No.2515
I've come to realize that throughout the past 6 or so years, all my fantasies have been a little too extreme. My fantasies include forced feminization, permanent chastity (and only being allowed to cum with only my ass), humiliation, golden showers and cuckolding. I get so turned on about thinking that a future wife/gf would turn me into her sissy girlfriend who's only good for shopping with her and doing chores around the house, while she fucks other guys. It's come to the point that I think my fantasies are becoming too extreme that I probably won't end up with someone altogether.
No.2518
Yes there is such a thing as too beta.
Being a sub doesn't mean you start finding women are are completely unfeminine attractive, that is, subs still find women who wear women's clothing, have female hairstyles, wear high heels, etc. attractive. Same as other other non-sub guys.
Likewise, being dominant doesn't mean dommes start to not find masculine things attractive in guys. And betatude sorta harms your masculinity.
There may be women who find the complete femdom "feminization of a guy" thing attractive, but they are probably very rare.
No.2523
The more intense your fetish the less likely you are to match up with someone. Personally, I am disgusted by the feminization and cuckolding stuff. I want to have sex where the girl is both feminine and in control and I am both masculine and controlled.
So for me, there is no sexual appeal to being made more feminine or not having sex ever. I think that cuckolding shit crosses the line from fun sexy fetish or even alternative female lead relationship to actual abusive and shitty relationship.
That said, it seems like some people who identify as dommes are actually more into what you describe than what I am looking for. For some girls, your situation is seems to be a "win-win" because it means they can get a beta devoted, loving and financially supportive guy to rely on and then also get fuck by alpha bad boys.
I can't wrap my head around the mentality that lets people be ok with this and I have a gut reaction of hatred and disgust to it but I recognize that it might work for some people.
No.2524
>>2523Yeah thats what I thought. I get turned on by cuckolding and the like but I dont want to actually execute it. Iys just that, Im afraid of what might happen if a future gf/wife finds out about it.
No.2526
Yeah you might want to dial it back a bit.
My fantasies got so extreme to the point where they were affecting my life negatively.
You probably can't change the fact that you're submissive, but you can change how you choose to be a submissive. Odds are if you just stop fapping to forced feminization the urge will go away.
You'll probably always be turned on by scenarios which involve femdom, but you can choose which kind of scenarios to focus on.
No.2527
>>2526Whenever I need a fap I look at cuckold erotica or feminization hentai/porn. I guess I could try to dial back the cuckold portion though, bur the forced fem really gets me everytime. But yeah, I believe dialing back is the safest thing to do. I dont actually want a cuckolding lifestyle, but the idea is so erotic to me. I just want to know whether other subs who have extreme fantasies get by in a real relationship? Do they enact them or just keep it a secret or what. My fear is when the girl gets disgusted and loses respect for the guy, or when she actually entertains the idea but likes it way more than she should.
No.2531
>>2527yeah you can't win with the cuckolding shit. My advice is to avoid getting off to that stuff, something I do that seems to keep my fetish at least reasonable is to start off looking at femdom porn then switch to something more vanilla or even male dom when I'm getting close. I can't get rid of the femdom aspect entirely but I have conditioned myself to still be able to get off to more "normal" stuff.
When I'm first dating someone I can actually go a month or two with no femdom at all provided we have sex super regularly. I inevitably end up relapsing though eventually and then I have trouble staying interested in the vanilla relationship once the fetish reasserts itself.
No.2535
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>>2531My other fetishes include latex, feminization and chastity though. The latex is pretty easy and safe, but the feminization and chastity seem like red flags still.
Im actually ok around girls, but Im out of luck when it comes to dating. I can personally say Im fit and I look alright, but Im timid and choose to stay at home than go out most of the time. My workplace dont have much girls my age either so its pretty hard for me to get a girl, on top of getting a dominant one. I want to try online but I dont trust that shit
No.5292
>>2527
>>2527
>when she actually entertains the idea but likes it way more than she should.
How much is that? Also, wouldn't that be good as long as no one gets hurt?
I often get into different crap. These days I've been getting obsessed with chastity, really obsessed. I asked Her if she'd like it, but she seemed to want to avoid the topic. So I deal with it fapping and call it a day.
No.5295
I fap to this fetish but have never had the desire to bring it to IRL. Don't you think it's unhealthy to take it that far? Don't let your libido make you irrational.
No.5310
You might be able to find a couple who would be alright with this. It might be slightly a fetish of mine too slowly feminize a /cuteboy/
No.5366
No.6213
>Is there such a thing as "too beta?"
Yes