/christian/ - Christian Discussion and Fellowship

>>588922

The desires of the heart can often bring us pain.

>>588922

Next time just turn to her and strike up a conversation. It's not awkward or anything, talk about the sermon or anything that's going on in your church.

Better yet, find out if she's involved in any of the church programs (like Bible study or youth group) and sign up for those. Even if things don't work out with this girl, there's usually plenty of other girls involved in the church.

>>588922

Why are there always so many /r9k/ posts on here? Do people really only come to Christ to get some trim?

>>588922

What's pathetic (sorry for the term, it may be a bit harsh) isn't that you have a crush on such a woman, but that you have to act hopeless and desperate about it, and even worse, to whine about it online.

You like her? Then do something about it. Do you often talk together? Did you ever hang out together? Are you even friends to begin with?

I'm not saying this to insult you, but to motivate you. Show some initiative!

>>588922

Because there is much more to life than sex. Women are trouble makers. Get in shape, study history and science. Work hard. Stop being a child.

>>588922

Just make a half playful comment on how you find it interesting that she takes notes because so many people doze off during homily. Or compliment her singing. I'm telling you, stupid and basic stuff works the best.

>>588950

>Though I got a gastric lap band

Why? You'll have to get that removed once it starts giving you problems.

>>588969

Average women nowdays are trublemakers. The crush of op is ok because she's a practicing christian. But how many women are like her?

If op wants a gf he should cry less and self improve.

>>588994

my uncle got it 10 years ago, lost over 140 pounds and has kept it off with no problems. I see a dietitian to avoid it giving me problems, being sick to much increases the risk of it slipping.

>>588970

thx for the tips friend

>>588968

Im not in it for sex, just don't want to be alone. And im getting healthier with me eating healthy and exercising plus going to therapy, just generally trying to sort my life out.

>>589002

>But how many women are like her?

There are 2.5 billion Christians in the world. Assuming 1/2 of those are women, based on global statistics, that makes 1.25 billion Christian women. Accounting for age and other factors, it's easy to assume at least 10% of Christian women are young, pious Christians.

That is a LOT of women.

>>588966

no offence taken, yes we are friends. I try to hang out when I can and do try to talk to talk her without coming as creepy or needy. For example with both like politics so we talked about that in church this morning and I have had the courage to complement her on what she was wearing.

>>589009

Very optimistic.

>>589012

You should get to know her family quite well too. Do you both still live with your folks?

>>589023

im 18 so I still live with my folks, I have a generally postie relationship with most of my family. Close to my mum but not my father though.

>>589026

If you want to marry her, you should make your intentions known to your parents (of course while doing what other people itt have suggested, getting closer to her). If they approve, and they should, they can reach out to the other family and get together for a meal some sunday afternoon. Making the step from church buddies to friends on the other 5 days of the week is a big deal, especially in the mind of a young girl.

Don't underestimate the power of nosy relatives.

I'm really happy to hear you're improving yourself, and I wish you the best with your woman. Be sure to update us with any news!

>>589038

thanks for the kind words friend, will use your advice in the future.

>>588922

the /r9k/ threads have got to stop. Either you get you ass up or you don't. But don't flood the board with this shiet.

I'm asking the mods for some kind of "r9k general" thread to contain this sort of stuff. Thank you

>>589033

stop watching porn

>>589033

>when slags give me the look at the gym

Why are you going to a co-ed gym? Staring at women in yoga pants? Mote, meet beam.

>>589033

If you know they're looking, you ain't ignoring them.

>>589120

Correction:

>such as lust.

>>589120

this actually makes a whole lot of sense, will def learn from this. thank you

>>589009

You forget that your numbers roughly also equal the number of men in that category as well. Unless God gives you a good christian woman, you won't find her on your own. I presume this is why /r9k/ exists; primarily because many have given up hope of ever having an intimate relationship with a >6/10 female after a certain age.

BTW 20 yr old kissless virgin here.

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>>588922

BOO FUCKING HOO

>>574988

Ive got a dinger for you feels fags.

>10 years ago, 14

>Charismatic youngster

>talk to girl who sits in front of me in English and tease her just cuz

>almost the whole year passes

>her good friend (who she knows to this day) asks me to to social dance for her (8th grade)

>had no clue at all whatsoever

>stupid 14 year old so reject her because muh other girl crush that will go nowhere

>she is a blonde bombshell, smart, a gymnast, reads, quiet, and i didn't know at the time but ultra Catholic

>thought she was just kind of nerdy at that age and somehow didn't see her beauty

>literally what i want now in a woman

>get religious independently that same year, was confirmed

>get involved with a prot church cuz another female invited me to her youth group

>10 years of tons of memories, growth, of my entire life go by

>scrolling through faceberg bullshitting

>see her quote fultom sheen (still had her as a friend)

>hits me like every brick im the world at once

>remember she mentioned God once when we talked 10 years ago over fb

>didnt know she was THAT religious

>wish her bday last december

>she says thanks haha its been a while

>i for some reason leave it at that and dont follow up

>no big deal

>see she has mutual church people friends from certain groups, figure i can see her again at a thing were both invited to like a Christmas party

>dont end up going to the Christmas party (she may not have been there anyway)

>months pass, its April

>Bishop Barron is doing a talk

>go to it because i like him but maybe shell be there

>as i drive there for some reason heart is on fire, cant explain it but felt almost certain she would be there

>she is, see her as i walk past the sitting crowd to find a seat

>absolutely cannot believe this

>wait wasnt there some guy sitting next to her? Oh no

>after talk (was very good), go up to her and say hi blabla

>its been what, since…..jr high?!

>oh this is my boyfriend

>ok.jpg

>still figure its something

>…see you around? She says before we part

>some point later that Oasis song plays and i think of this exact situation

>OHHHHHH SALLY CAN WAAAAIT, SHE KNOWS ITS TOO LAAAAATE AS SHES WALKIN ON BYYYY

>MY SOUUUUL SLIDES AWAYYYY

>BUT DONT LOOK BACK IN ANGER, I HEARD YOU SAY

>little later

>in a bible study that they are in, meet their young adult community

>go to a cookout in june, bring normie secular friends along, one of their retarded asses almost spills the beans

Ive been in way deep boys, feel like im inside the mafia as an undercover cop. Not over yet.

>at a lunch thing the group does sometimes after Mass in November

>were just at this food joint in line, im at end of line cuz late

>some new guy is doing the introduction speeches

>overhear her say "and this is my fiance"

yes my heart shattered like you picture it would

>i turn, "fiance? Well congratulations!" I cheer to them both with the most bittersweet smile of my life thus far, sold it though like nothing was amiss

>she smiles in a way that just seems like she is joyful i approve, there was something to it…but i understood

I cant even say anything bad about the guy, hes a standup Catholic and seems like a real man. But come on….

>looking up this broad from a few years ago when i was at community college

>shes blonde too, Catholic

>going through pictures cuz why not

>wait a minute what

>hes in one of them

Guy has a thing for blonde white Catholic girls. Cant say he doesn't have good taste but cripes. Be patient brothers, your ship will come. Dont dwell. I am going to this other church's event tonight, and there's even other churches besides this that I intend to explore for options (and genuine growth obviously). God speed and trust in the Lord.

>>589807

I forgot to add though charismatic I may be, Im still an autist. Wouldnt be here otherwise.

>>588944

You say that like there isnt blatantly obvious overlap between autism and religion

>>588968

>study history

As someone who majored in history that word still gives me a fat chub. Glad the romance still hasnt been lost.

>>589807

tldr

>>588969

Who would be so weak as to blame all women for their own failings? Or the simple fact that sometimes she JUST isnt into you because thats how the cards fell.

>>589813

Trust me theres people on here who will eat it up

>>589120

Thank you for posting

>>589837

What makes you think you have nothing in common with anyone?

I'm sure many here have more in common than we think.

>>589829

there is still hope my friend, don't give up.

>>588922

I gave up on love here on Earth; all I want is to die at peace with God and myself.

Too bad I’m a furry (even if I am staying away from lewd and pornographic material).

>>589829

>evangelical

Don't worry, you can't fall lower than that

>>589837

Literally me

When thou are noble and virtuous by thine heart the chaste virgins do let thou grab them by the gospel. Tis true! Tis True.

>>590036

just curious, why are Evangelicals looked down upon in these circles?

>>590146

>prosperity """gospel"""

>>590146

Because they’re devoid spiritually (believing in Jesus is the starting point of your salvation, not the end) and typically peddle a bunch more retarded heresies (dispensationalism being a prime example) as a result.