Cohabitation

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Cohabitation Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 02:05:05 a984e4 No.717004

I am on my way to becoming Catholic..

My girlfriend had one boyfriend before, I am a virgin.

We love each other very much. She has been reading a lot about Catholicism and the way it looks now she will convert too.

We want to live in an appartment for two weeks around Christmas.

Cohabitation is a sin and I know that. The original meaning of the word (living together) is not but from what I read everyone assumes that it must include sexual relations.

I understand that it increases temptation.

Under which circumstances is cohabitation without sinning against the 6th and 9th commandment still a sin? Is that even possible? Is even the attempt foolish?

Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 02:19:05 a15b8f No.717008

You ought to read this

http://www.traditionalcatholicpriest.com/2017/09/23/impurity-st-alphonsus/

You'll just be putting yourself in an insane occasion of sin so yeah it's not really worth considering. The sermon goes over related ideas well.

Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 05:07:21 e31155 No.717080

It's not completely wrong, but in general it's a really bad idea.

>but Jesus never said anything about …

Catholics have never lived together before marriage.

However…if you continue along that path then I'd strongly recommend sleeping in different rooms. Whenever my friends have a girlfriend stay over, they sleep in seperate rooms.

Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 13:23:37 46e8a3 No.717187

>>717004

Cohabitation is only allowed under grave necessity with the implication that you will not be sleeping together.

Wanting to do it is not grave necessity and is a mortal sin. Do not do it. Just wait until you are married. People who cohabitate before marriage divorce more frequently. If you love the girl you are courting then you must ask her father's permission to marry her and he has the right to refuse which you must obey.

Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 14:15:23 ee8ac3 No.717199

>>717004

If you two are thinking of getting married. I doubt God would begrudge you preparing for that by living together, short of having sex.

Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 19:24:39 978390 No.717289

It's an occasion of sin so unless you have an iron will which nobody has sin is very likely.

And since she is converting to the Catholic Church she probably already knows that.

If it really needs to be sleep in separate rooms and lock your door just in case and pray the rosary every night to keep the devil away.

Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 19:26:50 b5d99a No.717291

>>717199

We should avoid all occasions of sin. Anon is risking mortal sin 24/7.

Christanon 10/21/18 (Sun) 23:19:02 9d74f0 No.717443

Thank you for your answers. She lives very far away and we cannot see each other very often. Her non-Catholic mother is concerned about it too and we'll try to figure something out.

If we were to go for it, we'd of course sleep in seperate rooms.

Christanon 10/22/18 (Mon) 06:47:46 46e8a3 No.717680

>>717443

Don't do it. You do not have grave necessity thus it will be a mortal sin and you will be dishonouring the wishes of her mother