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>>586968

College isn't for anyone.

>When I tried seeking help from counseling , they just kicked me out of the university for being a suicide liability.

I think that may be some of the most flagrantly unjust nonsense I've ever heard. I can't offer you much advice other than this. A).If your passion isn't in your career then you shouldn't order your life around it, especially if that passion is God as we are all fundamentally built towards. B.) My sister is in a similar boat, so never think that you are alone in your suffering. I'll be praying for you.

>>586968

maybe not related or helpful, but you should remember story of Job. Maybe things are shitty right now, but have faith in God and think positive and optimistically. Who knows what will happen tomorrow, maybe some unseen good news is awaiting you.

The point is: dont loose hope or faith.

As for your question: You should try to do and set career according to what you like most. If you like Chemistry, dont become a lawyer.

>>586968

>my struggles aren’t particularly important or titanic,

I don't have an answer for you, but wanted to give a reminder that God is big enough to care more for you and your struggles than you can possibly imagine.

>>586968

Do whatever.

If you want to be a farmer, be a farmer, if you want to be a job that absolutely requires a college degree (which today is really only Law, Medicine, and some STEM but even with STEM) then go do that. If you want to start a business do that. Just live your fucking life according to God and stop thinking "Oh if I do this it will be better"

>>586968

Do a degree that doesn't require much social interaction. I did well in economics yet I only attended exams and a couple lectures a week… Self study is ready of you have no "labs" or group work.

You could try a trade, learn welding or be a mechanic and move to a place that needs tradesman. You'll be working with your hands instead of talking to ppl and looking at paper all day.

Next you could purposely put yourself in a social setting to help overcome your social anxiety

I became an English teacher and after a couple of months my social skills and public speaking skills went up a lot

>>587024

I was going for STEM (computer engineering). For some reason one of my TA's didn't appear to like me, though I do not know their thoughts and cannot claim their motive. They docked me to an 70 for every assignment I turned in for the lab they were in charge of with no or vague remarks as to why, such as:

>Your pseudocode looks too much like real code.

My professor wouldn't budge on the matter. I know it was singling me out specifically because, while she saw me program every lab myself in our lab sessions, and she reprimanded me for not letting my lab partner do the code, AND I turned in my code first every time, she gave him a 100 on each assignment with unmodified code that I wrote and simply forwarded to him. She said my lab reports were lacking, but I followed the instructions perfectly. The only reason I ever got as to why she docked it to a D is the aforementioned one about my fake code looking too much like real code no matter how I wrote it. I'd managed to get my scholarship back after being kicked out the first time for the suicide liability only to lose it when I had her as a TA because nothing I did could prevent my (apparently 100 A work since my roommate turned in the same work and got that grade without knowing a lick of programming) work from getting docked to a D, which lowered my overall class grade as well.

>>587034

I'm pretty sure this is grounds for some sort of lawsuit, or if not it should be. Either way if you've appealed this entirely to the top and nothing has happened go to your local press, or better yet the school paper; as a former journalism major I can tell you they would love to blow the the whistle on this bs.

>>587047

Unfortunately I just swallowed that rage and took the L. I was determined to go to that school nonetheless. I ultimately quit attending after I tried to take courses this previous summer, paid for housing, and then the guidance counselor wouldn't release me to register until after the deadline. I couldn't take any classes (for credit, anyway), and housing refused to cancel my contract, so I had to pay a grand for a dorm I had no use for anymore.

>>587056

I'm sorry to hear that, but the paper can make it heard to everyone. You may not be able to get your degree back, but you can at least get justice and ensure this doesn't happen again.

>>587056

>>587034

that's just one course though, it shouldn't be such a big deal in the grand scheme of your entire degree.

Also the university kicking you out for being a 'suicide liability' doesn't sound legal if that's correct, perhaps there's more you're forgetting to mention…

>>587065

Tanking the grade in that course put me below my scholarship requirements.

I was a minor at the time, so I didn't get to decide. Supposedly the university called my parents and they agreed to have me ejected, but my parents deny it, so I don't know who's being honest.

>>587067

>I was a minor at the time, so I didn't get to decide. Supposedly the university called my parents and they agreed to have me ejected, but my parents deny it

oh it kind of makes sense if the majority of your stress and depression stemmed from you attending university, maybe they did you a favor, because university gets harder and more stressful as you go along…but a different sort of stress, the slow kind that builds up overtime and is waiting to erupt.

>>587070

I suppose, but I've developed far more stress and even self-loathing from viewing myself an abject failure in life due to not completing school than I felt stress before they kicked me out. I didn't seek help to leave, I sought help because I was meme'd into the lie that such a service would give me resources to overcome my stress and be a more sociable person while in university, not kick me out, make everything worse mentally, and say it was for my own good.

>>586968

That's where you're wrong - your actions and struggles are of immense value! God cares about every sin and every act of mercy.

>>586968

Sorry anon, i haven't read all the posts in this thread but, if it's something you like doing, every struggle is gonna be worth it.

I spent 3 years not going to college for a souless degree cause I could not afford it, but now God has given me a chance to be on a college I love and a job that, even if its not on that field, the degree will be useful on it