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>>548363

If you're lucky to have another parish nearby that offers confession you can always go there. Otherwise, just go to your parish priest and confess your grave sins in kind and number (e.g. impure thoughts, looking at porn, etc. and the number of times each). Those kinds of sins you mentioned are probably among the 10 sins your priest hears the most often, so don't worry. Priests are there to help us, not judge us.

my friend doesn't get into too much detail at confession, if he lusts he'll say something like "I lusted with my mind and objectified women for my bodily needs", instead of talking about each time he looked at a girls boobs or hips or which position he fantasized about taking her in. That's what he told me anyway, when I first started going to church and didn't know how to confess.

If he hates someone and talks bad about them he'll say something like: "I sinned with my mouth and spoke ill of my neighbors" instead of repeating the details of what was said.

I don't think the priest asks for too many details, he hears this stuff everyday and is more interested in offering advice and prayin for your forgiveness. As long as you show intent to change that's what matters.

Remember the priest isn't the one forgiving you, he's just praying to God to forgive you. God is the one you should go into detail with.

>>548366

>top 10 sins priest hears most often

Did you not see what I wrote? Do I actually have to tell him my impure thoughts were incestual or can I just say "impure thoughts"?

>>548363

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seal_of_the_Confessional_in_the_Catholic_Church

>>548373

>Do I actually have to tell him my impure thoughts were incestual or can I just say "impure thoughts"?

You do not have to elaborate at all, though I personally think you should. You could just say "lust".

going to the corner of the church where everyone can see you makes it really uncomfortable

>>548375

Father is going to think I'm fucking disgusting if I tell him it was incestual. So just to clarify once and for all, it's not sacrilege against confession if I don't tell him what exactly I lusted for, just that I lusted and had impure thoughts?

>>548379

Not even a Catholic, but I'm certain that guy has heard absolutely everything by now. I wouldn't worry about him judging you.

>>548379

>So just to clarify once and for all, it's not sacrilege against confession if I don't tell him what exactly I lusted for

The general consensus from googling a bit seems to be that you only need to communicate the number, kind, and gravity of the sins. "Gravity" doesn't seem to mean how bad as in how disgusting, repulsive, degenerate, etc., but rather how serious a hold it has over you.

>Father is going to think I'm fucking disgusting if I tell him it was incestual

You are disgusting, and he already knows that, or ought to.

>>548388

Callan's and McHugh's "Moral Theology" seems to claim that fantasising lustfully about some specific sexual sin would indeed cause species of sin other than simple "lust" to appear.

I don't know if omitting detail would invalidate the sacrament - OP should investigate the matter here - but invalidity of a sacrament is such a grave evil that it cannot be risked unless in case of extreme evil (e.g. an infant who is certainly going to die within minutes and the only available matter with which to baptise him is of a species that is only doubtfully water).

>>548379

>Father is going to think I'm fucking disgusting

We all are. Every one of us are degenerate sinners, unworthy of God's grace. The priest knows that already.

Go to confession.

>>548363

>We gather furthermore, that those circumstances which change the species of the sin are also to be explained in confession, because that, without them, the sins themselves are neither entirely set forth by the penitents, nor are they known clearly to the judges; and it cannot be that they can estimate rightly the grievousness of the crimes, and impose on the penitents, the punishment which ought to be inflicted, on account of them.

http://www.thecounciloftrent.com/ch14.htm

>>548482

Also, from what I can gather from the Net, kind=species.

> the priest at my parish is Indian and knows who I am

Go to another parish.

>>548517

Why does this evening matter? I went to confession to confess fapping one time and he looked right at me as I walked into the confessional.

>>548363

Just go to confession. It'll be aleright. At one point I went over 10 years (closer to 15) where I did not go to confession. Finally confessing was great! It felt like a ton of bricks were lifted off my shoulders. Just do it, fam.

Are you guys sure that you need to be specific with sins?

From my google searches in the past,most people say that you just need to mention the kind of sin(masturbation, porn, etc).

So if you watched gay porn, you could just say "i watched porn" and not mention it was gay porn.

>>548778

"Gay" in "gay porn" makes it more greve, doesn't it?

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>>548363

you do not have to be exact and gory with your confessions, try to make it simple, clear and concise.

When I do confessions, I just list them and then burn them after the services.

Alright I did, I confessed about the thoughts I had, and did not hold back. I had so much on my confession list though, I don't think father was able to focus on them all, and he ended up giving me advice sins totally unrelated to the sin I was embarrassed to confess and then confessed. I took the Eucharist and it was amazing. I felt so close to God when I finally took the Eucharist after a long time without it. I felt the essence of God dwell in me, I could feel he Holy Spirit working in me. Thank you /christian/.

>>550061

God bless you my man.