> nofap
> divert attention when "triggered" / do stuff unrelated to the pr0n-0-gr4phic
> socialize / be with other people
> pray / meditate / create new empowering rituals / ask for help
> comprehend and realize the truth: all addictions are about control
Surprisingly good advice given here for an anon board (IMHO)… ;-)
And I know it's not necessary to comprehend the last bit to get over any addiction, but from where I stand… it is. It absolutely is.
For me, I got into hypno because of the attraction/repulsion aspect: "OMG, people can be programmed?? What does that feel like?? / WTF, people can be programmed!? How do I protect myself from it?!" …And so I pursued information and "experience" on the matter, which ended up being very revealing about my own character and how this Galaxy operates…
My addiction (if any) is to… addiction itself… (X_x)
Human control is an illusion… We cannot control: how we feel, what other people do, and even what we end up doing ourselves… For example, I've attempted to "make" myself do a plethora of activities and take on a huge amount of behaviors, but few of them have ever stuck because I was always aware of the truth…
There is no control - there is only the choice we have in the present moment.
…The trick isn't to stop fapping. Nor is it to stop watching pr0n. Nor is it to control yourself. Nor is it white-knuckle yourself into a binge-frenzy.
The trick is… there is no trick. You just have to choose differently. (-_-)
Apologies if it sounds harsh… but it's the same for us all… And it's better if you hear it from this Anon rather than some other ones. ;-P
My only advice is to BE AWARE - and ask yourself the right questions… The more aware one is, the more one sees that the "pleasure" one gets from "control" is temporary (at best) and has diminishing returns (at worst)…
And (just as important!) be willing to feel like shit…
"This Too Shall Pass"
1) Studies show that when a human being is changing well-defined behaviors and habitual habits, their brain patterns look identical to someone being tortured… So when someone says, "Quitting this addiction is torture!" - they are actually more-or-less accurate… :-P
2) Addiction is about control - and it usual centers on "controlling" the "bad feeling things" out and away from us, and "controlling" the "good feeling things" into and cemented within us… People get "high" to "feel good" - so one is NEVER going to want to stop "feeling good" … it's why addictions are so dangerous… it's less about the activity, and much much much more about the MANNER in which WE ARE VIEWING the situation… and our very lives…
Example:
Orgasms feel great… until I force myself to orgasm over and over and over… then it gets painful… but if I VIEW orgasms as pleasure-in-the-absolute, I will continue to orgasm even when it is painful, and I will experience ever-increasing amounts of cognitive dissonance because my body is saying "Ow ow ow! Stop it already!" but my mind is saying "Need more pleasure… Giving more pleasure…" (x_x)
I've personally found the pleasures in life are like sand and beaches… The more tightly we grasp it, the more it slips through our fingers… but when we let it all go, we realize that we're standing on a beach full of sand all around us.
…If this doesn't make any sense, apologies… This is just one fag's view and approach… if you can do better, I highly suggest you do it then. ;-)