/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover★

One question I do have that comes to mind is shaving. What do you guys who crossdress do? I have lots of problems shaving anywhere that’s not on my face. It’s either too thick, grows back or gives me painful razor-burn. Since I’m wanting to get back into crossdressing and eventually diapers when I get the freedom, I want to be able to solve this shaving issue especially as I like wetting and messing. Hair on my face takes a while to grow back but after shaving my abdomen (light hair growth) and groin (heavier) yesterday I already notice some stubble or regrowth. Is this just a part of being a guy or is there some way that more experienced crossdressers deal with hair? I don’t want to take HRT or anything since this is mainly a fetish thing for me

>>68220

get an electric razor, or if youre really metal get an epilator but they hurt like shit while making ur hair thin out over time

>>68220

Have you tried the chemical removals. Like Nair but I think there are better products

>>68220

I was too much of a wuss to handle an epilator. But I shave often.

First thing is time and patience. You don't need to do every step within a day especially if you're removing foe the first time or after an extended break from shaving.

If you have very course or thick hair to start then it's a good idea to thin it out with a hair removal cream first. I personally use VEET. I've tried nair but it irritated my skin. Make sure to test it out before committing to slithering your body. I eventually built up resistance but in the beginning it irritated my nipples and taint. Be conservative until you know your limit.

Hair removal cream gets rid of a lot but there's often leftover. You can rather try again right after or the next day to remove more but I typically don't get all of it.

After the hair is thinned out. I like to take a bath heavily dosed with baby oil. Not only does it soften and lubicrate the skin, you'll smell like the big baby butt you are.

Patience patience patience. Throw on a podcast or something to listen to. This part gets easier the more you do it.

Short, fairly slow strokes removing the hair and rinsing the razor. If it gets too clogged with hair switch it out. Rushing this part can lead to a lot of irritation.

Once you're done, shower off any excess hair sticking to you. Exfoliate the skin gently with a loofa. Do not scrub hard. A lot of boys forget to be dainty, you don't need to put pressure or rub vigorously. Gentle circles all over.

Pat yourself dry. Rubbing coursely can irritate the skin. Then apply a daily moisturizer everywhere you shaved.

The first time or dealing with prolonged growth takes a while. It's easier in the future if you maintain it, as you only need to shave in the bath. For me it's every 4-7 days. There is stubble on the later days, but it's far easier to shave off stubble rather then fully grown hair.

Shaving every day will often lewd to more razor burn or ingrown hairs. Regrowth did itch the first few times but doesn't bother me anymore.

Are any of you into getting pegged while being in a diaper? It’s one of my biggest fantasies

I'm into some aspects of dressing girly, but it's complex. I guess I can kinda take it or leave it.

>>68248

Saved mate. This is more thought than I could have ever worked out without studying color theory myself.

>>68270

Using cream on your balls or your ass is one of those "try a little area first" places because they're likely to be sensitive. Shaving your balls is much easier then you'd think. Stretch out the skin and be gentle.

Butt and back takes practice. As long as you clean the razor between strokes it's a lot easier.

I've only used an electric once, but it didn't shave smooth to the skin. I haven't used them that much tbh. I had to shave with a razor afterwards anyways so it didn't save me time or effort personally.

I use a pack of simple cheap razors and copious amounts of baby oil. If you get into a routine of regular upkeep once a week it's pretty manageable. A daily body moisturizer is a must.

With thrift stores I'm usually paying $1-$5 for a piece. But its also more of a crap shoot. Sometimes I find something, sometimes it's nothing. Have to be willing to flip through the racks and find nothing. Put a pair of earbuds in, no one talks to you.

I tend not to have as many options that will fit through Amazon because I'm 6'.

If you're small enough to fit things, then it's more about how much you want to spend rather then what you can find that fits. Just keep in mind female sizing can be weird so know your measurements before ordering online. And with Asian sizing make sure they have a size chart because it skews even smaller.

If you're small enough bodyline will have a lot of adorable lolita stuff. Just have your personal measurements and don't try to squeeze into the smallest size you can physically suck into. Tightness accentuates male frame. They do have somethings that fit larger people too, but it's a practice in patient for 4xl-5xl asian size to be in stock.

>>68275

Thanks again for the helpful tips <3, this is exactly why I made this thread for stuff like this. I'm also six foot and about 145-150 pounds (it fluctuates and I'm trying to drop a few before I get back into this) so unfortunately lolita-type stuff probably won't fit me very well. I envy those guys small enough to fit in those adorable clothes. Either way, as long as I can get something cute and a bit girlish / babyish I will be happy. I really love crossdressing and mixing it with diapers is my ultimate fantasy. Hopefully in a few months I can get started with at least the crossdressing since if I was ever discovered I'd rather be caught as a crossdresser than as a diaper-wearing crossdresser. Though once I move out I'm definitely buying myself big thick diapers, pacifiers, bottles and maybe try a bit of untraining

>>68277

Glad I could help. I had a friend not into diapers but into crossdressing guys and drag give me a lot of these basics. I'm still learning, but I want to try and help other sissies with what I've learned.

As for wigs, look for cosplay quality instead of cheap Halloween store wigs that will look awful. If they're too shiny a little bit of baby powder will help it look more natural. Arda was really good quality. If you're rich a lacefront will look like actual hair. I tend to like pig tails not just because it's childish and cute. But bigger hair makes your face look smaller.

someone posted this somewhere I forget but i saved the link.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1YNGUSH6zutTcv_osPURNvH8K19mXiX730Y-JeDRMNbI/edit?pref=2&pli=1

generally shilling some product. Shows the guy's hairless asshole and junk.

>>68282

>How do you meet people IRL into crossdressing? It sounds fun to dress up with others as opposed to alone.

Weabs. Completely serious.

The wig looks decent though. You can make it softer with a diluted soak of fabric softener and cold water.

>>68291

$17 bucks. Guide looks pretty legit. Considering it. If I do it I'll report back.

>>68297

>Weabs. Completely serious.

I’m not surprised here at all kekall honest anime fans wish they were 2D girls

This is gonna sound like a dumb question.

I've never worn a skirt or really any girl clothes.

How do skirts stay on?

>>68348

>How do skirts stay on?

The same was as any other pair of pants or shorts essentially. The main types I’ve worn have either zipped up the side or had an elastic wase. Once it’s zipped up it’s pretty firmly place, at least if it is your size. I have worn less skirts in my crossdressing than yoga pants though because I like how it makes my ass look, so someone might have more insight than me.

>I've never worn a skirt or really any girl clothes.

It’s a lot of fun and goes well with diapers. I recommend trying it out one day if you have a good body for it!

>>68348

Every wondered how they can make clothing in different sizes and it fits ?

It's because in general the body is a series of ratios.

For example mens chest is usually 6 inches bigger than waist.

It's not exact but the male hips / waist ratio is about 0.9

I believe the female hip / waist ratio is about 0.7

So for a woman that means 24 inch waist, 36 inch hips .. at 0.7 ratio hence the classic 36-24-36 measurements.

For a guy the figures we get 42" chest and 36"

waist but that that's actually 32" narrowest point and 36" hip/waist.

It's that narrow point that lets a skirt stay up.

It's the much wider ratio and cut of material that makes the skirt flare out and give it shape on the female body.

It's why a CD/TV might use padding for their hips and/or a corset to draw in their waist at it's narrowest to further define a feminine figure.

It' also why woman wear corsets too. It further increases the waist ratio.

Look up your size on a size chart such as this one.

https://www.asos.com/women/dresses-size-guide/?szgid=1&r=2

Bust = chest

Waist = narrowest point of your body

Hips = will be bigger than your hips.

Now pop along to a charity shop or order something online.

If you order online you can return it from most of the major retailers.

And lucky you gets to find out that many stores use size as pretty much a guide. Ask a girlfriend I'm sure she has a story about how she is a 10 in these stores and a 12 there but a 14 (OMG!) in this one.

>>68348

I'm going to go ahead and guess that you've been fat and been around fat people so long that you cannot visualize a world in which things stay on the waist simply because it is narrower than the hips.

>>68291

I had already tried this product/method, it's easy and cheap, but it has a strong sulphur-like smell that you cant really get rid of for at least a day, because the chemials in the powder react with almost every shower gel and soap on the market. I used it on the more sensitive areas as well with good results.

If anyone's planning to try this just be very careful with it, if you were sweating, got sunburnt, or have wounds on your skin before using it, it can give you a nasty chemical burn, or poisioning.

It only left a small amount of hair behind, but even those hairs were much softer than before.

>>68360

Uh, no, I just never wore a skirt, and until the very moment I asked that question, I didn't think much about it.

Also I'm looking for a good stuffer substitute for Abrilet Maxi. Specifically its size and thickness when dry. Laying one along the length and a second folded over in the butt gave a really cute shape to my diaper.

I've seen ID expert maxi booster, anyone know how it compares in terms of dry thickness?

I’ve slowly begun to shave my thighs after the original razor-burn I got on my stomach. No problems so far. I really like how my thighs look and feel right now, it makes me excited. I can’t wait until I’m totally shaved down and smooth. Then it will be time to be a little girl!

I'm going to chance getting some clothes today. Wish me luck, sisters.

>>68489

Good luck <3. If you get anything special share with us!

>>68489

You got this babybutt! Earbuds in, and just flip through the racks like no one else is there

>>68496

>>68498

Thriftstore went bust. Ended up stealth shopping with a friend while at target. Got some leggings and a skirt. Mundane, but I suppose everyone has to start somewhere.

If anyone is the wiser, no one bothered to say anything.

>>68511

>Got some leggings and a skirt

What colors? Have you worn before? In regards to people saying anything, I doubt 99% of people would and would just a) not care or b) not say anything. I'm still too embarrassed to buy anything offline though, so you're braver than me!

>>68512

I don't live in the area where I was buying, and I'm very…ordinary. I was being as subtle as I could. For whatever reason, the fitting rooms had no attendant so I could dip in and out, and I assume the clerk just thought they were gifts along with the coffee machine I bought. Either that or he just don't give a fuck.

Who knows?

Just black leggings and a dark (navy?) blue plaid skirt with green and orange patterns criss crossing.

I did find this long pink skirt on clearance but it was a small and that just didn't work.

I've never worn anything other than undergarments before.

>>68513

>I've never worn anything other than undergarments before.

I was the same back when I had access to clothes at first in my mid teens. I just wore panties under my normal guy clothes and delighted myself in my secret during the day while out and about. The first time I went all out and dressed up with panties, a bra, a cute top, a skirt and a wig was pure ecstasy. Sadly back then I used to feel guilty about getting off to this stuff and even liking the clothes at all + being bi so I purged it all and haven't worn for years. Since then I've gotten into diapers and am planning to purchase my again when I get a bit more money in a few months. I can't wait to experience the joy of it all again.

I hope you similarly enjoy it, it made me feel great about how I looked!

>>68511

>>68513

Good on ya for trying, win some you lose some with thrift shops. I'm glad you picked up something and had a friend to support ya!

>>68523

I think a big part of it is you aren't going to find many girly things with this cold snap. My friend couldn't even find a jumper.

reviving this thread with a question, what would be a good ensemble for a very masculine frame, large chest and legs.

what would be a good top to wear

Just out of curiosity… has anyone considered that the overly high rates of transsexuals and sissies in this community is due to… ah… kind of like "sexual inbreeding" of a sort?

I mean at first I kind of thought it was simply a matter of the humiliation aspect or the whole "girly aspect" in that our society perceives females as weaker and more dependent for the most part, as well as female clothing tends to be more cutesy/babyish… but I wonder if it's something more.

Like with some animal species if you put them together and there aren't enough females or there aren't enough males… well… strange things start to happen. Some animal species even change their own gender biologically, where as other animal species will simply swap roles.

I wonder if there's some significant version of that happening in this community, where it's predominantly male. Most of the females who are into this fetish are either cam whores, most looking to make money, and they already have no shortage of "daddy figures" lined up, or they stay below the radar so as not to get flooded by creepy desperate weirdos. Leaving the greater whole of the community… male.

So it could be that a lot of males in this community are wanting to become some approximation of female simply out of an ingrained biological trigger/fixation to try and compensate for the low numbers of females. Sort of like how in male dominated prisons there's an exceptionally high rate of homosexuality and male rape because, ah… "life finds a way" so to speak.

That would make most of the adult baby transsexuals sort of like the "prison bitches" of this fetish.

>>71101

no problem, just passing useful information.

Thanks for being my guinea pig. I hadn't tried the stuff yet.

>>71112

It could be the case though I don't really believe it.

I think it's more like someone has a main fetish like diapers. There are strong associations connecting to other fetishes and can probably be mapped out like some sort of game skill grid.

Something like abdl > Likes playing with changing own identity aspect > Likely to find tg, ageplay, furry very appealing

Or Abdl > Likes Humiliation > Same as above but they sort of want to be forced into it > Likely to find Sissification, regression, pet play appealing, as well as bdsm, exhibitionism, etc

I think there's just a bigger chance for anyone with a fetish to branch out and collect a spectrum of fetishes, and there's a lot of easy associations with abdl and sissy.

>>71114

It's going to save me a LOT of money.

>>71051

What I tend to do is layer. Like nothing is going to make you look like a lithe delicate sissy but diet and exercize, but you can disguise or at least make the thiccness less unappealing (at least imho, obviously the stuff I do won't be appealing to everyone's tastes no matter what. I'm a 6', broad shouldered, and chubby man, some just will not like that no matter what's thrown on top).

Playing with your proportions help a lot. Your ability to do so is going to depend on what you have. I tend to wear an undershirt and an overshirt, hide my shoulds and give the illusion with the overshirt that it pulls in. Or I'll wear a baggier sweater to let my top be lost in it.

Pettis hiked up to my belly to hide it and show off.my diaper. Often a belt to pull in the middle or make appear so, and the thicker your diaper the smaller your thighs look.

The biggest thing I can stress is not trying to squeeze into the smallest size you can physically fit too. When you have was fluff to your body, form fitting only accentuates it and makes you look fatter.

>>71112 I tend to be like >>71116 describes. Sure I may have started with diapers. But my interest in crossdressing is more related to the aspects I like (cuteness, humiliation, escaping into another headspace) and are just further expressions of that.

I think potentially guys whom under any other circumstances would adhere themselves to strict heterosexual male expressions, are more willing to explore thoughts and urges already falling outside the typical sexual norm.

>>71112

I think trannies/sissies are just more exhibitionist and more likely to join fetish communities. This goes for gays in general imo. I think the ACTUAL breakdown of abdl is similar to that of the general population, but certain types of sites tend to attract certain types of people. Daily diapers attracts straight males, fetlife attracts lgbtqlmnop, tumblr attracts women, etc.

>>71101

Addendum to this. The step about removing with a wash cloth specifically, that is important. I thought it was rinsed off with the loofa, and realized that after dried there was still a lot of residue that didn't come off causing irritation.