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The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?

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3da871  No.727142

Hello Christian.

I'm going through a crisis in my life at the moment. The crux of this crisis is that I don't ever see myself as being able to have a family in modern society. I look around and see greater men than myself, with abilities beyond mine, utterly fail at it and end up destroyed through divorce, it happened to my own father and devastated him. I have lost all motivation to participate in society and continue at my job, everyday I'm driven closer and closer to opting out of society.

I look at traditional communities like the amish, and the life they live, and my heart pines for it. I know it's in part romanticized a bit in my mind, but the horror of dying alone and lonely, and watching my family end before my eyes as my brother has opted out of having children himself, is horrific to me.

I've emailed the local traditional, christian community in my area, expressing my interest to join. I in part feel a pang of guilt because it's not because of Christianity that I want to join their christian community, it's a desire for love and family. I am not sure that I will ever believe in Christ, certainly I hope I do. I'm not sure though.

I would appreciate feedback about my decision. I feel as if it's entirely selfish and I'm no better than those lonely men that purchase foreign brides. My heart overwhelmingly wants to have a family however, I fantasize about being able to raise my own children most nights.

2ec3c6  No.727166

It's okay if your initial draw to that is to want to have a good family. The family is the cornerstone of Christianity. In fact, throughout the Bible, the people of God (us) is likened to the bride of God. Your want for a good wife and not a harlot is a good want for sure. However, I'd ask to soften your heart a bit and try and learn what Christianity really is, not what you think it is. We believe any true marriage can only happen with three people, a Man, a Woman and Christ. You are right to observe that many men "greater" than you have fallen to divorce, and have their lives and happiness ruined. This is why you need Christ, because with God all things are possible.

If however you are just seeking to hoodwink and deceive someone, and that's your sole intent, without ever trying to give it a shot, your efforts will be doomed and you will probably find yourself in a far worse situation. But if you actually really try and give it a go, who knows, God can really work wonders. You will receive faith, and have a loving wife who believes too, and together with your shared faith you'll have a wholesome family that can weather the inevitable storms that do happen.

I'd encourage you to join and attend church at their community, and try and maybe read the Gospel of John. There are some pretty nice videos on the YouTube channels calles "The Bible Project". They're like animated info graphic type videos that are easy to follow. Also if you have some atheistic objections, you might want to check out the channel "InspiringPhilosophy". There also is a pretty regular bible study going on at twitch.tv/a7runaway - just some readings from the bible and Christian videos with some cool music in the background.

Give it a shot and you might be surprised where the Lord leads you.


971976  No.727173

maybe it's not in the plans of God for you to have a family


9b5440  No.727437

>>727166

Thank you for your reply.

I don't think that deception is my intention. I just want to be a good father and raise good children, to be able to instruct and nurture them in the right manner seems such a joy for me. It doesn't even have to be my own children, I'd happily help and support any child or young adult in life. The thought of leaving a wife and a child behind if things turn sour is reprehensible to me.

I will read the Gospel of John, I'm currently on Paul's letter to the Romans but I'll make a stop there afterwards. I do have atheistic objections, and will make a point of also visiting the channel "Inspiring Philosophy".

>>727173

Perhaps, and if I receive a sign or message from him signifying that it is so, I'll renounce all my paternal desires.


2ec3c6  No.727452

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>>727437

Thanks for putting in the effort! As for the other poster about Gods plan for you not to have a family, I'd say this is highly unlikely. Most of the time, especially for higher callings like celibacy, we expect that God would actively bring about a calling or vocation to such a thing. You seem to have a very strong vocation towards Fatherhood, and so you should pursue that. It's an extremely noble thing to do in this day and age especially, when so many people just want to live for hedonistic pleasure. Don't be discouraged.

One good video from InspiringPhilosophy is regarding the historical argument of the resurrection of Jesus. Because if Jesus actually did resurrect, that basically changes everything. It's a bit long, so maybe play it in the background while you do something else.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A0iDNLxmWVM

Whatever you find as your objections are, feel free to come back here and ask - hopefully we can point you in the right direction. God bless!


863245  No.727591

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>>727142

Just man up. No two ways about it.




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