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>>681399

Yes. I would be morally obligated to make sure they knew the truth, it's the first step to repentance and reconciliation. I wouldn't gossip though, I'd be sure there wasn't a big commotion.

>>681403

You are likely to hurt more people than helping anybody. Your morally superior stance will just hurt both of the people you are attempting to "help" and it won't get you any good points with God while you are at it. "By grace you are saved through faith, and that is not of works, lest any man should boast."

Your position is just looking for boasting rights, so you can show people what a good christian you are. Whereas everyone else is busy just getting by and asking God for forgiveness.

I would tell.

Since I would like to know if my partner is cheating, so would I tell a person that their partner is cheating. Common Courtesy.

>>681406

>You are likely to hurt more people than helping anybody.

When a friend is being deceived, is it loving to remain silent about it? You have a warped sense of ethics. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

>>681406

Nothing boastful about it. I'd dread the conversation. It's easy to remain quiet.

>>681399

I ended up in this situation once. The guy was so brazen about it, I was sure his wife knew. I was so sure she knew I didn't say anything because I didn't want to embarrass her further.

She didn't know. This is how cheaters get away with it- by acting like it's totally above board everywhere except with the spouse. I felt like such an ass when I found out she didn't know. I wish I'd gently told her.

>>681399

If you say nothing, you allow sin to run free. Is that okay? You could have made a difference for the better, but chose not to. That is not the right thing to do.

>>681406

>Your position is just looking for boasting rights, so you can show people what a good christian you are

You are talking out of your ass

>>681399

I wouldn't tell, but I would encourage the cheater to confess.

>>681403

The big problem with telling the partner is that if you have no proof, the cheater can just deny it. Then again, we should also not be friends with people who willfully sin.

>>681453

Everyone willfully sins. I don't need proof, I'm not making a case, just telling what I saw (hypothetically).

>>681455

Well, if you tell what you saw and the cheater denies it, then you've lost some friends due to a "he said/she said" situation. If you don't mind the loss of friendship and it eases your conscious to tell the partner, then go ahead and tell. Otherwise, it's better to confront the cheater and encourage them to confess.

Shouldn't you confront the guy who's cheating?

If you tell, without first confronting the cheater and encouraging them to repent, then you are guilty of calumny. Do to others as you would have others do unto you also applies to the cheating spouse.

>>681399

Why not call the guy to repentance?

>>681504

>>681506

>>681507

I assumed the cheater wouldn't talk. Come to think of it, I should definitely talk to him first. Still though, if he doesn't want to, then truth must be said to the spouse anyway, right?

Tell the cheating spouse that you are going to tell the cheated on person, giving them a chance to tell them first, then tell the cheated on person

>>681399

Snitches get stitches, aye.

But cheaters deserve beaters, so you are morally obliged to encourage the sinner to repent and confess or either tell it to the victim yourself.