>>42662
So, I like hearing the pros and cons of the sexual aspect but I should note this.
Myself, and several other AB/DLs I know, were into diapers long before we had any sexual urges. I was into diapers at 4. Now, once I hit puberty it -became- sexual, but even if I had no libido, I would still want to wear diapers.
They bring a feeling a comfort, safety, and wholeness even if I'm too spent to also experience the raging hard-on, or if I've been wearing enough that my junk is accustomed to the feeling,
So, these lifestylers have probably been wearing enough that they've recaptured more of the original impetus and less of the acquired sexual appetite just because sexual appetite thrives on novel and newness.
Some also have a humiliation fetish or an exposure fetish and get off in public. I don't have that; I like to wear because, although going on twenty+ years without an accident, my subconscious is still worried I'm going to piss myself in the office because that's how fucked up you make a person when you overreact during toilet training.
I don't want anyone to know I'm wearing a diaper, but I also don't want to fear being discovered. Ultimately, I want to know that, if I mess up, my diaper would catch it, and if I was found out, no one would care. It's amazing how much unconscious stress disappears when my brain isn't constantly firing with "don't piss yourself" when it's never even an issue.
But, I totally admit that when a diaper rubs my dick the right wet (especially a wet one) I get off on it. So, there's my complicated explanation of why someone might want to normalize it, even though they find it sexual, because of the non-sexual aspect.