This is wrong on so many levels.
>OP wants to be tenderly loved
>By someone on fetlife
>Goes on a BDSM playdate
>Without discussing his partner's kinks in depth
>Without agreeing on a safeword
>Hard liquor on a BDSM meetup
>OP doesn't find this suspicious at all, plays along
>"No" is not a safeword
>The guy threatens OP with a knife
>He is fully aware that OP knows his address and his fetlife profile
>OP is prone to panic attacks
>Somehow his anxiety issues don't affect him when he drives to an unknown place in a stranger's car
>Guy forcibly drugs OP with disassociatives
>Then sends OP to the bathroom alone and intoxicated
>The guy abuses OP for a few days
>He just releases OP with all the evidence against him, including his address, possibly his car's number plate, probably a phone number, a social media profile and the messages between them, not to mention his DNA
>OP just sleeps off a badly torn rectum that was abused for 3 consecutive days, without bleeding out or getting a serious e-coli infection, without any medical attention for about a year
One of the main goals of fetlife's existence is to sort out people who don't play according to the rules, making the community safer, and it's members easier to trust, which is the very essence of every sub-dom relationship. Yeah, lets just undermine that with a BS story. People who use BDSM as an excuse to daterape get weeded out after their first time TRYING to pull off shit like this.
I think the story went down somewhat like this
>OP wants someone to baby him
>He's clueless about BDSM but fetlife is his best bet due to his kink and financial status
>Convinces a dom to meet him
>Dom does everything he can to appeal to OP
>It's time to return the favor, OP refuses
>OP doesn't use a safeword
>Dom thinks its all part of the game and OP likes it rough
>Proceeds to put a disobidient sub in his place, gives OP the rough he thinks OP desires
>Dom realizes OP is new to BDSM, actually doesn't enjoy this, but too scared to speak up
>whathaveidone.jpg
>playtime immediately terminated
>waits until OP is in a presentable state, and drops him off near OP's house
>OP regrets his actions, wants revenge
>Their messaging has evidence that OP agreed to play along
>Reporting to fetlife or the coppers is not an option
>OP knows Dom likes ABs, so he tries to undermine Dom's reputation on every related forum, giving out as little intel as possible, so people wont disprove his victim status with research
I honestly hope I'm wrong and this is just a screwed up faptasy of yours, OP, because I've read erotic novels with a storyline more believeable than yours, what you wrote here looks like a classic example of a false accusation.
>inb4 victim shaming-blaming
He ain't no victim unless he proves it.
>inb4 defending a rapist
I'd never do that. How about a nice cup of innocent until proven guilty?