I'm not sure if this fits into this board, but I saw the internet addiction thread, so I thought I'd give it a shot.
I want to stop thinking so much about sex, and I want to stop feeling so "controlled" or "hypnotized" by women, in particular, my girlfriend. The problem here isn't entirely physical, and that's where the issue lies. Basically, she feels irresistible to me, especially in what comes to personality and the way she behaves and such, and these things often lead to sexual behavior from me sooner or later (not necessarily sex, but things like kissing and groping and such). It's hard to explain, but I feel like there are certain (very natural and common) things she does or says that just drive me up the fucking wall sometimes. Sometimes it's as simple as hearing her breathing while we're going to sleep, stupid shit like that; just her presence can make me stupid sometimes. I'd say I can control myself most of the times, but too often I can't, and it's very hard to do.
I honestly feel like I'm addicted to sex or something, or maybe I'm addicted to her or something stupid like that, I don't know. The feelings are FUCKING STRONG, and they're hard to resist, especially since we spend a lot of time together. She has been really patient with me and very supportive, and she tells me what bothers her is that it is bothering me, but I honestly feel like a clingy creep, and I want to change. I just want to be able to play board games or watch TV with her without feeling completely out of control, or to work without randomly having her fill my mind completely, you know?
I stopped port altogether, and I don't know if that has something to do with it, like I'm hypersexualizing her or something to compensate for the lack of porn (even though I consciously do not feel the need for porn anymore). I honestly feel so lost and frustrated right now, I don't know what to do. I don't want to have to leave her for a while or anything like that, I enjoy her company greatly, but I want to change, and I just feel powerless to do so.
If it's relevant, I'd say our sex life is fairly healthy: despite this problem of mine, we always try not to "binge" on sex, and so we end up having it maybe 1 time a week, 2 max if one of us is feeling particularly needy or whatever, but we try to stay in control of that.
I thank you guys in advance for all the help you can give.