>>40958
My interests are common enough to be pretty well represented at munches within my age group. Gaming, computers, traveling, eating ethnic food and watching US series are pretty hard to avoid as far as hobbies go, and all of them can be more fun in a group.
Doesn't change the fact that you have to 'click' with the other person, and for that, meeting many different people at munches is perfect. I also like the approach of being part of a pseudonymous online community (chat, forum), but there's just not that many people living close by, so I use both ways to meet nice people.
I agree that the fetish/lifestyle alone isn't sufficient, but as long as there is something non-diaper related that you enjoy doing with them and as long as you are both sympathetic to each other, that's enough to have a great time. And there's always the added benefit of being little together. There's just no that many normies I could binge watch Disney movies with.
>>40935
Always be afraid of people who have nothing left to lose. No social life means less consequences for being super weird in public. I guess people with no social life but who want to have a small social life are fine, too.
The people doing the vetting can be biased, I guess. I'm super turned off by the idea of not allowing somebody to participate because they don't fit a secret criteria. It's usually the other way around in my parts of the globe, though: The vetting is very light, only people unable to agree to obvious rules like no visible diaper are not accepted, and you might still get a small number of trouble makers at the event.
The real vetting, if you want to call it that, starts later: People get to know each other at a munch, maybe start private messenger groups, and then might decide to meet up at an amusement park in the future, inviting a few other ABDL friends they already got to know another way.
I've personally never really been to a play party (although I already made arrangements for one happening in the next 3 months. No vetting but friends say it's ok). I have attended a few munches and other small events, though, and obviously I was super interested in how it all works, so I always asked the munch organizers how play events and munches are usually (or should I say ideally?) organized. Naturally I only asked that if I felt like we felt comfortable around each other, but they were always super eager to describe what others and they had come up with, and why they chose X over Y or why they thought party Z wasn't as good as it could have been.
>>40994
I don't know what type of person doesn't attend this type of event, but I've met many well-adjusted people at munches. Some are nerds, some are attractive and outgoing, some a little shy. But most just want to spend a nice evening eating out, maybe drink a beer or two, and meet new people to talk about random topics, community stuff or new diaper brands hitting the market. Practicing your kink in private is fine, but being around other people practicing the same kink feels pretty good, normalizing it and increasing ones own acceptance of being a little different. (Not that I thought I needed that, but it still felt good)