e5788f No.68620
Why are you AB/DL, /abdl/?
Is it because of the ‘relaxation’ aspect? Is it sexual? Or do you just like role play?
9b5658 No.68623
>>68622
I dunno. I'm pretty skeptical on the community overall as it seems people will do anything to justify their fetish, but I think some of the people who had really truly traumatic childhoods, or lives generally, get some totally non-sexual peace from that safely revisiting or taking a break from thinking about something that bothers them.
e5788f No.68629
>>68623
Is it sexual for you?
2fd640 No.68630
I just like how diapers look on people and parts of the relaxation / humiliation aspects
9b5658 No.68641
>>68629
For me, sure. I'm a straight DL though, so I'm not exactly indulging to change anything about myself other than my underwear.
8019bb No.68642
I'm an ass man and first came to like diapers just because it naturally emphasizes the butt, but not so much for its other aspects. Then as it got older I developed a liking of desperation play with the relief and pleasure of releasing ones bladder after holding it for as long as possible. The two naturally synergized well and now here we are. Other fetishes I've picked up (like hypnosis, femdom, crossdressing, etc) also tend to work nicely with it.
aa833e No.68643
I like when my pee pee is surrounded by goey warm.
3123ae No.68646
>>68623
90% sure I was abused by my mom, for me its sexual definitely, I don't know how that works though, I keep reliving a traumatic event in my subcouncious as a sexual fantasy so there's never any real healing going on
93bb52 No.68660
FUCK embarrassment, FUCK pain, FUCK bondage, FUCK all of that shit.
Good feelings and respectful mutual love all the way.
9b2f94 No.68662
>>68660
Finally, someone who gets it
86d595 No.68663
>>68646
My mom is diagnosed NPD (my sister in law is a licensed therapist and we informally diagnosed her). I wonder if her poor parenting didn't lead to this fetish. Not directly through abuse, but that her poor parenting caused me to not be completely potty trained until nearly four.
>>68660
This, I don't like bondage unless it's nurturing and gentle, maybe some soft scolding at most but no hardcore dominatrix stuff. Regression is theraputic to me.
I've been playing with a personal hypothesis that DLs are people who "failed potty training." When a child can control their sphincters but refuses to do so, that child is regarded as un potty trained. So when and adult is wearing diapers for comfort and using them, then they are not fully trained because they failed the last hurdle: abandoning any preference for diapers. Pic related, just some girls who aren't truly potty trained.
90f9e1 No.68665
I love the thought of giving up even the most basic of adult abilities in favor of infantile humiliation
Using diapers, not even having the capacity to change myself, just having everything taken care of by my carer while I content myself with a life of playing with baby toys and watching baby shows
2f2333 No.68668
No abuse but probably potty trained too early. Diapers always excited me from as far back as I can remember, the feel and smell and appearance were just bliss for me… I started masturbating and dry cumming at around age 7-8 and used to poop underwear since that was all I had and 0 stores besides a gas station within biking distance of my house. When I hit puberty I stopped wanting diapers for a little bit strangely and just jerked it to straight loli for a few months. Then I started getting STRONG urges for seeing diapered lolicon or even just high quality pictures of baby diapers. I went through the binge and purge phase pretty early on thankfully and got that dumb shit out of my system. Then a few years later I got into sissy stuff and realized I would make an AWFUL dom and turned completely sub instead.
I dream of having a caretaker who just dotes on me all day while I fill my pampers up for them, and getting rewarded for being a good baby boy with diaper rubs and anal play <3
3123ae No.68672
>>68660
sounds like you have a love fetish
bca0d1 No.68675
>>68660
This, but I do enjoy feeling small and lacking influence… just like a child. Gentle humiliation, maybe? Where it's noted in some part in your mind that you are, after all, an adult dressed and acting like a child and being treated like one, but that it doesn't really embarrass you.
406c4d No.68686
I honestly have no idea why I like diapers. The obsession with them goes back at least as far as my memory does.
There is a sexual component to it I suppose (hard to avoid with warm squishy stuff around your dick), but I also enjoy just wearing diapers normally as if I were incontinent and doing nothing sexual with them. I would probably go 24/7 if I were in a position to.
Not interested in role play. The AB side of things does very little for me.
There's no abuse or trauma, or any issues with potty training or the like, from my childhood as far as I know. My parents were great.
So I dunno, really not sure why I have this fetish.
490cfc No.68687
>>68686
If you have wanted to wear them for as long as you can remember, then shouldn't you consider it an issue that you didn't get to wear them earlier in your life?
406c4d No.68688
>>68687
I'm really not sure what you're getting at.
f87e31 No.68689
To me, diapers are the perfect humiliation tool because they represent a loss of control. They are associated with piss and shit, and only babies, old people, or mentally / physically handicapped wear them. Any adult not meeting this criteria that wears diapers risks shame, embarrassment and humiliation. This is why I love this fetish.
The ideal scenario for me is to use diapers as a punishment / consequence for not being responsible (not paying bills, didn't run errands, got a speeding ticket, too drunk, etc). This basically degrades them with an embarrassing reminder of their shame, even when it's hiding under clothes. Wearing the diaper, they are giving up dignity / control and are at the mercy of the one who put them in it.
I also like thinking about someone being a DL and their desire to wear diapers is so strong that they constantly risk potential humiliation and shame to obtain and wear them. To me, this is them giving up control to the diaper itself, extremely hot given the fact that they are supposed to be an adult. I would love to roleplay as a normie and discover someone with this fetish in diapers and tease them.
For me, I'm more of a DL and not really a fan of AB. Not really into the whole baby thing because it mostly removes the shame, humiliation, and embarrassment aspects that make this fetish great for me. I like the loss of control aspect sure, but a baby isn't supposed to be embarrassed about wearing diapers like an adult should be. It's all about the humiliation. Just my opinion though.
cb957b No.68690
>>68620
it gives me a boner
82012d No.68715
77f45e No.68720
>Humiliation
Self-explanatory.
>The tactile aspect
Diapers feel great no matter what. It's the part of the fetish that turns me on the most.
>Cuteness
Diapers just look cute. Generic baby clothing, like onesies, is cute. Frilly, silly, girly clothing is cute. Embarassing, babyish pet names are cute. Everything about the AB side is cute.
7637db No.68732
I want to be cute since I'm one of those tranny faggots and I don't fit in at places without mental illnesses. Plus everything is cute.
86d595 No.68735
>>68732
Is that you? Post moar
490cfc No.68737
>>68688
I'm saying that your parents weren't great since they didn't notice your desire to wear diapers.
078a2b No.68740
>>68737
>any parents who don't find out about their child's sexual fetishes are bad parents
t. Anon
490cfc No.68744
>>68740
It hasn't become a fetish yet at that age though.
e9b2a2 No.68745
Since I was very young the idea of being age regressed did something for me. Obviously I didn't really get comfortable with it until adulthood, but it was always a part of me.
I assume that either my brain is wired wrong or something happened to me in my childhood.
7e7e80 No.68962
I'm not an ABDL, my dick is.
I don't like it. I don't want to like it. But I know it's not going anywhere; I've come to accept that.
What do I actually want? I want to be a husband to a wife I trust. I want her to know what I am, and be okay with it. I don't necessarily need her to also enjoy it; I suspect it would be better if she didn't. Because if she didn't get off to this like I do, but still did… things for me, in this interest, it would constantly remind me that she's committed to me. I would do anything for her, because I'd know she'd done the same for me. And like I said, if she didn't like it much, then I wouldn't be inclined to take it very far, for her sake. We'd keep each other in check.
daa1c7 No.68974
>>68962
Bahaha! Sounds like a lovely fantasy life full of shame, tense and pressured awkward sex, and restraint.
God you suck, lol. Get your shit together.
e92bb5 No.68978
I’ve had an interest in diapers for as long as I can remember. When I was 2 my parents had twins and we were a family of 8 at that point so maybe it has something to do with that, but I would constantly squeeze their diapers to see if they were wet. When I hit puberty instead of searching for porn I read the Wikipedia article on diapers because I had a weird compulsion to find out if there were people who liked them like I did. Article mentioned Abdl and from there I started browsing the various forums. It’s the only thing that really arouses me sexually. I don’t masturbate but have nearly biweekly wet dreams involving diapers
2b5dd1 No.68987
I was swindled into this fetish by my girlfriend, and sadly… it hasn't done me any good. I'm trying to relax from it, and not go with it. It's not my type of thing.. but at the same time. I think she psychologically tortured me. Fuck
ee22a3 No.68991
>>68620
I’m a degenerate piss and scat fetishist and going in a diaper (or witnessing someone else going) makes my dick diamonds
e81a5c No.69071
>>68744
How would they notice? I've felt the shame for as long as I've felt the interest (long before puberty), leading me to hide it. Sure, kids aren't good at hiding things, but when it's something that the parents are extremely unlikely to expect there's not really much risk.
I do think, at least in my case, being abdl might have something to do with potty training. Some really hazy early memories are around becoming panicked when I realized I had to go, wouldn't be able to make it, and wasn't wearing a diaper. I remember the panic was derived from my mother becoming angry and my siblings (all older) either laughing or being repulsed. I still feel that, especially before a purge, though with a purge the anger and revulsion come from me.
220d59 No.69072
>>68620
For me they just feel good around my cock.
490cfc No.69114
>>69071
Being a good parent who genuinely cares about what their child feels would probably be the first step. And for when that alone is insufficient, I can't really say, because I don't have any anecdotes from people who were in that situation(who even has good parents lmao) and were still never found out.
e20780 No.69121
I wear for the comfort. When I wear, I feel most content, even if I am out in public. I have grown to understand that if it is decently hidden, no one will bat an eye towards your choice of underwear. It's fun and feels great after you learn to enjoy wearing them!
0a7cf6 No.69149
>>69114
>I can't really say, because I don't have any anecdotes from people who were in that situation
I'm not surprised, given that you're starting from the assumption that anyone who claims to have been in that situation is lying.
I had good parents. I was never found out. It's just a matter of being somewhat careful and secretive. It helped that I never really had easy access to diapers after I was potty trained.
875e0c No.69156
>>68732
About half of the trans folks I've met have been into abdl, and the other half seem to be more into bdsm and, like, vampire stuff.
In any case, there seems to be a strong correlation between being trans and being abdl in some capacity.
72ce83 No.69162
>>69156
There is some drug that trannies use that make you pee alot
875e0c No.69167
>>69162
Spironolactone - yeah, it has a diuretic effect. I don't think that's the root cause of the fetish association though, it's more like a happy accident.
e9b2a2 No.69168
>>69167
The Bob Ross of fetishes, huh?
704a7a No.69169
>>69156
I think Riley is adorable. I like her hair more like in this picture thou.
72ce83 No.69170
>>69167
A wish to restart maybe
490cfc No.69191
>>69149
Then I guess there is no real solution to children growing up experiencing constant stress over not being able to wear diapers.
0a7cf6 No.69198
>>69191
There are lots of possible solutions, but they'd all run afoul of the various cultural taboos in our current society. Give it a century or two and the problem will likely be solved.
72ce83 No.69199
>>69198
>>69191
The worst case scenary would still be your child having your/your wife same fetishes.
>You start thinking where you fucked up
>Even if you didn't fuck up, you still don't know how to address this without being a totla hypocrite
406c4d No.69203
>>69156
Trans and abdl have being unmasculine in common, and they have that quality to such an extent that I'm struggling to think of any less masculine things.
I think this is very probably where the huge overlap comes from. These are things you can turn to if you want to throw your masculinty in the trash.
I am specifically ignoring the FtM part of "trans" though (I assume you are as well), because I don't see the strong correlation you describe with FtM trans people.
Hell, I'm not sure I've ever seen a FtM abdl at all, outside of a quick Google search just now specifically looking for them.
72ce83 No.69208
>>69203
> I'm struggling to think of any less masculine things
Sissy shit
406c4d No.69223
>>69208
Oh yeah, I guess that is distinct from wanting to be a girl or getting surgery to be more like a girl or whatever.
Either way, there's a very similar huge overlap between sissy shit and abdl, so I really think the shared extremely unmasculine quality of these things is what draws people in.
daa1c7 No.69837
7b61de No.69843
For me wearing diapers is a massive turn on. From the moment I take my pants off, sit on a fresh diaper, pull the front forward and press it against my crotch. As it crinkles, the feeling of the ultra soft padding up against my dick and balls, the bulky feeling as the diaper pushes my legs apart. I get a boner everytime I tape one up which I vibrate away. I love how safe I feel when I wear them, the humiliating factor, how naughty it feels to wear diapers when you don’t need them. I love to piss and shit myself when I’m diapered. Mostly wetting. I love holding it in until I start dribbling uncontrollably and then peeing myself and being unable to stop it. Diapers have helped me tremendously sexually and with my PTSD.
7ce1ca No.69861
>>68962
Pretty much this as well. All my life I liked wearing diapers, and I remember having a fascination of wanting to wear them even before knowing how to masturbate or anything, and when puberty hit and I started masturbating to stuff related to diapers, it made me realize that I involuntarily get way more excited from it then from any type of vanilla stuff. And when the first time I wore like adult diapers as a teen that actually fit me, it gave me a rush that I haven't experienced before.
Also, I don't know how common it is, but since I knew this shit was weird and all, and I was making sure to not get caught, and to this day I'm still very cautious. But for some reason indulging in the fetish with a bigger risk of being caught also amplifies the excitement I get from it.
7349d4 No.69901
Got mentally abused by a step mother that usually involved making me do bad things just so she could punish me. One of those things involved denying me the bathroom and then diapering me. Kinda fucked I'm into this now all things considered but what can do you?
d0fd1e No.69902
I've never figured out why. It's a mix of sexual and "relax" I guess. It's feelings I've had for a long time. I really can't pinpoint anything traumatic. I had a normal upbringing. I stopped caring about why to tell you the truth. I'm here now and this is just something that gets me off.
c5802a No.69910
I've just liked them for as long as I can remember.
When I was 5 it took me a long time to get to sleep so I would lie in bed and fantasize about wearing them, or being forced to. I didn't know why I liked them but I recognised even at that age that it felt naughty. So I never told anyone
Now I mainly just like how they feel, especially the bulkiness between my legs when I wet. It's entirely a sexual feeling though, and I'm not sure that I believe the majority of people claiming to like diapers for only non-sexual reasons. I guess it's just easier to explain to people?
I also get off on the humiliation aspect a little, I'm not sure if it's related but when I was 5 or 6 I was at a campground and had to wear pull ups at night (I wouldn't usually at home, even though I wet the bed every night). After putting one on and getting into my PJs I had to go down to the other end of the campground with my dad to brush my teeth. It wasn't that late, only just getting dark so there were still plenty of people outside. It doesn't make much sense to me now but at the time I was absolutely certain that they were all looking at me and that they could all somehow see what I was wearing, no matter how much I tried to tell myself otherwise. It's probably the most embarrassed I've ever felt. I guess at that age these sorts of things leave an impression on the mind.
On the last morning before going home I decided to just leave my wet one on when I got dressed
1747e8 No.70002
Been into diapers since I was about 4/5. Got potty trained wicked early and, being the oldest kid, was constantly surrounded with diapers and other baby stuff. I always got a strong feeling about them and was even tempted to steal and wear one a couple times but I was way too scared of getting caught.
I realized I was bi while going through puberty, but I was super shy and self-conscious. I got bullied a lot by both guys and girls, so I always felt childish and unable to fully relate with my peers. That humiliation turned sexual when I started associating it with my desire to be diapered and the rest is pretty much history.
I just love everything about it. The feeling of being diapered and using the diaper for all my messes, the knowledge that I’m not a real man and that I need my diapers like a big baby, the relaxation and satisfaction I get from knowing my place.
6fb39d No.70041
I didn't choose it
and I sure as shit wouldn't choose it if I had a choice
e61d93 No.70544
Legos… I like playing with Legos… and toys… glowsticks… plushies… cereal box toys… cartoons… soft chewy things I can gnaw on… cute things… stickers… GI Joes… Star Wars toys… building tents… toy cars… having my hand held… being taken care of… unconditional love… being innocent… being little… oh and Disneyland. Bitey sneks 'n bugs are good too… also kitties… dogs are alright… fluff dogs… rat dogs are BLAAAH.
Oh, jumping in leaves, rolling about in the grass… huffing the grass… hose water… biting… bed jumping… saying, "MINE!"
GIANT SIZE things… mmm… books with pictures… puzzles… finger paints… playing in the mud… exploring… stick swords! Making a "base" out in the woods. Pools… squirt guns… toy stores… oh and cake!
e61d93 No.70564
>>70544
I forgot PIZZA… my favorite eats! I guess non-littles can eat pizza too, but I think you need to be little to REALLY enjoy pizza.
0369ea No.70579
>>68987
Send her my way, I'll make it more enjoyable for her
fcedde No.70780
I had a lot of medical problems as a kid (basically no bladder control and very little bowel control), so I had to wear diapers 24/7. I was changed by others, including my kindergarten and first grade teacher, until I was around 8, then changed my own diapers until I was around 9. Got teased on the school bus, on the playground, by cousins and classmates who saw me in diapers, etc. All that was VERY traumatic but it actually got even worse afterwards because my parents forced me to switch to pads, which weren't adequate. That led to many public accidents, so I was basically suicidal as a kid, but my family didn't want to deal with it so they basically ignored the problem. Very early on, probably as a coping mechanism, I started to kind of enjoy using diapers, then after I couldn't wear them anymore, I missed the feeling of softness and security. By the time I was a teenager, I was into diapers hardcore, but this was before the proliferation of the internet, so I didn't know how relatively common my perversion actually is.
d0fd1e No.70798
>>70780
That reads like child abuse if you ask me. Sorry it was so traumatic for you.
I posted before about not knowing or caring why, but I thought a little. Most of my childhood feels blended at this point. I was young enough that I was playing house and I opted to be the baby. I wasn't diapered but we would RP one. I never had accidents that I recall and I only wet the bed once, also as far as I recall. I think that might have triggered me.
For some reason around 14 I became worried about making it to the bathroom on time even though my bladder worked just fine. That follows me to this day, around 17 I became pee shy and find it almost impossible to use a urinal. I still worry about making it even when I have proof I can hold it a long time. I pee a lot, but I also drink a lot of water. I'm a mess
I still don't know why I like them. This image alone both turns me on and makes me feel clam.
e66d05 No.70801
I like feeling carelles and hornie
e7e5b6 No.70809
>>70544
That's some top tier autism right there. Go back to your furry RP servers, we don't want you.
e61d93 No.70816
>>70809
Sounds like you need a nap… or a spanking… probably both.
18c89e No.70889
>>70544
Hang yourself autist