https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/8wy70m/my_38m_wifes_35f_former_lover_is_my_sons_13m_best/
First of all I hope this is the right format. i mostly just lurk on reddit and made this because I have no idea what to do. I came home yesterday and found my son completely despondent. He is normally happy and bouncing off of walls. It is tennis season and he has been playing almost non stop so when he is actually home and I am home from work I want to spend time with him as much as possible. Usually play video games or board games or watch horror films etc.. I tried talking to him but he wouldnt talk to me. Finally I sat him down and he told me what happened. Apparently he was at his best friends house and they were watching movies when his friends dad came home. He apparently at some point mentioned to my son, his friend and a couple other boys that my wife/my sons mom was really "hot and wild back in high school" and "at times would fool around with multiple guys at a time" and they need to find a "cool girl like that" once they get to high school. He even told them he still has some pictures of her from back then, but he would "show them to them when they are older" He said some other things but I wont get into all the details. I really didnt know what to say so told him sometimes people say stupid things as jokes. He said that some of the kids already started teasing him about it.
My wife and I met in college. I knew she wasnt a virgin, but past that I really didnt ask much about her past. She never had mentioned that anything happened with one of our sons friends dads, but then again she never said something didnt happen. I asked her about it last night. She was upset. She was really mad that he would say something about it. She did admit to me that in high school I guess on a few occasions at parties she did sleep with him and some of his friends. She said she was experimenting etc… She was a bit of an outside amongst girls her age so hung out mostly with guys and she said "it would just happen…it didnt mean anything." I was upset hearing this and she lashed out on me and said I shouldnt judge her about her past and she is right. I was just hurt and assumed she had been with a few other guys but didnt think she was doing multiple guys in one night or gangbangs or stuff.
Now I dont know what to tell my son. I dont know if I should confront this guy. I dont want my wife to be upset with me and I dont want to be thinking about all of this. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Update: I talked to my wife more late last night. Found out some answers about what happened and its fucked up and hard to deal with. This is not me trying to troll about my wifes past. I know the advice there… its in the past and I have to get over it. Im sure that will come in time. I am really worried about my son. He is just totally shut off now. We were supposed to go to Kings Island ( a theme park by my house…his favorite place) and he told me he isn't going this morning. He looks like he hasnt slept.