/christian/ - Christian Discussion and Fellowship

>>573655

Man, my ego is too strong to make a concession like that. Sadly.

>>573655

Yes. And we just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary.

>>573655

I'm afraid I don't have the courage, and I'm not good enough for a girl to love anyways.

>>573655

The only one I told how I felt didn't want me.

The only one who went out with me ultimately decided I wasn't what she wanted.

Another one I thought was kind and attractive was pissed when she figured out I was into her.

Still trying to work up the courage to talk to someone else, S E N D H E L P

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>>573676

It is a numbers game.

Exposure is the key.

Also, a few other guidelines.

1. Talk to a lot of people, male and female. Speak with the girls normally, without the aim to have them as your girlfriend, just enjoy talking to them and become better at socialising and saying what is on your mind confidently.

2. when you realise you like a girl, make it clear to her right away, without delay. don't hesitate, don't worry about what she'll say, don't ever wait for 'the right time'. You can make it clear by telling her you like her, or just saying you want to do something together, by the way you look at her or other things. just make it clear, quickly. that way there is no confusion or disappointment.

3. keep trying, don't be put off. if you don't both like each other the same way, then talk about it and move on. you can learn this usually from a conversation.

4. if you like a girl, the secret is spending time with her. that's it. do different activities together so you can learn each other's personality from lots of different angles.

Keep your chin up, rejection is part of it. Personally I have felt better when asking out a girl and her saying no, than if I say nothing and never tried.

It also because easier with time and practice. You will also improve in how you communicate and deal with emotions and so on.

>>573676

In general, when you have a feeling you want to talk to a girl, or you really like her, just turn your brain off and go over and speak to her.

It is hard at first, but you will become better.

Most of all, it is so very worth it, to know someone you really like, that the small risk of a bit of humiliation in the beginning is incomparable to the reward.

Helps to practise talking to men or women, starting up conversations is a skill, takes practice and in the beginning it is always difficult, same with anything.

Join a social activity, sport, hobby, classes with a mixture of men and women. Something you can go to at least once a week. You can start up conversations with them, talk about anything.

>>573682

Yeah, I do (almost) all of the above currently. I have plenty of friends in the Christian outreach group at my university. I've just always been terrible at dealing with failure.

>>573669

Such people still exist!

Wait not Christianmingle? Did I confuse who was shilling what in the other thread?

>>573728

>6 month anniversary

What?

>>573751

If you go looking for a "fixer-upper", you're setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. Why not find a girl who's already Catholic and comes from a good Catholic family?

>>573751

>convert her to gatholicism :DDD

Doesn't the Catholic Church strictly oppose missionary dating?

>>573756

this would be ideal, if most likely, beacuse im already pretty involved in my parish. haven't seen too many girls my age though, many are either too young or too old.

>>573759

not to my knowledge

>>573771

>many are either too young or too old.

The "too young" ones grow up.

>>573739

I tried it. Lots of the “only God can judge me” types, divorcees, and feminists.

>>573754

we started dating in July, in January it will have been 6th months

>>573728

>"she wants a lot of kids and wants to be a stay at home mom, and she's become my best friend, so everything worked out in the end."

Lucky or blessed?

>>573804

I prayed for a girl like her for years so blessed I think

>>573789

Ok, but the word "anniversary" literally means "the date on which an event took place in a previous year". A "6 month anniversary" makes no sense. Anno = Year.

>>573655

Years ago.

Since I converted I just stopped looking for one.

I told God that if He wants me to have a gf that He needs to literally throw her on my way because like hell I'll approach a non-christian CURRENT YEAR wench.

Nowadays I make it clear that I'm looking for a rich woman because since girls nowadays can't cook, clean or whatnot they better have the money to hire someone who can.

>>573837

You should talk to a pastor or something if you can. Don't put much stake in comments on an Arabian pebble arranging board

>>573655

I'm getting real sick of these 'wanting a gf' threads

>>573837

>We commit fornication

>I had been a virgin

>She's the first woman I've ever [loved]

whatever you do, bear in mind you are never going to forget your first love or the woman you lost your virginity to.

if you don't think you can ever trust her again after her betrayal, leave her immediately.

>I feel empty

that's denial/shock.

anger, bargaining and depression are pointless, skip to acceptance.

don't accept that she cheated on you, accept that it happened, it's your new reality.

figure out what you want from her and talk to her. lay out your demands, issue your ultimatums.

Confess your love to Jesus, not to thots

I get shy around girls, so no

>>573837

I am so sorry you are experiencing this, anon. (((Current year))) dating is more of a curse for us men with little to no experience. Her excessive drinking and her not being a virgin were indicators that her infidelity was a given. I only see two options: you can either break up and try to get over her, which will take a while, but if I could manage my last heartache, then you are surely able to do the same. Or else, if your love is still burning so deeply for her, be the man in charge and command her what she shall and shall not do, with the due repercussions if she misbehaves - you're a man and she's a woman, she is beneath you and you ought to make her feel that way. It might secure your relationship with her for good. Watch video related to get an idea.

>>573856

Then go to another thread, ya uptight prick.

I've said I love you to a handful of girls but never meant it.

I'm not sure if I can love.

>>573655

I wouldn't even love myself

>>573751

>>573771

UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU GO FOR A FIXER-UPPER. The woman MUST be WOMAN, VIRGIN = 必, same religion +species + langauge + same lifevalue = 必必必必必. conservative = 必 tradition = 必.

THEY don't get better, you canot fix!

>>573773

good advice

>>574071

That's called dodging a bullet. At least you wouldn't be wasting your time.

>find girl

>have similar interests Christian, fairly cute, 99% certain she is a virgin

>wait to long to ask her out and get friendmemed because of it

>expected to purge all attraction to her

That was a year ago.

I don't really talk to many people because that's just how I am. Lots of the people I attract end up being part of the atheist gamer crowd sadly, so it's rare to find a nice christian gal willing to talk to me, even in a majority christian state like mine.

It doesn't help that college is secular. It's probably for the best though, as I'm not really ready for marriage yet.

>>574050

This tbh.

Break up with her and you risk losing what could have been a great, if "fixer-upper" relationship.

Stay with her and you risk discovering that she's a whore with no self-control, thus causing yourself even more heartache.

>>573676

>Another one I thought was kind and attractive was pissed when she figured out I was into her.

That doesn't make sense. A woman realises that she's a target of someone's crush and is angry about it? Are people really like this? I mean, dealing with unwanted sexual attention is one thing but she, upon realising your feelings, even whilst they weren't announced, was angry anyway?

>>580298

>all the good men are at home masturbating

>>580300

https://hooktube.com/watch?v=kSwsmQKDwyA

>>580298

get out of here with your MGTOW faggotry

>>580322

Pretty good video until the 8 minute mark where she absolves the male involved in adultery because muh evolution

My mom and dad.