met through a girlfriend. The woman had a master but she was a switch herself. It was actually a weird scenario how we met without my girlfriend present but I won't go into details unless anyone just wants to know. Anyway she was big into playing with my nipples (which I found makes me diamond hard) and pegging me (which I found makes me cum buckets). She ended up getting with her ex husband.

>>7705

Me again. If you don't mind telling, I would love to know.

>>7724

Guess there isn't a lot to it. I already knew the woman a little from seeing her hanging out with my girlfriend here and there but didn't know her well, other than my girlfriend telling me she was into kinky stuff. Anyways my girlfriend had to go to some family reunion and wanted me to watch her cat and told me to stay at her place while I was gone, which was convenient since it was near my work. Well normally the other woman (Lisa) took care of her cat while she was gone. So when I came home from work that first day, Lisa was there. After a while of talking, she kind of opened to me, and she showed me text messages from my girlfriend that she was cheating on me, it wasn't just a family reunion she was going to, and maybe I could try something different… we just talked a lot, and things gradually became kinkier. I didn't feel bad about my girlfriend when I found out she was cheating on me anyway.

I sometimes read blogs and accounts written by prostitutes. It's generally about what you'd expect. Prostitutes are pretty much just normal women who deal with sexually abnormal men, so when they are honest can be a pretty good reflection of how a normal woman would react to abnormal things..

This is an amphetamine junkie prostitute's account of the more unique experiences in her job:

https://www.alternet.org/story/147549/the_strange_things_men_pay_prostitutes_to_do

> Not like the extremely icky guy I had yesterday whose house I had to go to. Even though he had a nice house and seemed like he might have a normal wife, he wanted me to strap on a dildo and tell him how tight he was. I could not do this work straight.

>Another one that makes me sick is […]

The very worst, most disgusting, most sickening thing. Nothing else in her three part account gets quite that response. And this isn't exceptional. Well, it is actually sort of exceptional, most pros don't think so kindly as this one does of the clients who crave affection above all else. But femdom usually hits a disgust response even when those guys are completely removed.

I don't think getting a relationship with a woman who is into it by nature is very realistic. The prodommes exist for a reason. And trying to push the idea onto a woman who isn't into it, even if she is a hardened and cynical individual, seems likely to be giving them the worst sexual experience of their entire lives. Men who say "you can turn a normal girl into a domme" are probably as self-deluded as the guys who spend a lot of money to get prostitutes to say "I love you."

I had one.

We were coworkers, stayed in touch after we both moved on and started dating about 2 years later. I had told her what I liked and fantasized about. We had fun going to sex shops, dating, going out for food, watching movies, and playing video games. All that good stuff. She had a thing for traps, especially maids, and bought me an outfit for Halloween. Of course I wore it for other occasions and sex. And boy did she like sex. She wanted it pretty much all the time. She liked pegging me, and although she claimed an interest in rope bondage I felt like she didn't have the patience for it. And as much fun as she had trying me down it was always more satisfying for her when I forced her arms down and slammed into her relentlessly.

It fell apart because I wasn't good enough I was am still living with my parents so I couldn't really crossdress full-time she admitted to thinking of me more as a girl than a boy. I don't know if she actually likes men that much. I was also still in school and couldn't afford to support her or go halfsies on an apartment.

There were other things but that's what comes to mind. She still wants to be friends and messages me daily. Me, being an idiot who craves attention, didn't block her immediately and responded. Oddly enough she wants to see me tied up more now that we're separated than when we were together. I don't what her to break my heart again.

This is interesting:

http://patriciahawley.org/Publications/HawleyHensley_JSR_%202009.pdf

>Table 1 shows the mean preference score by gender for each of the vignette types. Men preferred the female domination scenario (men’s submission fantasy) significantly more than the women preferred the female domination scenario—F(1, 452) 1⁄4 14.87, p < .0001— reflecting women’s relatively low interest in playing the aggressive role in sexual exchanges (Mednick, 1977; Wilson & Lang, 1981). Women preferred the male domination scene (women’s submission fantasy) significantly more than the men preferred the male domination scene—F(1, 455) 1⁄4 264.42, p < .0001—suggesting that women’s predilection for forceful submission is greater than men’s preference to fantasize about forceful domination (cf. Yost & Zurbriggen, 2006; Zurbriggen, 2000). In addition, men’s preference for the scenario depicting him being dominated by an aggressive woman was greater than women’s preference for the scenario depicting her being dominated by an aggressive man, F(1, 451)1⁄436.01, p<.0001.

>In other words, men had a higher preference for submissive fantasies than did women. Moreover, both men and women preferred the submissive fantasies over the fantasies in which they themselves were portrayed as dominant: men, F(1, 228.5) 1⁄4 50.61, p < .0001; women, F(1, 225) 1⁄4 44.21, p<.0001—that is, both genders preferred being the target of aggressive advances over being the perpetrator (cf. Yost & Zurbriggen, 2006).

>Neuroticism and submission preference (i.e., preference for the dominant male vignette for female participants and preference for the dominant female vignette for male participants) were not correlated for female participants (r1⁄4.03, p>.05), but they were for male participants (r1⁄4.17, p<.01)—that is, the higher the men scored on neuroticism, the higher the preference expressed for the aggressive female suitor. Neuroticism was not associated with dominance preference for either gender.

>>7765

>>7765

It’s not that “real dominant women don’t exist”

It’s that they are rare, not always open about it, driven away from kink spaces by hoards of obnoxious male subs, and if they can stand that and do put themselves out there, they don’t have to actively look for very long to find a sub.

Add in the fact that your definition of “real dominant woman” seems to be “psychopath who simultaneously doesn’t care about me and cares about me so much that they spend a lot of time indulging my specific fantasies” and well… yeah that is basically impossible.

Dominant women are still human beings and most humans are not THAT contradictory. And even if they are that contradictory it’s unlikely to be in this really weird special way.

>>7765

To put a finer point on it, most dominant people don’t want to have sex with someone who doesn’t also want to have sex with them.

Only legitimately unattractive rapists can truly fulfill a rape fantasy and these are not going to be nice people who do sexy things for you.

Got a girlfriend recently. Today I convinced her to slap my balls, which felt better than I thought it would.

My gf knows about my femdom fetish and she often plays with orgasm denial, but we gone #fullfemdom only once. She was in lingerie and did a lot of tease and denial, preventing me from masturbating while showing her body and doing stuff by herself. Also sometimes she plays the yandere character. I don't like it anyway, losing control is ok when you're fapping but i don't like my femdom addiction and always try to mantain a connection with reality when there is another person, so it was quite akward and i didn't wanted to repeat the experience. Also some tentative of prostate massage, but she is bad af and it's only a (literal) pain in the ass.

I was spanked for the first time the other day. It felt good, and she seemed to enjoy doing it too (we are both new at these things.) Do any of you know how to make it less loud? I live in an apartment and I'm afraid the neighbors will hear.

I met a dominant woman on FetLife and became her live in submissive. We were together for right at a year before we went our seperate ways. We both had good jobs and we parted because the travel time between our respective homes and work was too much to overcome. I feel lucky to have lived with her in this fantasy for the time we had together. I'll try to check this thread and answer any questions people that are interested may have.

I messaged her on FetLife. I was open and honest with her. In my introductory message i told her i was a submissive male seeking a dominant female. I was honest when i gave her my description and desires. As we exchanged information we foundvthat We had wants and desires that were compatible.

>>7670

I've been dommed by my cousin on my dad's side since I was around 14 and she was around 13.

>>8584

>role reversal pic

>still has girl doing stupid animu pigeon-toed stance

>>8598

How would she dominate you?

>>8585

How is that going for you now? Are you two still in touch?

>>8599

Comfy poses are beyond roles.

>>8634

Looks like a good investment

>>7948

It makes sense not to be quite as turned on by it as you get by porn. Did you talk to her about it, and explain it?

i wish to be caught wearing sexy panties.

>>8881

Have you tried it?

Get a girlfriend and ask her to dom you, it's as simple as that. Most woman are actually open to it.

>>8895

>Get a girlfriend and ask her to dom you, it's as simple as that. Most woman are actually open to it.

No they are not you fucking faggit. Femdom is still considered creepy and you have to be extremely careful with these things because most girls will think you are a freak.

>>8895

Yeah and I’ve done this. It was shit. She was clearly just indulging me and not turned on by it at all. Like most girls being submissive got her wet, being dominant made her bored.

So yes, having a girl tie you up is this easy. Being actually dominated though? Takes a woman who is literally exceptional and different than the norm.

>>8898

So you just get off to some weird porn but you’re not actually a male sub. Everything here is just imitating dumbass kink.com type videos. Kindly fuck off of this board and move onto the next “”exotic”” pornhub category.

>>8901

Don't be a faggot, he can stay if he likes.

>>8901

>So you just get off to some weird porn but you’re not actually a male sub

>not actually a male sub

you say that like it's a bad thing

>>8903

>Not actually a male sub

>you say that like it's a bad thing

This board is put in the lifestyles category, so to express that it's just a "occasional" practice or something that he just likes to watch, but would never consider doing is kind of a weird thing to say. Overreaction, but it's based in good intent.

Hi, I like to share my experiences with you.

I was 18 and she 22, we meet in driving school and started a relationship. I was a virgin and she changed that very fast. She took the lead and I accepted it. Since she has been into gothic we talked about this stuff, leather, chains and so on and I was stupid enough to tell her, that I would try everything she wants.

She started to train me, ordered me to be at her place in every free minutes I had. After coming in I was collared and had to service her before we did anything else. I did not mind eater her out and being dominated, but she tested my limits and that was very stressful. After spanking me over the knee (what was kind of sexy and fine for me), she tries the belt and sticks until I could not take it any more.

She tried me to the bed and refused to let me go for the whole weekend. She was a nurse and diapered me when I needed to… go. For the beginning it was okay, but when you notice that the chains will never break and you are at her mercy it is something different.

She did not accept save-words and I was scared of her when she finally let me go.

It was too much for me and when she ordered me to move in with her I broke it up and literary ran away.

It took me years to try it again. Now I am happy married and we play from times to times as switches. That works for me.

>>8953

>does not accept safewords.

yeah i'm glad you ran away, that sounds like a recipe for kidnapping/murder. if i do actually met a femdom girl i will make sure she accepts an easy to remember safeword before even doing anything lewd.

also good for you! ^-^