/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover★

If it was anything like my gf the initial freak out was because they thought I was a paedophile. What exactly did they say

>>73438 (OP)

Lesson number one, don't have a stash when you're living with your PARENTS. Common sense.

>>73438 (OP)

Let the storm calm for a while. After that, you should try to discuss with them their main concern about what they saw. Be as truthful as you can, but don't tell them anything they don't need to know (of course this also depends on what you've already told them/what all they saw). My dad found my diaper cover in the dryer once and I told him it was just to make masturbation a cleaner process (lie, but this way he just thinks I'm stupid instead of a deviant). Later, he heard my diaper under my pants and thought it was the diaper cover, and confronted me. I told him it was a weird fixation I've had since I was very little but not sexual (again, a lie). He kept bringing it up for the next couple months asking if I'm still having "urges" as he called them, but I always shut it doown quickly and convinced him I'm fine and that I threw it away. At this point I'm sure he thinks it was just a phase.

In any case, as >>73456 said, they're likely concerned you're a pedophile. It could also be that you're gay or a crossdresser/tranny, depending on their religious convictions (these were among my dad's concerns). Figure out why they are upset and find a way to satisfy them. For me, it was as simple as convincing my dad that I got rid of them and wouldn't wear them again, although he also wanted me to see a psychiatrist. Your best course of action might just be to "admit" that this fetish is wrong and that you need to see a psychiatrist/go to confession/whatever will please them most. A psychiatrist worth his spit will tell you you're fine and help convince your parents that you're "cured" after a few sessions. It will take a while, but everything should go back to normal eventually.

>>73465

This. I still live with my parents and really want to wear diapers but I'd rather have a good relationship with my family then fuck it over over indulging in my fetishes while living with them

>>73465

People can decide if the risk of having and wearing diapers in their parents house is worth it. But it seems overlooked to leave very visible note explaining why you have diapers of course not to the extent "I simply masturbate in diapers deal with it" and why you think they aren't a problem.

After a few weeks or months I'd add in the fact they never noticed and that seemed to work out fine for all parties.

>>73491

This is a bad idea. If outed and the finders are willing to move on, DO NOT bring it back up yourself. Leave well-enough alone and let the finder's attention fade away, never to return.

That way, you learn a lesson in securing your stash, the finder is able to forget about it, and it doesn't spiral out of control.

>>73438 (OP)

Sorry to hear that your parents are lame. Lock up your stash next time.

I have my own place, but was found out by my aunt. She's cool with it. We have a long standing inside joke where she calls herself vanilla. She's a cool lady, everyone should have at least one in the family.

Their ignorance isn't yours. If they think pedophilia, even though it hurts, understand that they don't know any better and hope that they find enough love within themselves to at least put an ounce of effort in trying to educate themselves.

It's the parents job to give their children the benefit of the doubt and try to resolve petty conflicts like these. Any parent that doesn't know what males do in their rooms are in denial or lived a sheltered and repressed upbringing. Of course you'd be fapping in your room, what difference does it make where you finish? As long as you are hygienic about it, it's cool. And even then, your mess is your own. As long as your mess is contained within your space and doesn't spill out into theirs.

Since this is in the talks, I would like to present my case, too.

always had a small hiding place in my bedroom to store a small amount of diapers, no more than 1 pack of diapers like Pampers or DryNites. I got found out a few times, but only once directly wearing which I was able to blame on an "experimental phase". Long story short, my dad took away my last pack of diapers 6 months ago and I haven´t been wearing since, I tried to reduce/stop wearing anyway, but it´s getting harder not to think about it.

Anyway. My parents are completely against diapers, and I completely ran out of hiding spots, and I really want to wear again, even if it is just once, even without wetting or anything.

Any advice on this case?

>>73509

Why do they keep snooping around so much? If you’re an adult I’d tell them to fuck off. Real advice though, as bad as it may sound, is to wait until you move out. I’m in a similar situation after being discovered once

>>73509

Yeah wait until you move out. Fighting your parents on it isn't wise since you still live with them. I'd say maybe in the meantime, order some sample packs once in a while and use them immediately. You'll get 2 diapers for like $10. It's way more expensive per diaper, but that way you can get your fix real quick and your parents will be none the wiser. Just don't drain your bank account.

>>73509

File cabinet with lock and key. Put in lockbox inside the locked file cab. Can store a few in a folder. Either that or move out. Fighting tough parents is a waste of energy.

>>73523

This. A locked box will raise more questions than solve problems.

>tfw oldfag who's folks confiscated his hentai VHS at the turn of the decade.

>>73528

True but the end all be all is that its their house its their rules. If you don't like it the only choice is move out.

>>73530

That's one choice to be certain. I guess it boils down to understanding your parents values. Some parents would shrug and be cool with it and people here reading this know who they are. As for others know that their parents will most likely freak out, so if you fall into the latter camp then it's best to save up and get out of there or be extremely sneaky but risk getting caught because parents are wiser to your tendencies than you realize.

Philosophizing over whether or not it's cool for the parents doesn't help the situation other than helping the one found out to have their tensions eased that what they are doing isn't an evil, but that some parents aren't going to get it. While it's my opinion that it's bad parenting, you are living under their roof and they, in their love, think they are helping you. It's more of an understanding thing on part of the one getting caught. We all know that fear of getting caught, and some know the shame that's felt when we are caught.

But the end result is this: If you think your parents aren't going to understand, either risk being sneaky, don't do it, or save up to move out. Those are the only available options. Maybe stick to fapping to pictures in incognito mode to avoid possible binge & purge cycles that we tend to be prone towards.

Are you paying rent to live at your parents? One thing that never gets brought up from the whole living with parents thing is if there is money around.

Yeah it's their house, so their rules n all but if you are employed and paying to live there I do feel what u do in your own room is a different story than if you are living off them still.

>>73493

I meant add it in the note if it hasn't been found.

>>73549

If you are that concerned of someone finding your stash of diapers, simply don't keep a stash.

My original point was this: if you're found out but the finder is willing to forget about it, move on like it never happened.

Tossing in a note will only complicate the situation needlessly. Don't be a stupid retard - don't write a note.

>>73552

This works for more 'normal' families, but remember that a lot of parents of our fellow anons tend to be massive faggots. There is a distinct possibility that your experiences are nothing akin to theirs.

>>73560

You think people let alone family are just going to forget printed adult diapers?

>>73563

Didn't have any AB stuff but I was found out when I lived at home, nosy mother--it was hidden pretty well but this was around the time my friends and I were getting into drugs so I guess it was a cell toss.

Came down to asking if I had a medical problem, said no just like them, and it's not been revisited in the intervening decade.

Not what I would have wanted given the choice between being found out and not, but some family is capable. Unfortunate that this appears to be the lucky exception here, especially for OP.

>>73552

do you actually believe that property ownership confers the right to violate privacy? do you let your landlord bust down your door and search your apartment on a whim too? cuck

>>73581

This isn't about personal liberty beliefs, faggot. I'm just telling you how people act and think. Though your parents actually do have a right to be in your room. Even a lot of contracts allow landlords to come into your apartment for various reasons.

>>73582

> Even a lot of contracts allow landlords to come into your apartment for various reasons.

That requires a 24 hour notice. A landlord can't just knock on your door and force themselves in unannounced. It may be their property, but tenants have rights. And they certainly can't be like, "Hey, that gigantic lockbox… what's in there? ARE THERE BABY BOTTLES IN THERE?!? LEASE REVOKED, BABY SCUM!"

Just saying.

>>73586

nobody cares about this bullshit we're talking about nosy parents here

>>73587

Yeah, yeah, I know. Just creating some levity.

As for nosy parents, only options have been laid out.

A lock box or crate is a good idea if you have cool parents but don't want them to discover your personal taboo. A bad idea if you have parents that are prone to freaking out about it… or at least risky. Like others have said, it may make some parents even more nosy, and you don't want to call attention to it.

I mean; There aren't many options here. At this point, the rest of the thread is going to die, become a venting/bad experience thread, and/or become an online support group. ABDL Caught Survivors Anonymous.

>>73523

The best solution (aside from having your own place) is to manage your own affairs well enough that your room is not intruded upon.

This basically works for me better than any lock; why have a lock if no one actually comes into your chambers?

>>73563

"Forget" is not the operative term in that example.

The point is that you should work to find a way to move beyond the unfortunate discovery of your stash, in a positive way.

This must be so uncomfortable, I remember when my mom found out that I was into crossdressing and… well… let's just say she didn't react well -- she thrown out all my girly clothes.

And up to today this become a subject that we don't talk about, we completely ignore, she knows that I'm into and doesn't make questions, and neither do I talk about it.

But we went back to talk and having a relationship we just don't talk about this, because it's meeh, unpleasant.

>>73438 (OP)

OP if they don't bring it up again I wouldn't push it. Think about storing your stuff in the trunk of your car or something from now on.

>>73624

What this guy said. If they don't say anything don't bring it up.

I know for a fact when I was living at home my parents found like all my stuff.

I had no door to my room it was just an open walkway + I shared a room with one of my brothers so privacy wasn't really a thing.

I used to keep my diapers and stuff in my military bag by my computer, nobody really looked in there assuming it was just junk from the military. Then I got ballsy and bought a BUNCH of diapers, some stuffers, plastic pants, pacifiers, and plushies…so much it couldn't fit in the bag so I just kinda had to shove it behind / under my bed because that was like the only place it all would fit. As it wore down I moved some around to like under the drawer of a dresser and inside this compartment under the couch cushions in my room.

Then there was a problem with my AC unit (which was right by my bed / computer) and my parents had to unplug it..the plug being right next to a pair of plastic pants and some stuffers in a bag. My parents didn't come out and ask me about it, they just said they had to move the bed a little to get to the plug. I guess kinda lowkey letting me know they saw the items?

Later on I just said screw it kinda and started sleeping with a paci and a stuffed animal sometimes I'd be padded other times I wouldn't. I know for a fact they walked into the room at times and saw it but again, never said anything. I'd also walk around the house in a diaper and some loose fitting pants (like wind pants to hide the crinkle) and I'd change in the bathroom stashing the used one in there until people went to bed then I'd take the dirty ones outside to toss in the trash in 2 trash bags.

I think the only times it was brought up at all was during that whole Tykables cluster fuck where the town was in outrage about him opening up a store, my dad asked if I had heard about it, we kinda did the whole "I don't care what people do just keep it in the bedroom" thing, then laughed at all the freaks who like running around openly in fetish gear and kinda made fun of the people who wanna be dogs like "are we gonna have to give them special areas in parks to piss and shit?" and that was the end of it. (He'd heard about it on the radio while driving to work.)

Then as I was moving out my mom was helping gather up some of the stuff I had left and was going through a box I kept under the bed and found an Adult Baby Contract manual with my name and my Mommy / Fiance's name on it (the woman I was moving in with) and I know she probably read the whole thing and just put it back in the box. Then when I came to pick it up she just went through the box again and kinda pulled it out in mock surprise like "Adult baby contract? Is this yours?"

To which I just kinda took it and put it back in the box…and nothing more was said about it.

>>73626

Oh yeah and one time my brother and I were drunk and I just came right out and told him about it. He was like "I don't need to know about that, but everyone has something." Then we both laughed at how ridiculous it is, and he brought up this part in the video game and we laughed some more.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zO-rwAsAjrg

>>73628

Damn thinking about it I got caught a lot…when I was like 13-14 (computers were still kinda new so we only had one) I was jerking it to diapergal and my mom was walking it so I quickly changed the tab and pretended like nothing was happening. She walked over and saw the tabs then was like "what's diapergal? I wanna see it" so I quickly closed it and said it was something stupid I had clicked on.

Then again when I was like 16 I had just gotten my license. My mom said she was gonna go out and scrape the ice off her van's window but she couldn't find her scraper so she asked to borrow mine which I kept under the seat of my truck.

Just so happens I had recently bought a pack of baby diapers to see if they'd fit / for the smell of them and had forgotten I put them under the seat until I had already said it was ok for her to use it. She comes back in later and asked about them and I quickly made up that it was a gag gift me and some other friends were going to give someone. She let it go at that.

>>73601

What happened?

>>73608

my mum is kinda like this

she'd rather pretend something isn't happening than deal with it, so as long as "the issue" is well hidden then neither of us have to deal with it

same goes for massive depression, until it erupts in an overdose or a cut too deep and we have to spend the night in A&E doing all the talking that we should have done a long time ago

then forgetting about it until next time

I’m 19 and my parents have never had a problem with the diaper thing. They’re super lefty and open, though and I know that is rare. I told them I was abdl when I was like 13 after they found some of my diapers. I’m pretty sure they think I’m dependent on them at night as well.

I consider myself lucky that one of my family members is okay with it. My genetic mother is a very NIMBY person and also very controlling, my father is okay with it as long I'm not being obnoxious, or hurting someone.

>>73523

This is bullshit.

I have my own kids. Once they are adults, they can stay as long as they pay rent. Minimum rent means they're covering food and any expenses they cause. Legitimate medical reasons, and I'll back them up temporarily.

I will also treat them like a fucking adult. I'd kick another adult out for doing something illegal or creating a health hazard but as long as they're clean enough not to attract bugs, paying their expenses (and, ideally, their share of fixed costs, e.g. rent and prop. maintenance) they're an equal party and I will treat them as such.

Why is this concept so hard to understand? I don't want to know about my kids sex-lives, and they're obviously going to have one someday, so why am I going to snoop through their shit?

What the hell is wrong with people? They just want someone to dominate and they use their children to fulfill their shitty ego and argue it's "protecting" them. They aren't protecting them, they're enjoying dominating them.

Mum went snooping through my room while I was camping, a good 17 years ago when I was 12 and " accidentally " found my tiny stash putting away my clothes, even though there were none to put away and I'd been doing that myself since age 5.

She didn't twll anyone immediately, but waited until we had a couple families over for dinner and just bust one out right on the table when everyone finished eating, saying "LOOK WHAT I FOUND IN ANONS DRAWERS WHILE HE WAS AWAY ON CAMP, TRYING TO HIDE THEM."

I think everyone found it so awkward that they didn't laugh and actually had sympathetic looks on their faces. I haven't talked to her since I moved out at 15.

Every now and then the rest of my family would try getting me to talk to her or come around eg for her 50th but nope.

Who does something like that, as if she's back at school and this juicy gossip to embarass me in front of half the people I knew would make her the cool kid. Silly bitch.

/coolstory

Any update OP?

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