>>and here's what's interesting when you do surveys of women– men and women. Men are right upfront in placing attractiveness in their top three. Women place it lower on their scale– five, six, seven, eight. But in fact, when you evaluate women's behavior, it's no different than men. So women say attractiveness doesn't matter, but, in fact, when you evaluate their behavior, it does.
Have you considered women take more factors into account in General compared to men? This is a big variable as for example, a man considers intelligence, beauty and heath as his main deciding factors while maybe a woman considers a mans health, intelligence, accent, attitude, family values, connection with his mother, desire to have children, atteactiveness, height unrelated to atteactiveness (i.e. some taller girls need taller guys to feel feminine, or a 5'8 girl usually wears 2 inch heels so has a 5'11 minimum)
Among other things it seems women are more picky yes but your logics flawed and its beta thinking of give up.
Girls seem to have more to consider thats for sure but my point is,
whether or not they care about attractiveness more than men is not interpretable using just a listing… This is because a list with 5 things and beauty as number 3 is not to scale with a list of 20 with beauty at number 8. You need impartial proof that women intentionally downplay their desire for attractive partners, and that doesnt mean surveying the client base of a shallow website. Youd need real word surveys and studies on what is aesthetically pleasing, why, and how it affects a mans and womans desire to be with a person of the opposite sex. It also wouldnt hurt to throw in gay men and lesbians or even some bi people to better understand whether its women being shallow, or women being held to lower standards, or just men being less picky/women being more picky, or even a random chance based on unrelated factors such as a womans time of month.