How to deal with lying friend?

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How to deal with lying friend? Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 09:55:37 8c50a4 No.673416

I find myself in quite a predicament. I was invited to a party during which the host and friend got quite drunk. There were a lot of people and I wasn't with him the whole time. At some point in the night he started to brag to a couple of guys and myself about some "feats" of the evening. Most of them were ok except one. He told us that "[he] winnie the poohed a girl this evening". Now the major problem is that he has a girlfriend and she was not at the party.

Why am I posting this here? First of all he is orthodox (I'm fighting as hard as possible not to put quotes around it), goes to church from time to time, has orthodox relatives. His girlfriend is orthodox, quite pious.

Now I do not know what to do. This is I think the second time this friend cheats. I'm also resisting the urge of writing "friend". He has this habit of exploiting people to satisfy his personal needs. And I have the feeling he told us this so that it is less of a burden for him and so that we are complicit to his fault. I believe that all the previous things I mentioned about him are only masks. I don't know why he wears them, but I have seen glimpses of good in him.

I haven't seen the girlfriend since, but I know I will at some point, and to be honest I'm not even sure if me seeing her matters. He was cheated on by someone who doesn't show an ounce of regret; I feel like she should now. She seems like a nice person, not deserving any of this.

So I guess my question is what should I do? Each time I will see her, I will essentially be lying to her. In addition to the fact that she's being lied to by her boyfriend.

I'd appreciate any advise.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 10:08:51 18798e No.673420

>>673416

Ask yourself this:

Is truth a value?

And if it is, why should anyone be deprived of it, and why is speaking the truth something that should be condemned in any way?

I think most well-intentioned people would agree that everyone has the right to make a decision based on the fullest knowledge of his/her circumstances.

Anyone who keeps this girl in the dark is comitting a sin because they are removing her ability to make a decision based on the truth.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 10:30:44 579b2f No.673425

>>673416

Tell the truth. You'll likely lose your friend, but you'll maintain your integrity. She deserves to know.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 10:35:23 0a2e71 No.673428

>>673416

Always speak the truth.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 10:45:11 0bb72b No.673429

Tell her. It will be good for both her and your "friend" who will learn to respect concepts of chastity and loyalty.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 11:06:50 0d39dc No.673433

>>673429

This, OP. You very well might prevent worse suffering for her than if she didn't find out sooner.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 11:41:59 8c50a4 No.673436

Thank you for your comments. I pray I will have the strength to do the right thing and tell her.

During the evening I was alone with the guy at some point and he repeated it again. I asked him why he has done that, given that he is supposed to be with his girlfriend and all I got in answer was him asking me if I was gay because I didn't approve it. Worse is that he pointed to his mothers' icon corner and said it was "thanks to them" (the Saints).

Maybe what he said is something that one could put on his drunkenness… but it's no excuse for what he did. Honestly since that night I would rather never speak to him again and just tell his girlfriend when I get the chance.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 12:06:57 466cc2 No.673438

Don't just go and tell his girlfriend. Make sure he knows what he did is wrong and give him a chance to come clean first. Then tell him that you will inform her otherwise.

Go straight to the girl and it will come across as if you are trying to steal his girl

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 12:09:44 0a2e71 No.673440

>>673438

>Go straight to the girl and it will come across as if you are trying to steal his girl

No, I don't think so. He had his chance to come clean.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 12:12:30 18798e No.673441

>>673438

>Don't just go and tell his girlfriend

This is the advice of the jew.

The truth shall not fear the stain of liars.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 12:16:24 8b17b7 No.673442

>>673438

The risk of doing this is that the bf could tell her a story that would make her doubt OP when he tells her. Something that would make her think OP is the one lying and being a dick.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 12:20:46 0d39dc No.673444

>>673436

*Hugs*

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 13:18:54 18798e No.673453

>>673442

Stop speculating like a calculating jew.

OP, just go and tell her and be done with it. And don't give a winnie the pooh about either of them in the future. That is the right way to handle this.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 16:24:47 674987 No.673489

winnie the pooh his girlfriend Op for payback

Now seriously tell her the truth. Better now than after marriage, since its for life.

Christanon 07/11/18 (Wed) 16:46:29 2fb704 No.673495

>>673442

>The risk of doing this is that the bf could tell her a story that would make her doubt OP when he tells her. Something that would make her think OP is the one lying and being a dick.

What the heck does OP care? He's not trying to steal the girl, so what if she hates him. He did his duty and spoke the truth, the girl doesn't even have to believe it, he just needs to say it. If he's persecuted for saying the truth that'll be his reward in heaven.

>>673453 is right, stop thinking like a scheming Jew. We know what's right and wrong.