/girltalk/ - Girl Talk

Being bullied for your weight as a girl is difficult to overcome, and even though she may have the perfect weight now she is holding onto the fear that she may gain weight and be bullied again. Bullying creates the idea that people are only nice to you if you are pretty and even if you become beautiful women tend to neurotically worry that they aren't.

It sounds to me like she is trapped in her own mind too much. I would try to get her into activities that require skill to accomplish so she can improve over time and see herself as a capable human being. As women it's very easy to get locked into your own image and be paranoid about what other think of you because everyone and everything tells us it's our looks that we're valued for.

If she had things in her life to feel proud of that kept her busy the mental spotlight on her looks would dim. It sounds like you are doing everything in your power to prove that she is beautiful to you, I am sure she feels that if she is not beautiful enough then you will leave her. You seem to be doing everything right, but it's her that needs to be willing to see and create value in herself.

Having nice clothes can help but remember that is just masking the underlying insecurity. All the makeup and fancy clothes in the world will not make her feel like a valuable person.

Having a good wardrobe is not a bad thing I am just saying that there's a deeper issue that won't resolve itself by that alone.

>>17323

Oh yea and PS

About the whole wardrobe thing I have advice for you BEFORE YOU SPEND A CRAPTON OF CASH (fancy attire is pricey because corps know aesthetics are high priority to women) consider the following:

Does your girlfriend already have a particular style? Does she normally wear casual clothes and fancy ones would be foreign to her? If so..

Before you break the bank on her clothes make sure she knows what she wants and what type of image she wants to portray. Instead of picking up articles of clothing at random (see it - like it - buy it - next) I would suggest you ask her to envision a couple head to toe outfits she can see herself feeling confident in and buy complete outfits. If she works and doesn't have a dress code, wearing her new clothes there (since she doesn't like leaving the house) will allow her to gain feedback on her new look and hopefully make her feel good.

Oh and PPS

Try and encourage her to get out of the house more. I promise you the more time she is out in the world the less time she has to introspect on her perceived faults.

Does she like nature? Is there a park or river nearby? Maybe you can make a nightly habit of taking a stroll together?

Thanks for the advice. It's an uphill battle for sure, ill see what I can do about finding a 'style' for her. Up until she moved in with me her mother threw away all her clothes except for a few really odd pieces of clothing that looked pretty strange. I wouldn't even say they were conservative so I dunno what the fuck she was thinking exactly, but the result is my gf doesn't really have a style. I guess we'll have to experiment.

Was thinking of doing some indoor gardening (we live in an apartment), I'll try to get her involved with that to give her something to do besides video games. As far as going outside goes, baby steps. I've already planned on taking her hiking around the state, but its NY and it snowed this morning in GODDAMNED APRIL FUCK so I'm waiting for the weather to warm up a bit.

>>17354

>but its NY and it snowed this morning in GODDAMNED APRIL FUCK

*lives on West coast*☀☀😎☀☀

Indoor gardening is a good activity but she'll also need something to do on a regular basis.

I love hiking, we have hiking trails everywhere here. I think that's a great idea. Shame about the snow though.

Since she doesn't have a style maybe if she were to watch movies or search images on google she might see stuff she likes. It doesn't sound to me like she works (not judging that's totally fine) but my style was influenced by my work (I also just really like the style and would've picked it anyway) - corporate formal and casual but very feminine. It's easier if you have a reason for a new wardrobe but I'm sure she's a smart girl and can figure something out.

WHY did her mother throw out her clothes?

>>17323

Step 1: Stop being a faggot

Step 2: Tell her you hate fake tits which you should

Step 3: Lacey clothes = god tier and should in fashion forever.