/erp/ - Erotic Roleplay

>>274676

This community is a den of lonely, desperate neets who will make their lack of human contact your business and do everything in their power, guilt you, stalk you, find you across other places on the internet, hunt down your IRL accounts and hit you up there, everything in order to cling. The gay here is worse than prison gay, stronger, gayer. The reality is that if you're inexperienced or stupid or too exhausted to keep these parasites from latching onto you and sucking you dry of your life and enthusiasm to come online, you will be forced to stoop to their level to some degree in order to shake them. They'll make you, that's what people here do, they force you to either do that or cave to them because a lot of people cave. You think you sound crazy because it is crazy, dude. Listen to your gut, and be very fucking clear about when you're uncomfortable or even feeling "eh," or you'll let your fun be killed and they'll fuck not just you, but your other relationships, too. You're seeing the tip of a fucking iceberg.

>>274677

I already plan on keeping F-list/Lit/etc very separate from the rest of my internet life but… lol anxiety.

I'm afraid of making a very good friend, we chat on Discord, I meet their friends, they become my friends too, and then it becomes absolute hell when they confess their uguu anime crush and I politely tell them that I'm not looking for a relationship right now.

Like I said, this was gen RP. Didn't even involve thirsty gay dudes either! I'm a bi dude but I didn't realize that actual girls on the internet would throw themselves at me.

I think I'm okay at turning away shitters on other RP sites, I'm just worried about psychos that go for the long haul. The ones that seem sane and normal but will not hesitate to go full batshit and tell their friends how I'm allegedly abusive when all I did was not reciprocate their weird crush where they project our character's relationship onto me and like the fact that I'm not some thirsty Nice Guy neckbeard.

I'm maybe a 6/10 at best looks-wise but I'm absolutely afraid of sharing selfies with people that aren't close friends now. I'm just that afraid of internet weirdos thirsting for my bland-looking ass and internet stalking me… I've already had to switch internet handles a few times because of crazies like this. Had some crazy motherfucker accuse me of molesting her since we met up offline at a con! And I was allegedly the crazy crush-confessor who internet stalked her too… Right.

>>274679

If you're sharing pictures and meeting up IRL, guess what? You're one of the crazies.

A few pieces of advice from my years of play

Never be the first one to volunteer personal information beyond bare minimum (ex "I can't play monday through friday, I have work" or "I'm in the gmt-5 timezone") and be cagey

Never trust anyone who talks about having had multiple crazy partners in the past. Everyone deals with a few crazies, but people who talk about it all the time are waving red flags. (The same is often true of anyone who complains about having had crazy ex gfs or ex bfs)

Never trust anyone who has an anime avatar or a furry avatar. that's just common sense

>>274679

I'm seconding >>274680

You have to keep a hobby a hobby and don't meet people you talk to on the internet over this shit.

Just become one of the crazies yourself.

>>274676

I have not run into any crazies in my time on flist (about a year). Some people absolutely love playing with me, but they all leave me alone if I say I'm not feeling for it at the moment. A few people I've ditched because their play has went sour but those didn't end up as stalkers either. The only one that actually did throw a shitfit was on Discord, and if we didn't share a server a block would've ended it.

In general, flist staff KNOW they are working with a pot of crazy and the sites rules are written with protection from harassment in mind. They expect you to make active usage of the ignore button and are quick to banhammer anyone that decides to not let that stop them.

Thanks for your replies so far.

>>274680

>>274691

Lol fair.

Although she's the one who mentioned attending MY local con and asked if I wanted to hang out so I figured it would be fine since I'm not the one who asked. Especially since we were only RPing gen/ships and not doing ERP.

I'm bi but I purposely lead people to believe that I'm only into whatever they aren't because I'm too used to weird-ass straight dudes thinking that I'm obsessing about their penis 24/7. Only openly bi around people I trust now. Sucks…

>>274687

I avoid the "I HAVE SO MANY CRAZY EX-PARTNERS" thing yeah. I only mention this when I'm either anon or talking to very close friends.

Any sane people I've personally met who have crazy exes keep it on the down low. Anyone who's insanely vocal about how WRONGED and PERSECUTED they were has always been hiding vital details that make THEM the crazy ex in my experience.

I'm sure I sound like a hypocrite but there's a reason why I'm posting this anon and not waxing poetic on my profiles lol.

I have been on F-List 5 years and have been incredibly active, never had a real problem with crazies.

A few approached me over time, but you can always tell straight away that they're insane and I just tell them to go away or ignore them.

Beyond that I just had one guy who tried to circumvent the block through alt accounts, but I just ignored him on the spot 3 times and called staff each time, within a day motherfucker never tried again.

It isn't a problem whatsoever if you aren't a sub 100 IQ mongoloid or mentally ill yourself, which you seem to be.