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I'm a new convert who's almost 21 and I struggle this problem as well.

The key to nofap is keeping yourself busy.

It can be studying, it can be exercise, it can be working, it can be doing something out in nature, it can be a hobby, but the most important thing is just constantly keeping yourself busy.

Remember, an idle mind is the workshop of the devil.

Did you receive the Sacrament of Penance?

>>729445

>Sacrament of Penance

I went ti this week, but somehow the priest who was in charge couldnt make it

quit surrounding yourself with so many erotic things, and it will become managable. It's that simple. If you take a vacation to go camping, you'll notice that it is much easier to resist temptation. That's because you're not exposed to a bunch of erotic things. If you can reduce your exposure and stop looking at such things, the difficulty will go down to a level you can handle.

Oh and focus, don't mess around it will never end well.

>>729446

Ban yourself

>>729439

The only real way is through prayer. Like, more than you think. I mean really. You must follow Paul's example and pray increasingly. Most people get tired of praying and just hold it off, but that's when you are most susceptible to sin. It's when you're most vulnerable to it and so we need to have Christ constantly at the forefront of our mind, never forgetting Him and seek strength from Him always.

At least this works for me but then again you do burn out. But honestly better than this, being in the presence of other Christians also helps and will reignite the flame in you so don't neglect church or any opportunity you can get to be around other Christians.

More prayer is definitely the right path, but I'd recommend mental prayer specifically. It sounds like you're putting a lot of time into vocal prayer… 200 Hail Marys + Holy Rosary is a lot of words, but where is your mind while reciting them? Vocal prayer is good, but mental prayer is where saints are made.

One exercise I like very much is to take a powerful prayer (Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be) and recite it very, very slowly. Let your mind weave between the words, really take it all in… litanies are great for this purpose as well. You can go through slowly until a phrase really hits you, then meditate on that phrase. (For more info, check out St. Teresa of Avila. She's an absolute expert in mental prayer.)

Meditation, for me, opened the floodgates of love. The Saints aren't joking when they say stuff like "all I want to do is pray." God bless you in your struggle, OP.

>>729439

Prayer is essential. Regular prayer - you cannot fap and pray at the same time. Attending mass and communion and confession will give you a lot of strength. In the end this was what pushed me from the pit back to life.

As far as your willpower is concerned: Be busy. Read, lift, work out…whatever you like. You should work mentally and physically. It will limit the time you're tempted (directionless online time) and it will limit the energy - too tired to fap

>I almost have no friends at all.

Socialize. Fapping makes you more insecure. One of my motivations was that I wanted to speak to girls. Every relapse meant I would be terrible at it for 3 days. When in temptation it all came together: do not sin, you will be a weakling, it will rot your brain, go pray instead.

What you want to do is to strengthen yourself spiritually. For that you should do praying, mass, communion, confession and read Scripture.

Can't help you pal. 10 years fighting with the same problem. I think that the only solution is to get a girl.

Living alone is literally the worst thing you can do. Find a Catholic share house, there's plenty around usually. Talk to your priest, other young men in the diocese. Usually there's houses of 3 to groups of houses close by that rent,often at reduced rates if you help in the local parish.

>>729439

Pax. Masturbation and porn addiction like all sexual degeneracies are as St Paul explains the result of pride to the point of reprobation. Simply you are too proud and God has given you over to your sexual disorder.

Pray the litany of humility. Living a porn free masturbation free life is easy. You can reduce temptation by observing fasting and temperance. You are also too effeminate and have too high estrogen. Take an aspirin everyday as it is an aromatase inhibitor. Stop eating poly unsaturated fat, eat plenty of fruit juice and ruminant meat.

But ultimately you will never overcome until you cease your pride and humble yourself in obedience to God

You want my advice.

Forget about it.

Stop wringing your hands and whining to God every time you touch your willy.

Because from your post, it really seems like that porn and masturbation are not the biggest problems in your life. You seem to be living a very reclusive life. This is not what Christians are called to be. Christ told us to get out there and serve others. We are called to not live for ourselves, but to sacrifice for others. And doesn't have to mean walking out the door and feeding the starving, or solve world conflict or anything ultra heroic like that. Just talk to someone. To a friend. To a family member. Just be present. Make an effort to be around more people and involve yourself in your community in the smallest of ways. And you are already walking the path of Christ.

The Church teaches that masturbation and porn are wrong because they erode feelings of charity; the supernatural drive to serve others. But what do you think harms your capacity to serve others more? Your porn habits or your reclusiveness? It would seem that the latter is, in fact, the great sin of your life.

And that is how you kick the porn and masturbation habit. Because when you live outside yourself, take on responsibilities and serve others, the meagre fulfillment you get from porn and masturbation seems meaningless.

Until then, when you fall into the sin of masturbation and porn, just acknowledge that it is a sin and move on. Don't weep. Don't beg. And if you are going to say 200 Hail Mary's, say them for the strength and grace to break out of yourself and perform works of mercy in the world.

>>729622

The girl will not solve your problems.

You first have to confront your vices and you have to do it yourself. As a man you're the strong immovable element in the relationship.

Once you get the girl you will either be tempted into premarital sex or into fapping or into seeking other females. Once you commit yourself to the girl for the rest of your life you will be tempted by other women to commit adultery.

The struggle does not go away the whole life. All you can do is to strengthen yourself, pray so God helps you with the addiction.

The ride never ends though

>>729622

>>729666

But I would argue that defeating porn addiction is a great step towards finding a woman or if you already are in a relationsihp, a great step towards being able to love the woman you're with.