So I've been seeing this new girl for about 4 months, we've been having a great time together, I really like her and she is probably in love with me. She's not a christian but believes in God and is a very kind, warm and loving person in general. Though sh

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Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 08:19:45 970b21 No.687341

So I've been seeing this new girl for about 4 months, we've been having a great time together, I really like her and she is probably in love with me. She's not a christian but believes in God and is a very kind, warm and loving person in general. Though she has had several guys before me and our values differ in certain aspects so I'm very uncertain for how many years this could actually last.

However, I also have sporadic contact with my ex gf who is mentally unstable, extremely lonely and vulnerable. She will probably have a very shitty life if I don't stay with her and help her. She is also a major sinner and frequently gets involved in different criminal acts. Also she is spiteful, especially towards me. I can't tell if she likes me or not at all but we can spend time together, although we often fight. She doesn't believe in God and frequently lashes out on religion.

I was stupid enough to think that God was sending me signs to which girl to choose, like, one day I suddenly felt an extreme anguish and need for my ex girlfriend so I went to her and found her devastated after her pet bird (her only real friend) had died. On the other hand, strange occurrences has also led me to believe I am meant to be with the new girl (like we had a fight, didn't speak for 7 days but then I dreamt about her for the first time, the day before she contacted me to reconcile. I also saw a badger yesterday during my attempt to break up with her, the story is too long to explain but the badger has had a certain significance in our relationship).

tldr: I have to choose between a 1. very nice, kind and humble girl that loves me, but doesn't really need me (she has had many guys before me and can get one easily) and there is also no certainty about our future, and 2. my ex girlfriend who I've had a 7 year long relationship with that was torn apart by her family and her mental issues, but she will never live a morally fulfilling life, will probably never have any friends and live a miserable life if I don't try to help her. I also feel a deep connection to her, we practically grew together as soulmates.

What do I do? Neither of the girls know about the other one or of my plans of staying pure until marriage (as of last week).

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 09:46:55 a0ca6c No.687350

>Used "Spiritual" hippie thot that just happens to spit on Christ, Christianity and everything that should be holy to you

>Crazy leftist thot that spits on Christ and Christianity, just without sugercoating it

Both sound absolutely terrible

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 09:51:08 2a6e58 No.687351

>>687341

You cannot save everyone you like, your ex is a hopeless bet in terms of relationships, I'd really push you to go with-

>Neither of the girls know about my plans of staying pure until marriage

You dun goofd.

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 09:55:38 d98c65 No.687354

>>687341

>Though she has had several guys

>She is also a major sinner and frequently gets involved in different criminal acts

Seems like you have great taste in girls OP

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 09:57:01 970b21 No.687355

>>687350

Both of them are actually very conservative girls who want romantic relationships and believe in monogamy, upholding family, honoring your spouse and other traditional christian values. None of them are atheist. They just haven't received any religious education (although they are both baptized) at all and we live in northern Europe so just finding a conservative woman here is a challenge in itself.

>>687351

It's not about saving her, it's about her suffering a miserable life and me knowing I could have helped her, or at least tried to help. We are obliged to give ourselves to others, and the 2nd one needs it more.

Also, I am positive at least one of them will accept my will to wait until marriage and I will tell it to both of them this week. Should any of them drop out then the situation is solved, obviously, but I think they will both agree (as they basically have the same view on relationships as us christians).

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 10:00:31 970b21 No.687356

>>687354

Yeah well It's not really for me to judge or decide, both of these relationships were initiated by a stroke of chance or providence. Also, I have experienced several "signs" and unexplainable phenomena with both of these girls, leading me to actually believe that God brought us together.

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 10:10:14 ee3d03 No.687363

>signs

Alexa, what is "prelest"?

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 10:13:03 970b21 No.687364

>>687363

Some things I've experienced could have been pure chance (e.g. me dreaming of the new girl the day before she calls after we hade a fight and no contact for 7 days), other things really have no natural explanation.

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 10:17:43 970b21 No.687366

>Sometimes the demons can "help"[23] a deluded person. This "help" can include either recommendations about certain things, even theological and very complicated, or can take the form of false spiritual gifts: false healing ability,[24] false clairvoyance,[25] false gift of prophecy,[14

alright I suppose this might actually have been the case.

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 10:21:20 970b21 No.687367

My question basically boils down to whether I should take the girl that will give me a comfortable life or whether I am obliged to give myself to the one that needs me the most (i.e. my ex).

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 13:51:00 711538 No.687402

Choose first girl but convert her.

Your ex is horrible

Christanon 08/13/18 (Mon) 14:27:13 a7d008 No.687403

> She's not a christian

> she has had several guys before me

> our values differ

These are all red flags. Not only for marriage for raising children. I would give serious consideration to moving on. If she's willing to convert and has good qualities as wife and mother those would be factors to stay. Only you can decide.

>She will probably have a very shitty life if I don't stay with her and help her.

It's not your job to help her. God doesn't want you to tolerate your ex's bad behavior. He wants you to be fruitful and multiply. He instructs us to be careful which field we plant our seed in though.

We aren't there. We aren't you. We can't tell you what to do. But If you really want an answer… if you and your current girlfriend are white have her convert, sign a prenup, marry, and start having babies. Tell her how it's going to be. She'll either respect your firm hand or answer the should we break up question for you.

Christanon 08/15/18 (Wed) 14:40:03 07bf27 No.688038

>>687403

>not your job to help her

THIS. Do not feel a false obligation to help her, that is probably guilt from Satan. You don't take on an entire romantic relationship that is a burden as a cross. Only you can decide but it sounds like you have a good thing going with this new girl. See what she says to waiting until marriage and decide from there.