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God is not required to give you a wife just because you are ‘good’. He’s not Santa, remember that. Do you even approach any of these girls? Do you talk to girls outside of church/school? You also need to get rid of this single=cursed mentality, so go to your priest or therapist and fix it. Most girls don’t care if you’re tall and white btw

>>740849

I'm in a similar situation. I deeply desire a mate and children and God has presented me with several women who like me but every time I come close to a relationship I get scared and run away and justify it by telling myself I'm a no adultery volcel and therefore a good person by not sinning. Why did God make me like this? Even a normie who's a total retard with women but keeps pursuing them because muh dick has a better chance of starting a family than me.

>>740855

>Most girls don’t care if you’re tall and white btw

Good advice except this sour grapes idiocy.

>>740855

I do. I have had multiple close encounters. The latest one was a girl at church who kept coming up to me and trying to engage in conversation. She's had previous boyfriends and I know for a fact that she isn't a virgin, so I kept the talks as short as possible. I have no interest in being tarnished by fornicators. They can find some other partner with a similar history.

>>740857

This world sometimes seems as if it wasn't made for us. I can't count the amount of "Christian" (cultural) drunkards I've seen with beautiful wives. I try not to be envious, but my God… I can't help it sometimes. It's like some inside joke that I can't grasp.

>>740858

No thanks. Why would I serve a corrupt empire? Family is more important than "just man up bro." Man up for what? Family is everything. Besides, I cannot willingly harm God's greatest creation. I have only ever contemplated taking my own life, and only to spite God. Eternal damnation seems like a torment to be endured if only for a bit of vengeance for the God who had damned me first.

>>740855

Answer too cold-hearted and careless, also contains falsehoods.

1/10, improve your manners.

>>740857

Maybe you love freedom and independence more than anything.

Something to ponder. If so, stay away from women. Everyone deserves a wife/husband who loves them more than freedom.

>>740858

Garbage answer 0/10

>>740869

Solid post 5/10

>>740876

>I know for a fact that she isn't a virgin

This is understandable, but you must be able to be forgiving to a degree. I hope you find a great match and soon.

>>740849

>>740876

you sound excessively dramatic, like a child throwing a temper tantrum. You have a good outlook for the most part, but im thinking God is testing you for your idolatry of self and of a wife, which you imagine as a prize for all your good deeds ( instead of, you know, a means to stay pure that you may live forever with Christ and all His saints). You are very prideful, and the devil is using it against you to bring you to despair.

Peace of heart is found not in getting what you want, but in wanting what you get. Take time to meditate on why exactly you want a wife (intimacy? legacy? true love?), all pure desires can be found and fulfilled in God, because they are from God. Desires coming from the self, from the pride of life, wanting it your way instead of Gods way, will only lead to bitterness and envy and hate. Seriously try to understand that only by following Gods Will will you ever be supremely happy. You should see it as an amazing blessing that our Father knows whats best for us in spite of our stubbornness.

"sell all your possessions, take up your cross, and follow Me" These possessions include possessions of the mind, that end up possessing us, and prevent us from finding our eternal joy. The sooner you let go of this earthly desire, the better. God knows what you need, what is good for you, you must be patient and let Him grant it to you in due time.

And hey, maybe once you do, youll meet your wife the next day.

>>740893

I can forgive a murderer, but I'm still not inviting him to my picnic. I harbor no hate for impure women, but I don't wish to marry them either.

>>740895

I do not care about myself as much as it may seem. As I said, I have no desire to live for myself and indulge in pleasure. I want a wife for all of the reasons you have mentioned and then some. I have been at it for years. How long will this test last? Because if I hit my 30s and remain single, God will have much to answer. I demand answers, because I do not wish to be blindly obedient to one who has turned his back on a righteous servant.

>>740893

>Maybe you love freedom and independence more than anything.

>Something to ponder. If so, stay away from women. Everyone deserves a wife/husband who loves them more than freedom.

Maybe, but I'd value a kid more than my freedom and I need a woman to get that. I guess the only solution is to find a woman worth more than my freedom which means I have to start looking really hard.

>>740901

>Because if I hit my 30s and remain single, God will have much to answer. I demand answers, because I do not wish to be blindly obedient to one who has turned his back on a righteous servant.

I know how you feel. Turning the other cheek worked out horribly for me. The assholes who slap back seem to receive most of God's blessings. Sometimes it makes me wonder if the Bible is a disinfo op, because why would God lie to hurt well meaning people trying to follow Him.

>>740903

There are supposedly righteous, loving, virgin women out there, because I've met a few chaps with wives like that, even though they may have not deserved such a fate. A ton of the supposedly pioue women in my church are married to edgy dudebros who just think of them as holes. The thought of that eats me alive. It's funny how they always fall into the wrong hands, yet there I am. I've nothing but the goodness of my soul and all of my material goods to offer and I am decaying. It is difficult to live with. I spend a lot of my nights sitting on the ground in the dark and silently weeping. I try to reflect on what I could be doing wrong, but alas, I seldom find anything.

>>740905

I feel your pain. It's terrible to hold everything inside. Every day feels like a personal Apocalypse. Try keeping a journal of your thoughts and seek a priest. Mine is of no help, but yours might be. Keep praying, maybe He will help you in time. Read novels with Christian themes, they might work for you. Maybe there is still hope for some of us.

you could wait until you're dead and then get a wife in the afterlife

>>740918

Please stop posting

>>740901

>Because if I hit my 30s and remain single, God will have much to answer.

Is this a bait post? If God doesn't want you to have a wife, you won't get one no matter what you do. Hopefully with prayer and mediation you will realise that even if you remain single your entire life, God will still love you.

>I demand answers, because I do not wish to be blindly obedient to one who has turned his back on a righteous servant.

Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. (Matthew 7:22-23)

>>740927

meditation*

>>740849

>I'm on my deathbed

>and in great shape

One of these statements is a lie.

>>740922

not an argument

>>740849

>I am haunted by thoughts of rebellion and violence against God.

Intrusive thoughts? Sounds like scrupulosity, unless I've mistaken you. God knows your heart, don't allow fear to possess your mind friend, you cannot commit the unpardonable sin. I'd struggled with this for quite a while.

Now you need to remind yourself that God rewards those who try. A wife will not fall out of the sky and into your kitchen. You need to go out and find one. God will do many things but we cannot expect Him to supply us with everything, we are not the Apostles.

If I for example wanted a job terribly so and sat in my room for years, doing nothing to get it, how therefore could I expect it to happen? You must go out there, you must overcome your anxiety and socialize, and then you may find yourself a wife; She won't just knock on your door.

>>740876

>No thanks. Why would I serve a corrupt empire? Family is more important than "just man up bro." Man up for what? Family is everything. Besides, I cannot willingly harm God's greatest creation. I have only ever contemplated taking my own life, and only to spite God. Eternal damnation seems like a torment to be endured if only for a bit of vengeance for the God who had damned me first.

I also used to suffer from this torment of feeling God was punishing me. What you need to realize is this isn't Disney. Sometimes bad shit happens to good people for no reason, like, all the time. It's part of our burden.

Keep searching and don't give up. It's better to live with failure than regret. Especially once you realize failure is not a bad thing. It makes us better in the long run, and keeps us humble. Perfectionism is the philosophy of fools. One should strive to make all of what they do great, but not if it costs them the ability to achieve their goal.

>>740849

Just because you don’t currently have a significant other or friends doesn’t mean your time is near; you’re in your 20s for goodness sake, no offense but live a little. Travel, try new things, make friends in your chruch group- do things you normally may not be able to if you had a wife. These are the prime years of your life, have some fun while you can in your free time. Don’t worry so much about women; God will let one in your life when it’s or if it’s His will.

>>741028

How did your mail order bride work out for you?

>>740895

I'm sort of like OP and have self reflected about this often. Where ultimately I shouldn't concern myself about earthly things, but we have all this time here. I don't feel a burden to have children from my family as they are all liberal and or cowardly survived WW2 then moved to Canada. At the same time God says to be fruitful and multiply, but Jesus and Paul didn't. If I don't have a family I can put more time to God, but what is that? It would just be working and being alone.

>>740849

We must endure till the end. We only serve God though OP. If he told me to do something that wasn't crazy (terrorism) I would do it because I have no attachments. Perhaps this is what he plans for us. And if not then I will be try to be happy with what I have for Jesus is enough.

>>740901

If you want a wife that badly you will need to learn to forgive. God forgives and doesn't look down on us after. If you can't forgive her perhaps God won't forgive you of your sins which are far greater then hers. Don't be a cuck, but your definition of forgiveness isn't legit and you may be acting overly prideful with that women. God bless.

>>741144

>You're literally just a garbage human being.

Welcome to liberalism!

>>740849

You have to get out of the system asap. What you desire was taken from all of us by force and defeatism and suicidal thoughts were the desired outcome for it. You can either waste your life trying to find and answer as to why, getting crushed by that very system or gather as many of your loved ones as possible and leave the whole structure of modern, toxic life behind you. Direct your faith and will at achieving freedom and you'll get your chance to meet a female worthy of your affection. The people around you are scared, mislead and on a self destructive path, just like you…but you need to break this cycle as fast as you can.

>>740849

>I need help, brothers. I feel like I'm on my deathbed in my mid-20s. All I have ever wanted was a virgin wife to complete me and raise a family with.

Same thing, but it is somewhat literal for my case. Count your blessings brother, and never give up hope. I certainly do not, even with the illness eating me. You are blessed in the sense that most men these days would rather have earthly pleasures with no responsibility until they are old and grey and realised too late that family is what matters, but you realised it with enough time to spare and enough energy and effort to go around.

I will pray for you brother.

>I have some acquaintances, but not anyone I'd truly consider a friend.

You have a friend in us, and in our Lord. Always.

>>741166

May God ease your suffering.

Stop focusing on finding a virgin wife and find a Christian wife.

>>741197

virgin Christian wife*