Where's the line?

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Where's the line? Anonymous 09/22/18 (Sat) 14:33:27 No.47941

I used to be really into the sissification/feminization stuff. After taking a break from it for a while I noticed I felt a lot better. So it got me questioning, where's the line between having an addiction vs accepting yourself and your kinks? I'm not here to be preachy or anything. But really most people that are addicted to something would outright deny that they have an addiction right? I found myself falling into a loop of "accepting myself" when really it was an excuse to keep indulging. I notice sometimes when people bring up wanting to stop or get rid of these habits the immediate response is that they are afraid or that they are somehow wanting to repress a part of themselves. Maybe for some people that's the case, but sometimes people's subjective experiences are projected onto others. For me the line has always seemed to be blurred a bit.

Anonymous 09/22/18 (Sat) 20:12:50 No.47951

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It is an addiction. The idea of feminization turns you on and your brain released dopamine when you indulge in it. This in turn reinforces the pathways in your brain that lead you to indulge in sissy stuff making you more likely to do it again.

When people say that sissy fetishists should "accept themselves" basically tell heroin addicts that they should accept who they are and society should change to support their true selves. Not that sissy behaviour is necessarily bad, but it's a fetish, not an identity, and can hurt the personal lives of the people stuck in it.

Anonymous 09/22/18 (Sat) 20:45:14 No.47955

>>47951

Overly simplistic. There are people who listen and watch this material that identify as some kind of trans person, or should should I say trans to one degree or another, or even if they are not trans, this is just a part of how they enjoy themselves like anything else they do. I'm not saying the movies you watch are a wicked addiction. Basically, it seems to me that because it is behaviour that to alot of people would be shameful in their mind, it must be thought of to all people as nothing but "addiction". Maybe to some people it is just an addiction, fetish, something to see as nothing but baggage to rid yourself of, but to some I think it genuinely is a part of their personality, sexuality, who they are. So indeed they should accept themselves if they are one of those people.

As for me, you can probably guess from my post what category I fit into. I think the difference here lies in whether you are some random dude that does it as a degradation thing, or at any other time in his life, he doesn't care about being feminine, then I guess it is nothing more than a deviant addiction. Which are fun, but on their own, are just gonna be harmful.

Anonymous 09/23/18 (Sun) 16:38:02 No.48003

If you stop, and feel better, its safe to assume that stopping is healthy. You definitely aren't the only one feeling negative effects. Some files actively fetishize the anxiety and confusion. What is a healthy, moderate dose of gay bondage porn? Of gambling? Of xanax, or oxycodone? If you make a habit of any of these, you will probably get hooked, and your brain chemistry will morph to accommodate that addiction. Some things are better to avoid completely, especially for certain people predisposed to addictive or compulsive behavior.

Anonymous 09/24/18 (Mon) 01:23:31 No.48027

>>48003

Yes exactly. Addictions are everywhere, people only focus on drugs or drinking but that's obvious surface-level addictions. You can be regularly addicted to posting on /hypno/ and if that's making you fuck over your other responsibilities, that's a bad thing!

Even with hypnosis that doesn't involve sex at all, you can become incredibly addicted and dependent on it, as if you can't do anything without some person telling you to do so. Again, a bad thing. You have to keep these things in moderation and recognizing what's healthy for you or not. Sissy files (or acceptance files) aren't special in any sort of way, it's the repetition and dependence that's universal among addictions.

And look, if people feel like they should stop listening to the files. Then stop. Get the help you need to stop. Don't fill that void with another addiction!

Anonymous 09/24/18 (Mon) 14:53:29 No.48040

It's a good question, and I think the answer lies solely on the individual.

I really cringe when I see people saying "just accept this is who you are" OR "it's a dangerous addiction, get out now!" Because saying anything definitive when it comes to any individual's well being, especially a stranger on the internet, is impossible and, more than that, really irresponsible.

On the bright side, at least here you're more likely to get both comments to leave you confused than be encouraged into doing something that might really be wrong for you. I was tearing my hair out reading those reddit posts from confused people asking if they were trans on a TRANS subreddit. Oh yeah, you're totally not getting one side of the story there folks. (I have no problem with trans people btw, except when they're irresponsibly diagnosing people as transgender and encouraging big, unnecessary and potentially harmful changes based on virtually no evidence.)

Whether something is healthy for you is entirely something you have to decide for yourself. You can take advice for ideas and try things you hadn't yet considered, but in the end only you know how something makes you feel. There's no global rule of thumb.

These days there's a bit of an obsession with the idea of "acceptance," but it's gone a bit insane. I'm all for people doing whatever the hell they want to, but the fact is we as people are fucking terrible at identifying what we "want" because most desires are contradictory in nature. I want to stuff my face with food, but I loathe being a fat fuck and want to lose weight too. Only supporting and accepting the desire to over-eat and screeching at anyone suggesting that that might be making you miserable is fucking dumb. If you're really happy being obese then you don't need a load of people patting you on the back and protecting you from bad feefees.

Anyway, starting to rant a bit. Point is, there's not shortcut to perfecting your own balance of desires. Keeping track (preferably physically, in a journal or something) of your own experimentation is the only way to know for sure if you're better or worse with certain habits. Listening to sissy hypno might make you feel worse overall, or it might help with dysphoria, or it just might be a fun hobby you look forward to instead of watching TV.