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First of all anon, you are definitely a smart lad if you have a 1420 SAT score. That is certainly above average. I'd recommend not disobeying your parents since you'd probably be forced to support your studies/personal life independently. Maybe try and work extra hard the last part of high school and try to come to a compromise. Maybe a community college would be easier for your parents.

I don't know your life though and maybe there is something to be gained in manual labor for you specifically. Be honest with yourself and reflect on the reasons why your parents are saying what they are. There is probably a reason you might not be articulating.

There are two questions you should be analyzing:

1 - What are the limits of "honor your parents"?

2 - Are your parents right about your prospects?

Here's an analysis of the word for "honor" in the commandment: https://biblehub.com/hebrew/3513.htm

I don't think making a reasoned decision against their advice qualifies as dishonor.

Making yourself into a hard worker in a Texas oilfield is almost the best advice you can give a young man today. Is it possible they have a better picture of your career prospects than you do, and they want you to thrive?

Do you have aspirations for a career field that requires a degree?

What's your beef with Texas, are you some kind of yankee homo?

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>>759113

I do appreciate the financial side of things, as I have thought a lot about that. The college itself isn't one of the expensive ones, but tens of thousands in debt is never an inherently GOOD thing I suppose. I have considered forging ahead into that debt in order to shove it in their faces a bit, (see pride for more info) but thanks for the common sense. Also, its a Georgian college in the mountains chock full of ROTC dudes. It ain't a liberal indoctrination camp.

>>759114

Thanks for the link dude. The religious side is why I am here after all. I just have many hesitations about this sort of thing because I am from a pretty dang strict catholic household and the thought of disobeying them on this matter of grave importance doesnt sit well.

>>759114

And no. My beef with Texas is that I find it stupid that the fam thinks I am too irresponsible for a local college but responsible enough to be a thousand miles from them with my own apartment, friends, and INDUSTRIAL MACHINERY.

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>>759121

I'm hesitant to point out the mote in your eye before removing the beam from mine, but… you do seem a bit prideful here in your posts. Perhaps God is merely giving you a chance to work on your pride by allowing your parents to treat you harshly. Maybe the best thing for you, spiritually (not to speak financially/socially,) is to heed their advice and go the labor route.

Yes you could probably forego your parents' judgement and make it in college on your own but what, exactly, will that do for you? Prove you were right? Is that necessary? Or are you just angry that they've slighted your pride, and thus want to hurt theirs in the long run by showing them they were wrong?

You should really talk with your priest about this, rather than strangers on an internet imageboard. Failing that, you need to clear your mind of the anger you're feeling and pray long and hard for God to bestow upon you the wisdom to do what's right here.

>>759121

if you're going into debt, don't go to college

>>759129

there's nothing wrong with asking for advice on the internet, plus there's no way for him to get diddled here

>>759131

True, but this isn't just an instance of 'halp this part of the Bible doesn't make sense!', rather it is a very personal situation that we as complete outsiders can't really grasp - we are receiving only one side of a multifaceted issue and thus can only guess at how to handle it. We can try our best to give advice, but someone with spiritual authority who is familiar with at least some of the parties involved would undoubtedly be able to give more specific, individual advice.

>>759129

1. Yes I am aware of that pride issue and I try to fix it

2. Yeah I have been trying to pray thrice daily. I feel more religious, have managed to go on NoFap for quite some tome and have been making charitable donations yet I am still waiting on that wisdom that needs to show up pretty soon!

3. My priest has been covering multiple parishes due to another priests illness. He hasn't the time for me.

>>759131

I can pay it back

>>759133

My priest doesn't know my family either. I feel like I gave ya'll a fair view of this. You can tell because everyone here is against my personal opinion. That isn't a bad thing, as I came here for advice, however.

College will debt-rape you for the rest of your life.

>>759106

What do you plan on majoring in? Also take an IQ test to see where you are at. Don't half ass it.

https://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=3108

>>759135

You shouldn't feed the usurious system more than you are obliged.

>>759203

Accounting

I have taken a more official IQ test a few months ago. Pretty sure it was the WAIS or something. 140.

>>759363

Good. Do you plan on getting your CPA?

>>795365

At this particular moment I haven't the slightest inclination to think all that far ahead if I cannot even convince my family to let me have some say in my future.

Well Anon, I dunno. One option is you could do the oil thing, make some money - save and invest. Stay in Texas long enough to be eligible for in-state tuition, take advantage of FAFSA to the best of your ability and just go to college a little later. At that point you'd likely have life experience and recognize what degrees will make you money and which ones will make you into an unemployed welfare hipster.

Plus, it's an offer to literally blaze your own trail and not be in the shadow of anyone. A true sink or swim moment. You'd only grow from it, and we do have Catholics down here in Texas - I'm sure you could find a parish. (Or begome Orthodox, we have some cool Orthodox monasteries here too.)

Plus, hey, when your sister is unemployed, you can be the caring Christian who takes care of her and the folks.

Food for thought. Your folks don't have a terrible idea, so do think thoroughly about it and consider everything.