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I need help Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 00:33:46 d9b8c6 No.651288

So, I've run into an issue, my friends can't really give me valuable info or advice, so I'm asking my fellow Christanons

>Be me

>Been going to the same church for almost 8 years

>Started out in the youth ministry, am now an adult

>Go through background check and such to be an official volunteer, naturally to help in the youth ministry

>Consider many of the young adults in the group who've been there for some time friends, consider the youth pastor a close personal friend

>Little I won't do for them. I care for these guys so much

>Be me

>Realize I never see these guys outside of church no matter how much I try to stay in contact

>Everyone is hanging out with each other, but I never see them outside of Sunday and Wednesday for a few hours, worship practice included

>They make virtually no effort to contact me, and if it's for something important like a sudden change with worship practice, effort is very little

>Voice my concerns and complaints about them not contacting me when it's important and they ignore me and tell me I have no right to complain about the poor communication

>Try to help in the band's effort to get the best result out of worship, and I'm almost completely disregarded at every turn

>When I talk with them in normal conversation I can't hold their attention for more than a few minutes, if even

>I have "church friends" they've gone from people I love and appreciate to total strangers, I feel like I don't even know them anymore

I don't know what to do, that church used to be the highlight of my week every week, it was my sanctuary, I felt safe and happy there, but now I'm being ostracized by the people I love most

What do I do?

Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 02:50:14 24173d No.651319

>>651288

If they are blowing your friendship off, then find a new church with people that will value your company.

Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 03:24:44 36bd43 No.651328

>>651288

Damn, now that's gonna be my new wallpaper

Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 03:48:10 33afa5 No.651333

>>651288

I went through and am still going through something similar outside of my church life, and the best thing I've found is to internally tell them to go winnie the pooh themselves and focus on God. Just because some jerkwads don't include you doesn't denigrate your value as a person. Ignore what they think, focus on what god thinks. If they don't contact you when it's important and they need you, that's there problem. And if something changes in worship and they make next to no effort it's their fault when something goes awry. Screw them.

Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 17:08:47 68a2a0 No.651509

>>651288

Showing up with long hair and a misfits shirt doesn't help.

You're probably socially stunted, work on that. Or people will keep naturally shunning you.

Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 18:17:00 d9b8c6 No.651548

>>651509

Well, I will admit I have somewhat long hair, it's not a matter of style. The church isn't a "Sunday best" church. We wear clean, nice clothes, and go from there, we just don't do anything that's too out there, and that's the style, just a clean casual. You could wear a suit and tie, but most people don't

I'm not socially stunted, I don't know what else to say, I've been here for 8 years, I've been socializing longer that that.

Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 18:24:45 0064b7 No.651552

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>>651548

>I have somewhat long hair,

Christanon 05/22/18 (Tue) 19:57:12 d9b8c6 No.651598

>>651552

Yeah man. Big deal, I'm due for a cut.

I used to do it myself, but then all of our scissors got too dull to properly cut (Lord knows how) so if I want a haircut I've got to see a "professional"

Which means I have to spend money I don't want to spend to make my hair short, which I only do for job interviews at this point

Also, by "long", I mean my hair touches the collar of my shirt in the back, not down to my waist.