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Please Advise Me Christanon 02/07/18 (Wed) 14:16:58 c3e4c0 No.601233

So along with the regular daily Christian problems I try to fight and fix, there's something that's been bothering me a little. Even though I'm trying to do God's Will slowly more and more throughout my life, I feel as if I am not doing it out of any love for God, only fear of Hell and punishment.

I am far from an atheist, I don't doubt God's existence at all, but I find myself wishing I could be an atheist, like those around me. I live in Melbourne, Australia, around Atheists and cultural-christians mostly, and life seems so much easier for them, especially in regards to fornication, since although I want to have kids as a life-goal, I've never been able to get a girlfriend since they've all been weirded out by how I don't want to have sex before marriage, and how I won't advance sexually (even the christian girls)..

Anyway I ask simply for words of advice. I feel angry that I'm so restricted in regards to sexual action, and at the world around me, and how there are no proper Catholics around where I am. I feel no love for anything but my family really, and otherwise life feels like passing time until the fearful judgement after death. I praise God and pray, but there is no love or desire in there, only fear. Any words of wisdom?

Christanon 02/07/18 (Wed) 14:32:31 05fbe1 No.601246

All I can say for sure is that the spiritual lives of atheists are bleak and barren. That's a big reason why they try to fill the void with sinning amd fornication. Cultural Christians have a similar situation going for them, since they aren't even trying to follow Christ anymore.

Christanon 02/07/18 (Wed) 14:48:47 e976a8 No.601256

>I feel as if I am not doing it out of any love for God, only fear of Hell and punishment.

Nothing too wrong about it. "Fear of the Lord is beginning of wisdom" after all. And "The sons of wisdom are the church of the just: and their generation, obedience and love."

>I live in Melbourne

Our condolences. But seriously OP, move. Imitate Lot.

>I feel angry that I'm so restricted in regards to sexual action,

Anger is passion. After Fall, passions are not longer under will and reason. But they can be. Of course they don't like it but if you overcome them, you will not be overcomed by them.

>I feel no love for anything but my family really

Detachment is virtue

> and otherwise life feels like passing time until the fearful judgement after death.

Read Ecclesiastes. And then four other books of Salomon.

> I praise God and pray, but there is no love or desire in there, only fear. Any words of wisdom?

First and foremost - move. Be it more conservative city (with latin masses) or just (mostly) catholic village.

Second, continune to pray and prise God.

Thirdly, read about "Dark night of the Soul". For it sound that you are in one right now. And from there, path to saintcy is very near.

Christanon 02/07/18 (Wed) 15:37:42 56d1d7 No.601280

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>>601233

I have yet to control my own emotions anon, so I can't tell you how to turn your fear into love.

However, I do know there is more glory in struggling admist adversity than being a "good christian" is a paradisial world.

Of course evil is easy. It's easy to fornicate, to drink whenever and whatever you want, to indulges in your deepest passions. Christ never said it was easy.

How about considering your situation as a grace from god? The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all.

If, out of love, God put you in such a filthy environment, perhaps it is to make you rise, out of love, against it?

I agree with that other anon talking about the "dark night of the soul"

Don't fear, don't boast, but stay meek and faithful. You're not runnin away from hell, you're building your place in heaven.

Christanon 02/07/18 (Wed) 16:59:41 40dfb8 No.601313

> I feel as if I am not doing it out of any love for God, only fear of Hell and punishment.

This is a normal stage to go through that you will eventually grow out of as your faith and experience increases.

>I've never been able to get a girlfriend since they've all been weirded out by how I don't want to have sex before marriage, and how I won't advance sexually (even the christian girls)..

Think of it this way: you are filtering out worldly women and lukewarm Christians left and right. The one who finally goes for you is going to be worth it, God willing.

Christanon 02/07/18 (Wed) 18:45:05 76afff No.601341

>>601313

>normal stage to go through

This, this, and this. The fact you are even aware of it is another step. Welcome to the journey, brother.

Christanon 02/07/18 (Wed) 19:04:27 e78753 No.601350

>>601233

>and how I won't advance sexually

Tell them outright when getting to know one that you aren't a whoremonger and neither looking for a whore. Tell it to them in a dignified manner that radiates virtue and goodness and not self-loathing and desperation.

>I feel angry that I'm so restricted in regards to sexual action

You ought to be grateful to have your fleshly lusts under control on contraire to those fornicating heathens who are slaves to their most primitive desires, like animals. My words are harsh, but truly, they are what they are. It is no restriction, but freedom. Are you masturbating? If so, you should stop immediately and never do it again because it drains every bit of masculinity as well of self-confidence.

Christanon 02/08/18 (Thu) 12:01:58 6f53eb No.601663

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>>601350

quality post listen to this man.

Christanon 02/08/18 (Thu) 13:00:42 c3e4c0 No.601680

>>601233

Thanks guys, OP here. It's good hearing these words of encouragement. I keep struggling but a bit of support and light like this is a very good thing to get. May God bless you all.