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I have used porn regularly for ten years and fallen in love with multiple anime girls

how can I judge anyone at this point

>>569368

>finding a girl who hasn't kissed someone

This kinda bugged me too, knowing my gf has kissed other guys before me, but then I remember that I've probably masturbated hundreds of times in my life and still continue to do so frequently. One thing you have to remember is that most guys have kissed girls too.

>>569382

Not all kisses are made equal, I suppose. Some are quite indecent.

>>569368

Holy shit? Kissing. I mean, c'mon. Kisses may be personal but there's no telegony problem there.

I think finding a woman below the age of 40 who even attends church is the first issue you need to worry about.

>>569389

I don't know what you are talking about. There are plenty of young girls on the big parish close to where I live.

>>569394

Your parish is not the norm.

>>569427

Not really my parish. I go to a smaller one, where there are only babushkas. But my point is - look for a big one, it is bound to have some young women there.

>>569368

>chronic masturbator

>former drug user

>fornicated twice

>violent thoughts daily

>still trying to become a pious Christian

Any woman who falls under a similar event chain is fine by me. If I've made mistakes and faltered in my faith, then that means girls my age have done the same, and if they're as pious as I'm nurturing myself to be, their past will no longer bother me, and instead we'll have each other.

>>569443

No, "we all" don't really know, lol

>>569442

I hope you find peace, m8, and perhaps a woman to keep you company in this troubled life.

>>569382

Masturbation is a mortal sin. Go to confession and pray the rosary every day.

>>569451

wtf im catholic now

>>569368

It bugs me a little bit, knowing that my girlfriend has kissed another guy. But, in the end, I've kissed another girl, too, so I can't judge much. I also know that, despite her being older than me, she's been able to keep her virginity even in situations of extreme temptation, all the while I was a porn addict until about 5 or 6 months ago. On top of that, I'm the first guy she's kissed in 6 years, while the last time I kissed a girl besides her was less than a year ago. But kissing one's boyfriend is something to be expected, to a certain degree, but sending lewds is another story. Sending lewds can be indicative of larger personality and moral problems.

It's all a matter of perspective. Hold them only to a standard you, too, can meet. If you find a virgin, you've found a gem, so try not to let something like a small history of kissing one or two boys get in the way of marital discernment.

>>569425

If you were young than these relationships were meant to end. I've heard that people who stay with their high school bf/gf stay in really bad relationships because they never mature. Try not to dwell on it.

>>569368

If a girl had sex in a coupe of long term relationships, that's fine. If she goes out every weekend and makes out with people and has one night stands, that's unacceptable. I'm very picky when it comes to their personalities and looks, that's my main problem. I feel I will settle and ultimately be unhappy with my choice, if I even decide to marry

>>569669

>If a girl had sex in a coupe of long term relationships, that's fine

t. cuckold.

Why didn't she stay in any of those relationships?

Why did she have premartial sex?

>>569681

He just said it is fine by him, not that it is universally acceptable.

Some men just have lower standards. Men marrying actual whores is not something rare. Just relax, my dude.

>>569681

Because maybe despite the fact she thought it would work out with that dude, it didn't? Maybe she was in love, but later saw he's not what she's looking for. I can't shoot a girl who had good intentions but got screwed over.

The premarital sex thing is bad, I agree. However, it's simply completely unrealistic these days to expect a 25 year old girl to be a virgin. And that's more the Church's fault than hers.

>>569683

A girl who had 2 2 year relationships is not a whore. That's actually the next best scenario after a virgin, who is basically unattainable for 99% of men nowadays. Most girls are whores though.

i will never in a million years accept a women who isn't a virgin. even if it means getting an arranged marriage from a woman from a shithole country.

yes, i'm not a virgin myself. but women and men should be held to different standards. why would i settle for a used woman when i can get unused? its no competition for those roasties

>>569697

>A girl who had 2 2 year relationships is not a whore.

There is a gradation, I suppose. Women aren't all saints or whores.

I wouldn't call 2 2 years relatioships a good record, tho.

>>569729

holy shit, the way cheating rates raise 10 times by just having one more partner is disgusting.

i honestly hate women. at least western women. they offer nothing. i have so much love to give to a women, but western women deserve none of it.

>>569738

and dont forget that women will straight up lie about their partner count. they will always deflate it, and they will always hide one night stands.

>>569739

If someone sins, you should feel sorry and pray for them.

Don't lead your life on hate. It will do you great evil. May sound cliche but it is the truth.

Am I, in my heart of hearts, a virgin? No. So, as long as we got on well with each other, I wouldn't care about a woman having a few partners before meeting me, as long as she'd gotten her life on the right track.

>>569754

Men can't be virgins to begin with, your whole vision on the matter is distorted by propaganda.

>>569754

>ignoring woman's past up to the point of meeting her

Why though?

>>569748

its very hard for me not to be hateful right now. i recently got out of a 5 year relationship when i found sending her sending sexual messages to other men. this is a women called herself christian. this world is so rotten

>>569762

yeah this is just stupid. the best way of telling how someone will act in the future is by looking into their past. if she slut it up in the past the idea will always be in the back of her mind while shes with you

>>569766

The world is indeed rotten, and it seens it is bound to get worse and worse. Yet, I say to you, don't let the dirt of the world to reach your heart. Keep your eyes on the Lord just as when Peter walked above the water. Keep your eyes on him and on nothing else.

I wish I had something better to tell you. Fortunately I've been spared of such things like that, so I wouldn't know any better. God bless and may you find peace.

>>569779

Virginity is a state particular to women, as teached by the scripture and the church.

>>569770

thank you for your kind words. im over her at this point. shes a complete mess without me and i see that as god punishing her. i just want to find a women who i can trust again

>>569779

>>569781

i blame "virgin" being used commonly as an insult for that. people are so obsessed with sex that they warp the meaning of a word.just to insult people

>>569781

Interesting. I don't want to put you on the spot but do you have the verses that make this statement? I genuinely believe you, but would like to do further reading myself, as this anon >>569790 notes, I mostly know it from the negative connotation.

>>569797

No, I don't have them on me, but it shouldn't be hard for you to find.

Look for the "virgins of the church", for example.

>>569797

Also, the "negative connotation" reinforces the point. Usually it's men who are shamed for being virgins, not females. Even the world knows only women can be virgins and use this as a insult to imply effeminacy on the boys.

>>569760

>>569803

These are they which were not defiled with women; for they are virgins. These are they which follow the Lamb whithersoever he goeth. These were redeemed from among men, being the firstfruits unto God and to the Lamb. Revelation 14

>>569754

Not advisable.

>>569804

Saint John must have said that as an analogy.

>>569801

Thank you, I'll do that. Polite sage for not furthering the discussion.

>>569801

>Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman

1 Cor 7:1

Paul encourages chastity in men. Not an explicit use of the word virgin I guess, but what would you call a virgin male then? A chaste man?

>>569825

Yes, a chaste men. I didn't mean by saying that men can't be virgins that men shouldn be chaste. They should.

I couldn't help but to keep thinking about the lad talking about a girl with 2 2 years relationships.

I would beware women like this, specially if they keep in touch with their "exes". It is know among the pagans that women often fornicate with their previous boyfriends, even after being with someone new, going back on and off. Sexual intimacy is not something trivial, specially if it was built through years and years.

I'm not saying that they are all hopeless and you shouldn't even consider. You do what you think is best for you, but have some prudence.

God bless.

>>569680

I'm in my mid 20s and did it pretty much every day in my teens and early 20s, so I assume that adds up to hundreds. I've tried no-fap but like most who try it I have relapses.

>>569451

okay, but I'll do the Jesus prayer instead

Also does a woman who's raped lose her virginity? Or is virginity a matter of spiritual purity than physical

>>569375

first post truest post

At this point the best we can do is wage a fucking hellfire culture war on the media that fucking destroyed our youth and those bonds that tie us to our ancestors.

"The greatest men are the ones that plant the olive tree knowing he will not live long enough to enjoy its shade…" something like that

>>569916

>the Jesus prayer

How fo Pray

‘God, you our Fadda.

You stay inside da sky.

We like all da peopo know fo shua how you stay,

An dat you stay good an spesho,

An we like dem give you plenny respeck.

10We like you come King fo everybody now.

We like everybody make jalike you like,

Ova hea inside da world,

Jalike da angel guys up inside da sky make jalike you like.

11Give us da food we need fo every day.

12Hemo our shame, an let us go

Fo all da kine bad stuff we do to you,

Jalike us guys let da odda guys go awready,

An we no stay huhu wit dem

Fo all da kine bad stuff dey do to us.

13No let us get chance fo do bad kine stuff,

But take us outa dea, so da Bad Guy no can hurt us.

[Cuz you our King,

You get da real power,

An you stay awesome foeva.

Dass it!]’

>>570347

Jesus Prayer is "O Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me, A sinner".

You're saying the Lord's prayer.

>>569926

Rape is sex without consent and a virgin is someone who hasn't had sex so obviously a woman who gets raped is not a virgin. By no fault of her own and we shouldn't judge her for it of course.

>>570347

muhfuggin BIX NOOD, amen.

>>570377

That's not bix nood, you uncultured swine. That's Hawaiian Pidgin.

>>570378

>Spell and write like a bix nood.

>When you speak it, it sounds like a bix nood

>Sounds like a STRONK BLACK WOMAN WHO NEED NO MAN

Yeah, it's bix nood.

>>570379

>being this ignorant

It's Pidgin, a Hawaiian dialect. What that anon posted is directly copied from the Pidgin Bible. If it were urban african, it would contain "muhfuggas" and "nowutamsayin". Pidgin sounds nothing like Ebonics.