>>134589
>If you are attractive enough they will start the conversation
Of course not, women never initiate, they lack the agency.
>or at least give you a sign
This they will do, however. A smile is about as confident as a woman is going to get.
>I feel like unless they come on to you its just a waste of time
A woman decides within 5 seconds of looking at you for the first time if she would like to have sex with you, just as a man does the same when he looks at a woman. They are just as appearance-fixated ("shallow") as we are, if not moreso because of their relative value in the sexual marketplace and hypergamous pickiness. But never expect a woman to initiate on you- rather, initiate on the woman, and if she isn't receptive then move on.
>210lbs
How do people even manage to get fat? The only time when I was fat in my life was when I was 11, my mother bought me Wendy's Baconators like twice a week and all I did was sit down and play video games. So I got chubby, had three rolls. I told her to stop buying Baconators and I slimmed down to a twig within months without even exercising.