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How to break free from this trap Christanon 03/09/18 (Fri) 17:24:47 5dddf3 No.615731

I am seriously addicted to wasting my time and not doing what is important. How do I reverse this?

Basically this. My study is a bit complicated and not enjoyable. So I hate my study. Naturally, I don't feel like studying and waste my time with various things which I find enjoyable. Until now, I have indulged in porn, anime, gigabytes of ebooks (most of which I think are useless), games and other stuffs. Basically, I think I've become an something like an otaku on these useless stuffs. I want to stop doing these, but I can't. Among these I have control over porn now as I put some effort to block it when it was more serious before. But the rest will not go and I cannot find motivation to study.

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Christanon 03/09/18 (Fri) 18:13:17 2f9bf3 No.615746

It's cliche, but it's cliche for a reason: work out and get a hobby. Doinf computer stuff is so closely related to studying that you will feel fatigued from "studying" (even when you have not studied at all) that you will not want to study "anymore" (or at all). Working out, doing physical activities, or partaking in a hobby will refresh you, and is unlike doing your studies, so doing your studies will not seem as monotonous.

Christanon 03/09/18 (Fri) 18:28:24 f4a1c0 No.615751

>>615731

>I am seriously addicted to wasting my time and not doing what is important

I'm sorry to laugh about this but some people here really make a drama out of everything.

Christanon 03/09/18 (Fri) 18:38:25 2f9bf3 No.615753

>>615751

>I'm sorry to laugh about this but some people here really make a drama out of everything.

Thank God you do not have this problem. This is an epidemic, though, and far more common than you'd think. Is it pathetic and laughable? Yes. Is it something that was not even close to a problem in the past, and virtually non-existent going back far enough? Absolutely. But it is a major problem today.

I say this as someone who wasted years of my life on nothing, as described in op. I still struggle with wasting time. That said, I left out the most important thing that got and gets me out of it: prayer. If I find myself wasting productive time, I'll prayer the Liturgy of the Hours for that time and it helps tremendously. It also helps that these prayers during my productive hours place some focus on asking God to bless these productive hours and our work.

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 08:38:55 e0f88d No.616078

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>I am seriously addicted to wasting my time

The only reason why you prefer to do any activity over the other is because at that moment you feel it is more enjoyable to do one thing over the other. Intellectually you might know that studying/working out/reading the Bible/Engaging yourself in Church is more important and beneficial but not emotionally. You are also going into a trap thinking that you are "addicted" to any habit, to say you are addicted means that you are giving up control over yourself and giving yourself an excuse for not doing what you should.

To mitigate bad habits you need to get emotionally convinced that studying is good for you, will be good for you in the future and not doing it would be a huge mistake and carry with it painful consequences that you don't want.

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 08:55:04 953ddf No.616080

>>615731

>Until now, I have indulged in porn, anime

this is somewhat OK unless you are pass the age of 19. please tell me you are 19.

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 15:23:50 dc760c No.616185

Thank you for your replies.

>>615746

This could be one way. The only time I felt good about myself was when I was working out. I felt I have the energy needed to study. Maybe I should restart the exercises.

>>616078

>that studying is good for you, will be good for you in the future and not doing it would be a huge mistake and carry with it painful consequences that you don't want.

Thank you. I do need to convince myself that.

The things is I have acquired a lot of junk on my machine by browsing internet. It gives me dopamine rush to engage in these useless things. I understand I have to cutoff my entertainment to an absolute minimum level and stop browsing internet to have any improvement. I also need to delete a shit ton of things in my computer.

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 17:52:45 2540ac No.616254

>>616185

I really struggle with self control with my internet use too. I've just recovered from illness but now two nights of going to bed between 1-3am in the morning means I am getting ill again, and I have an important job interview on Monday which has already had to be rescheduled twice. smh.

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 18:26:56 8e7b65 No.616266

>>615731

Time enjoyed is not time wasted, unless of course you're neglecting your studies or your work. I have 2 MAs, go to punch out the clock every day and come home and do absolutely nothing. I enjoy it very much.

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 18:27:11 64dcc0 No.616267

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>>615731

OP, I know how it is to be bound to your hedonistic pleasures resulting in absolute lethargy and repulsion of doing anything fruitful. Now, what I advise you to do is, first and foremost, to reconsider if you truly want to study. We men are born to go out and work and use our bodies for our work. Secondly, search for a factory job and just do it, no excuses. JUST. DO. IT. A factory job is taxing enough for your weakened body but not too stressful because the work is a no-brainer. Do it for 2 to 4 weeks straight full time or part time. Notice how you change mentally and physically. If you find any kind of satisfaction in doing this physical labour, congratulations, you found out your problem: lack of purpose because you always lacked labour. It helped me a great deal to conclude that studying - especially in those satanic colleges - isn't my cup of tea and plan on learning a trade instead. It's insane that I found fulfillment in your typical José factory job, but there I am.

Also, as anons said before:

STOP WATCHING PORN AND MASTURBATION

Seriously, it fucks up your drive to do anything fruitful and your masculinity; basically makes you to an effeminate faggot. I'm on day 43 of nofap and feel great and slowly start to become more productive and I really should stop browsing this board and wasting more of my time.

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 19:05:36 1bafda No.616284

Recognize it for what it is, a mortal sin that risks breaking your connection to God.

merely going on "nofap" or some other inane life-improvement approach to it minimizes the risk it actually brings to your salvation

Christanon 03/10/18 (Sat) 20:39:21 a75422 No.616327

It's a conscious decision that you have to make. It helps that you recognize the problem and now all you have to do is take the next step which is do want you want to do so that you don't keep wasting anytime and continually feel regret.

Now you have to prioritize. You can make a list or use an agenda planner. Have a schedule. This is a dumb made up example: so you got up and immediately went to the computer and stayed there for hours browsing, or decided to play a game or whatever

You go: I'm going to get up, brush my teeth, cook and wash those dishes, tidy up, etc, etc. and THEN I will take time to study. Or I'm going to do this for 2 hours and then that for an 1 hour and I'm sure you get it by now.

If anything you can disconnect the console or the internet. What happens when the power goes out? You go do other things, right? Probably stuff you put off for a while. Don't connect it until you have done whatever it needs to be done and later you can "reward" yourself with some relaxing, fun time well deserved.

Christanon 03/20/18 (Tue) 15:14:51 ed52f1 No.621929

>>615731

I am in the exact same situation.

>>615746

>>616078

I think these guys are right. I do tire my self out doing unproductive things that are similar to what I should be doing. And when I do get to work it is usually because of emotion, when someone calls me out on my lazyness and I feel really bad about it.

Christanon 03/20/18 (Tue) 18:28:54 a31458 No.621982

In the same spot as OP, with added mental issues: whenever I try to do something, the image of my brother (whom I deeply admire and who was always an example to imitate, even if he is younger than me) comes to mind, with his criticical opinions on how bad I am compared to him. Can’t get this image and the thought that I’m worthless or at best an useless mediocre person out of my head, thus always giving up.

It’s ruining my spiritual life too, I’d like to add.