/christian/ - Christian Discussion and Fellowship

>>701878

Oh and before you ask, the porn I masturbated to (and sometimes created) was among the most degenerate stuff you can find on the internet. I'll let your imagination fill the blanks.

>>701870

You don’t need to go into too much detail, it’s confession not story time. Here’s the way I last confessed masturbation:

>I masturbate a lot. I do it every day. Sometimes I would pledge to never do it again only to do it the next day or even the next hour

That’s all. He doesn’t need my background or history, he just needs to know my sins

I read everything anon, i can relate somehow, as i would ( and still sometimes do ) masturbate knowing it's a sin, and feeling like afterwards. Porn and masturbation really is terrible and a curse..i will pray for you, trust in God and things will get better. I think you don't need to say everything to the priest, just say that you masturbated before and is repentant of this sin. God bless

>>701892

>a gorgeous Catholic FSSP church that only says the Tridentine mass

Yeah. I won't lie. I'd like to have that.

Well, anon this is your personal trial. No matter how scared you are you MUST do it. How free and lighter you will feel once you have admitted everything. It might even be the best feeling in your life.

You can do it, cheers!

>>701884

You have to be more specific than "a lot'. If you can't give an exact or approximate number, then you say "about x number of times per week/month over x number of months/years".

>>701892

You can always ask the priest how specific you need to be. If he's a good priest, he won't judge you, trust me.

>>701895

>>701897

Please answer my questions here in the OP >>701870

and this:

>>701871

>How long do confessions usually last?

I must know…

>>701900

I'm sorry, I don't know. However I believe you should be precise. Perhaps not to the point of saying the name of the story/video you jerked off to, but you must reveal the fetishes.

>>701900

Regarding how detailed the confession, I'm not certain if you should go into details about the types of pornography or not. That's why I think you better ask your confessor. Some priests say you have to be more specific about it, some not. Whatever the case may be, you should ask your confessor with a spirit of humility and openness in making a good confession. As for the process of confession, it's simply the accusation of your sins. You say "Bless me father for I have sinned, it's been x amount of time since my last confession [or whatever is the case for you]" then you tell him your sins without unnecessary details added. You must confess all your mortal sins (their species e.g. masturbation), their number (as best as you can tell), and the circumstances that change the sin (e.g. committing a sin of impurity with a family member adds the sin of incest, and willfully entertaining impure thoughts in a church adds the sin of sacrilege, as do impure looks.) If you don't want to see the priest, then you should find a church with traditional confession boxes where you confess behind a grille. Your best bet is probably the FSSP church, as they have posted confession times where you can come in without needing to ask the priest for confession. My FSSP church has a few hours reserved on Saturdays for confession. You should check yours to see if they have it too, so you won't have to worry about keeping the priest too long. As for how long it takes, it depends. You could make a general confession of all your sins in no more than 5 minutes. Some old ladies spend 15+ minutes in there, so it really depends. Keep it simple (no unnecessary details), humble (don't try to make your sins less grave by choosing dishonest wordings), and entire (don't conceal any grave sins).

>>701876

OP you are almost literally me, though I think I have even more on my plate. Thank you for creating this thread and sharing your story. I am also afraid of confession for the same reasons. How can anyone sit in the universe's highest court, knowing they're completely guilty, and keep his composure?

>>701908

But I should be confirmed because confessing for the first time, no? I really haven't looked much into this out of anxiety.

>My FSSP church has a few hours reserved on Saturdays for confession. You should check yours to see if they have it

Same for the church I plan to go to.

>>701912

I would really love to talk with you in private…

>>701918

No, you don't need to be confirmed. In fact, receiving confirmation while in mortal sin is a sacrilege.

>>701870

Not in the church yet, but from what I know:

>Can the priest see my face?

Sometimes, but you have to have the option for private confession per canon law.

>Can I hide my face from him?

You have the right to per canon law.

>Does he wait in the confessional for people to enter or is there first an encounter and dicussion outside before going inside together?

Dunno. Note that confessional booths aren't actually too common anymore. Reconcilliation rooms (basically offices similar to a therapist's room with a screen in it) are the norm nowdays.

>Would confessing to a priest that you have no intention to meet ever again far away from where you plan to then attend mass be considered cheating?

This is licit. I think the priest has to be in your diocese, but not your parish. Don't quote me on that, though.

>I read somewhere that if the masturbation included graver content, the confession must be more precise.

It should. If you're so embarrassed, think of this:

you weren't embarassed to do your acts in the full view of god almighty, so why are you afraid of telling a mere priest about it?

>>701920

Wow, so I could just show up tomorrow and simply confess just like that for the first time? Then months later (no way I'll commit the same sins in the meantime, no way) get confirmed?

>>701911

>You say "Bless me father for I have sinned, it's been x amount of time since my last confession [or whatever is the case for you]" then you tell him your sins without unnecessary details added.

He will be waiting in the confessional and if I see there's nobody else inside, I just get in and I'll be the first one talking, correct? Can the first thing that I say be a polite greeting and explain that it's my first confession ever?

>>701925

>Wow, so I could just show up tomorrow and simply confess just like that for the first time?

Yes, yes.

>He will be waiting in the confessional and if I see there's nobody else inside, I just get in and I'll be the first one talking, correct? Can the first thing that I say be a polite greeting and explain that it's my first confession ever?

Of course. Usually confessionals have a little light above the door indicating if there's someone in it. If there's no one, you can walk right in, or get in line with the other people waiting. And you can tell whatever you feel your priest needs to know. You can ask him to help you examine your conscience if you're not sure how, and ask him to help you when you're too embarrassed to confess certain sins. That's why I recommend you go to your FSSP church, as they are generally the most orthodox and best trained in spiritual guidance.

>>701925

>Can the first thing that I say be a polite greeting and explain that it's my first confession ever?

My first confession I started with "Hi". You want to tell him it's your first time, normally you'd tell him how long it has been.

>>701927

I'm afraid that after confessing I'll feel like I'll have "gotten away with it" by being too vague…but I remember hearing about how it's ok to not be too blunt to avoid scandalizing the priest…

>>701929

Is there anything that should be memorized? Since it's FSSP, will anything be said in latin in the confessional? It's really not an issue for me, I just want to make sure and not make it awkward…

>>701933

The priest will ask you to say an act of contrition. My church's confessionals have a small card with the act of contrition written on it. Yours might not, so you should try memorizing it. If you go to a latin mass parish, the priest will most likely say the absolution prayer in latin, and end with "your sins are forgiven" or something like that to send you on your way.

>>701933

I don't know about FSSP, but my parish provides a paper with an act of contrition for you to read from, though it's best to memorize one, and really understand the intention in the words.

As for scandalizing the priest, you can be really blunt if you like. It's vulgarities and specifics that will lead the priest to bad thoughts to watch out for. Don't describe the act, or describe what you were looking at, but rather the nature of the sin.

>>701870

confess to god not the preists

you dont need to confess to another man

plus thats how they blackmail people

>>701939

im not a protestant

useless labels

>>701950

damn i feel better about the weird shit i jerked off to now

donald duck

damn man

takes alot of courage to post that

>>701906

Question.

If you're doing confession wrong, can the priest listening to you correct you, or do you only find out when you go back to consult a book on how to do confession again?

Anon I've masturbated to horrible things, the worst being children and animals. What matters is that you turn from it and never look back, it doesn't matter what your priest thinks of you, you'll be glad you did it on judgement day.

>>701955

It was really really forced though. I don't want to be too crude but I was literally beating it and came while probably 1/4 erect. I basically cheated. Angela Merkel, Captain Hook and a picture of the KKK logo was included in another one of these mosaics.

>>701959

I turned from it but not looking back (memory) is the hardest part.

Is trying amnesiac techniques to forget past sins sinful?

>>701965

Until you're able to go to confession, continue to pray the rosary, pray for courage and mental healing. You still need to bring it to confession and just let it all go

>>701870

Skip the priest and go straight to the Lord.

>>701975

I will do.

Someone please let me know about this:

>>701950

>If I have to be more detailed about the previous stuff, won't I have to be detailed about the nature of all these random things too? Wouldn't it be still somewhat cheating which was my goal at first?

>>701961

what would you say caused to do this ?

>>701988

This:

>>701950

>I did this just for my conscience, so I could say "I've masturbated to everything" and so by generalizing remove the focus on the specific things which were first concerned

>>701956

The priest will likely correct you, though I think this anon is wrong about listing fetishes. Different fetishes don't necessarily change the nature of the sin.

I have had a priest correct me mid confession before.

You say "I have been impure with myself". The priest knows what youre talking about. It's a polite way of saying "I cant stop beating my meat"

>>701950

Anon, I…

>>701938

> Therefore confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man has great power in its effects.

James 5:16 RSV

>>701950

I would say that's all covered well enough by pornography and, it seems, gay pornography. Maybe add in necrophilia but I'm not sure you need to be more specific.

>>701870

>blah blah blah

The sin here is masturbation

Go confess it with a contrite heart, and you will be forgiven.

Your face is somewhat hidden with the lattice screen, but fear of shame should not hold you back. You're there to confess your sins, if they weren't shameful you wouldn't need to be there.

Don't be a bitch, confess the sins and avoid them in future, otherwise your Christianity will forever be larp

>>701870

Just tell him "impure acts, alone" and it's done.

OP read this. I fell victim to r9k too.

>snapped at age 11 and became anti social when dad died and from being bullied by all my class

>bullied by class again in highschool (UK)

>see a school counciller for like a month and then dismisses me

>mum didnt want to pick me up from support group for dead parents after school so had to stop attending those

>be bullied by girls

>found reddit and became athiest. Started watching porn.

>be 12 and bullied on school trip to germany

>be bullied on school bus

>be bullied by friends (i did bully my friends too)

>had social anxiety, low self esteem, depression, suicidal thoughs daily and constantly.

>found solace in r9k, porn and anime for obvious reasons. Live a degenerate lifestyle. Masturbate as much as I could. At least twice a day.

>in year 11, all these people i've grown up with for the last 4 years want to be my friend. Completely ignoring what they've done to me. Don't want to do drugs or party or hang out with the normies. My social skills were non existent anyway.

>2 months from leaving i snap in year 11 (aged 16). Be a nihilist. Tell everyone I'm a pedo, that I watch so and so, beastiality, scat, rape, incest. Told a group of girls who asked me if I would rape my mother that I would.

>get in trouble for it. I admit I said it all. I deny that I do watch illegal porn (later found out that I can't do that from google)

> Get an isolation for it (spend a couple of days in a room away from your class).

>teachers act disgusted by me like im a roach (this is a catholic school btw). Threaten to call police.

>they didn't.

>three friends stuck by me because they knew that I wasn't a pedo and just a weirdo. Still friends to this day (3 years later)

Fast foreward today

>converted to catholicism one year later after I went to the lowest of low and thought about turning gay and cross dressing to feel loved and whoring myself out. I cried out to God to save me and ever since then gradually I've been lead to christ.

>unable to make new friends since word travels

>been bullied out of sixth form

>been badly treated by strangers

>priest won't even look me in the eye

>priest refused to shake my hand once.

>a woman refuses to shake my hand in church when we are doing a sign of peace

>reported myself to the police twice in one day and told them that I need to be arrested and I'm a danger to children because I believed that everyone thought I had raped someone when in reality I have no and never had sexual attraction to children nor have I ever abused anyone in my life. I'm a khv. They said I never watched cheese pizza and they weren't notified of what I said in hs. They chalked it up to what I did as a cry for help and what I'm doing now as a cry for help. I genuinely wanted to go to prison because I thought I was a monster. This was right after being bullied out of sixth form by the teachers and students. But since it's my word against theirs and I had just revealed myself to be experiencing an episode i guess they couldnt do anything. I had a mental breakdown.

>never wanted to killmyself because catholic until recently when I realised now that I'm in a new college, the rumours going to reach here.

There's this girl that likes me. It's going to happen again. I can't move away and I was on meds for a while but i wanted off them since they stopped working and it doesn't change the reality that people think I've done horrendous things. I only found out what people thought of me 5 months ago and I reported myself when my mum sent me to the psycharatrist. In sixth form they pretended to be my friend but then bullied me. Also, I think it happened on good friday because one of the girls who was in on the conspiracy against me asked me what day it was and I was confused and then she rebuked me at how I didn't know what day it was even though i was a practicing catholic.

Nothing new under the son, anon. Here's some inspiration for you, courtesy of the Golden Legend:

Nicholas the Old Man Always in Lechery

>An old man called Nicholas by name, went unto the apostle and said to him: Sir, I have lived fifty years, and always in lechery. And I took on a time a gospel, in praying God that he would give me from then forthon continence. But I am accustomed in this sin, and full of evil delectation, in such wise that I shall return to this sin accustomed.

>On a time that I was inflamed by luxury, I went to the bordel, and forgat the gospel upon me, and anon the foul woman said: ‘Go hence thou old man, for thou art an angel of God, touch me not, nor come not near me, for I see marvel upon thee.’ And I was abashed of the word of the woman, and I remembered that I had the gospel upon me, wherefore I beseech thee to pray God for me and for my health.

>And when St. Andrew heard this he began to weep, and prayed from tierce unto nones. And when he arose he would not eat, and said: I shall eat no meat till I know whether our Lord shall have pity of this old man.

>And when he had fasted five days, a voice came to St. Andrew and said to him: Andrew, thy request is granted for the old man, for like as thou hast fasted and made thyself lean, so shall he fast and make himself lean by fastings for to be saved.

>And so he did, for he fasted six months to bread and water; and after that he rested in peace and good works. Then came a voice that said: I have gotten Nicholas by thy prayers whom I had lost.

http://www.christianiconography.info/goldenLegend/andrew.htm

>>701870

Masturbation is a sin on its own.

The details don't really matter and getting too in depth can scandalize.

See it this way; you're not explaining all the kinky positions in confession if you fornicated right?

Same goes for masturbation, or other sins for that matter.

I'm sure the priest has heard way worse. Either way nothing to fear since God already knows and the priest can't tell that to anyone even if the the cops tortured him, even if the Pope himself told him to reveal the confession. Under no circumstances he can reveal it.

If by any chance that happen he would be instantly excommunicated (it only happened once this century) even if the priest did it without realising it. Even if it was the confession of a child.

So tldr: nothing to fear anon. Even if you were a mix of a pedophile and bin laden nothing would happen. Probably the priest in that case would tell you to go to the nearest police station to get absolved instead of praying 10 Hail Mary's.

But no one is gonna arrest you for flapping, so you just do some Penance the priest tells you to do and off you go. And do not ever sin again.

Good luck anon.

>>702325

>Probably the priest in that case would tell you to go to the nearest police station to get absolved instead of praying 10 Hail Mary's.

The priest can't make his absolution conditional on you revealing your sins to anybody else, neither can he impose it as a penance. Doing so would violate the seal of confession.

>>702330

Didn't know that. Thanks for the correction anon.

>>702180

Anon… I just want you to know that I love you and wish only the best for you in life.

Please never forget that you are loved.