Hi my fellow brothers, I finally got my first girlfriend the other week and I was ecstatic and I did want to try convert her and make her wait. I’d talked to her about it before I asked her and she said she was open to church though the waiting till marria

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Christanon 04/21/19 (Sun) 21:35:58 63a6c2 No.799084

Hi my fellow brothers, I finally got my first girlfriend the other week and I was ecstatic and I did want to try convert her and make her wait. I’d talked to her about it before I asked her and she said she was open to church though the waiting till marriage thing was still up in the air.

I'm a Christian, but unfortunately last week I succumbed to my temptations and lustful feelings and lost my virginity to this same girl and then again proceeded to have sex again today. I had always dreamed of having intercourse after marriage however, first by starting masturbating, now by breaking that sacred act of sex, I've only pushed myself lower and lower towards the point of no return.

I need your help Christanons.

I've realised after both these times, I really don't enjoy sex, I feel dead and unphased afterwards, it doesn't satisfy me at all and I just feel shame and indifferrent. Im 22 but I only fapped for the first time when I was 21 and then after that semi-frequently. Though Ive been on a short no-fap streak so far and plan to power through it.

I don't want to have sex anymore and I'm not having the "best time ever" with my gf even though I always thought once I get my first gf it would be non stop fun.

My faith has been lacking, I've not been in church for over a year, my life is also off track and I spend my days depressed at home or depressed at work,

I feel like maybe I need to cut off this relationship but I'm lost, misguided and confused.

I'm ashamed and disappointed in myself and I've let God down with my actions.

I don't know what to do. I do like this girl and she’s such a sweet and kind person and I truly wish not to hurt her but I am lost and don’t know what to do at this point in time and how to convey my concerns and feelings.

Please help me.

Christanon 04/21/19 (Sun) 21:45:12 df5a5b No.799087

1] Go to confession

2] Ask forgiveness

3] Repent

4] Go forth and sin no more

Christanon 04/21/19 (Sun) 21:55:22 86f8c4 No.799089

How shit is you Internet that you end up making the same thread 3 times?

Christanon 04/21/19 (Sun) 23:30:13 63a6c2 No.799115

>>799087

I need to find a church

>>799089

It kept saying something about flood posting and saying my post is discarded , I tried to search my post but it didn’t come up so I assumed I had to retry . I’ll try delete

Christanon 04/22/19 (Mon) 03:10:15 82e599 No.799186

>>799089

It's not just him. This site is garbage

Christanon 04/22/19 (Mon) 03:42:43 64a8dd No.799216

>>799089

This is a common issue

>>799115

When it says your post went through but you don't see it, make another comment on the same board. Often what it does is for some reason withhold your post, but then when you make another it posts all of them at once. If you try posting the same thing, you'll have duplicate threads. If you post something else, it will just post your original thread + your new comment

Christanon 04/22/19 (Mon) 04:07:42 d70ced No.799225

>>799115

I'd strongly recommend the RCC; while you should join it for the right reasons, confession, the Rosary, and daily Mass are powerful tools for battling temptation. I was in a pit with fapping and Holy Week pulled me out of it.

Christanon 04/22/19 (Mon) 05:56:41 56ab4c No.799246

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>>799115

Honestly, anything but protestantism. >>799225

made the case for RCC, I'll make the case for Orthodoxy.

Russia was a Christian country in 1917. Then a small clique of jewish revolutionaries took power, and killed the tsar. They had control of the country of 1920s. Churches were closed, priests killed (and sometimes raped), relics desecrated. Millions were sent to the GULAGS, some for their faith, some not.

Greece converted to Christianity with Constantine. It's been a Christian country ever since, despite the Muslims ruling over it for a good part of the last 500 years (they still do). Similarly Serbia and Bulgaria.

The Eastern Roman Empire suffered a lot from rebellions and internal strife before succumbing. It had it's moments when God-fearing rulers sat on the throne, and suffered greatly when they did not.

Yet here we are. The masons, the jews, the atheists, the muslims, in some cases even the catholics came after us, but we're still here and our faith isn't dead. Maybe that says something about us.

Christanon 04/22/19 (Mon) 06:33:35 37ef51 No.799249

>>799084

1 - getting a gf won't solve your problems, if you have problems with yourself, they're gonna persist in a relationship too

2 - getting a gf for the sake of having a gf is not good, same goes for having sex

Sounds like you don't really about her. Sadly, men fall for a pair of boobs too easy. If she's not a Christian, she'll leave you if you don't want to have sex anymore.

Christanon 04/22/19 (Mon) 12:10:40 401c34 No.799325

>>799084

All right Anon. I'll take the time to respond. Having sex with a girl before marriage is a bad deal for both of you. Especially after few weeks of relationship. It kind of shows her low character since she agreed to it after few weeks - most christian girls would not. We are all sinful beings though and I do not know her, I will restrain from making any judgements. This judgement you need to do yourself.

I can relate to your state of mind since I am no longer virgin myself, having lost my virginity with my first gf years ago. We had sex more than twice though. The relationship was bad and this only made it drag on, rotten my soul for few years to come

>it is not satisfying

It is not because it is masturbatory in essence. The goal is not to have kids, just to have fun. Well the fun part is just a trick of satan there is no fun in premarital sex.

I overcame both the bad relationship back then, did not have sex from then on. I overcame porn and masturbation. I am clean right now…but I will tell you right now that the dirt won't completely go away. I mean you will confess, you will be forgiven and grateful for that…but you will remember your failure. At least I do and I feel bad for that sometimes. I have just met a good, chaste girl that I want to date and I feel that somehow for this reason I won't be good enough for her,a t least in my own eyes. When the time comes for me proposing to my future wife I will get this straight and will tell her about this. Until then i will do everything to be the best man I can to compensate for not being able to give her my virginity on the marriage night. I will give what I can. Right now I struggle with self improvement towards this goal.

>Please help me

You need to stop having sex asap. Right now. If the relationship is good, it won't ruin it. Talk to her about the fact that it is sinful, that it does not fulfil your needs. Explain it is too early to have sex before marriage. If it results in ending the relationship, so be it. If it results in strengthening the relationship, so be it. Then go confess. Pray for the strength to overcome the lust and temptation, as well as porn and masturbation. TO do this you need to come back to church. That will also get your life back on the track and find your vocation - be it marriage or priesthood, or whatever. You may then direct your efforts towards that.

Father awaits the prodigal son with open arms. Always remember that. No matter what you've done if you repent and come back he will dress you and make a feast because he will be glad to have his son come back.

Christanon 04/22/19 (Mon) 16:28:42 63a6c2 No.799375

>>799249

I'd always felt a void in my life for years, I assumed getting a gf could possibly fill it but now I'm not too sure it has.

I didn't pursue one for the sake of it, but more so for companionship, love and to find someone who I could confide in and mutually love on a romantic level.

I like her but there's some improvements that could be made.

I asked her seriously and told her if she's fine with not having sex and she says yes but, one can never not be sceptical

>>799325

I know and I regret it. Honestly, I feel things went downhill since I started fapping and I honestly feel worse about that than losing my virginity if I'm being honest even though most would weigh losing your V card as worse. But I still am ashamed of both BUT I will not let my downfall shame me and make me devalue myself or beat myself up about it.

I told her that will be the last time, I sent her a lengthy text and explained my feelings and my beliefs and how disappointed in myself I am, how I didn't enjoy it and how I've regret my decisions, when I told her if she'd be honestly willing to give up sex she said yes but I'm still unsure. She says she really likes me and thinks about our future and really wants to be with me and as I mentioned I'm christian before, she said she'd be willing to accompany me to a church when I start attending again, however, I warned it should be because she wants to, not because I want her to. I shall see how it goes, however, I understand I must end things if things become impossible.

Christanon 04/23/19 (Tue) 06:14:02 401c34 No.799658

>>799375

Good move and good reaction on her part. Just give it time, even if she initially goes there just because she likes you she may convert because of that.

You will know if she plays the false game trying to lure you in but if it was so she would probably already show signs.

ps I am not beating myself over it but I am still ashamed to have succumbed to my primitive, animalistic urges instead of holding myself up to higher standard. But what can one do right now…at least it motivates me to become better