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 No.786

I am going to attempt nofap, not for a set period but by taking it a day at a time. I'm not going to bother with a filter because I know if I really want to fap, it'll be easy to remove any internet blocks.

Upon retrospection, I notice my fapping habits have increased over the past year to the point that I get up and go to find something to eat after the act because my reward system must be that jacked that an orgasm isn't enough. It's caused me to put on weight and become lazy. I don't want to lead such a degenerate life anymore. I want to get out there and meet women and be excited to fuck them again.

My regular fap schedule goes something like this.

Wake up 5am-6am, make coffee, check email, jump on xhamster and start browsing for something to jerk off to. As I browse asians, BBW, teen, cuckold, interracial, lesbians, and even fucking vintage, I'll get annoyed if there is not any new content from the night before. Because it's my morning fap, I try to find something that will cause extra excitement instead of going back to old time favourites. Usually done by 7am.

After spending the morning playing vidya (I'm a NEET), I'll have another fap and then go and make lunch and then I might have a nap. After I wake up, I'll make another coffee and sit down for an afternoon fap, which is usually followed by some icecream or chocolate or sometimes both.

Of course, I cannot go to sleep without a fap so I'll spend 30 minutes to an hour looking for something exciting to fap to before going to bed.

There are often times when I'll fap within 30 minutes of the last fap simply because I am bored and need the excitement again.

I've fapped that much over the years (I'm 31) that I have some minor stretch marks or rub marks from fapping so much. Sometimes it even hurts a little to fap because I do it far too often and too much and for too long.

The thing is though, I don't consider myself addicted to masturbation. In the past I've had temp jobs and been in situations where I couldn't fap as much or not at all and provided I was occupied, I didn't feel the urge to fap. It's not the fapping that is the problem, but easy access to porn.

Even now, sitting here with a coffee and not fapping, I can feel the dopamine screaming at me to load up xhamster and just do it, it'll feel good, you deserve it, go on, one last time.

Does my story sound familiar to anyone else?

 No.787

Git it dun.

I never used a filter either. I won't say they're useless, but I found it was beneficial for me to train pure discipline, instead of just trying to remove the opportunity.

Good luck OP. Report back tomorrow.


 No.893

>(I'm a NEET)

Now see, this is the crux of the issue. If you just hang in your apartment all by your lonesome, you'll lose the battle over and over again. I suspect you already know this, even if you've not really consciously realized it. You need some activity that requires you to leave the house and socialize. A good entry-level one would be jogging, which would also help you get rid of the weight. It might not seem to help much with the socializing aspect, but you never know. The road has always been a good place for chance encounters, no?

>Of course, I cannot go to sleep without a fap

Unless you're being literal and you can't even fall asleep after a good 24 hours of wakefulness without the ol' Rosie Palms, that's not an issue. In fact, it's one of the best possible applications of masturbation, a natural sleeping aid. I know this board has plenty of abrahamic moralists who'd prefer you abstain completely, but I consider them just as deluded as the ones who know no moderation on the other end of the spectrum.

>The thing is though, I don't consider myself addicted to masturbation.

Everyone always prattles on about how saying something like that is a clear indication of addiction. While true in some instances, it is no universal rule. I'd say it indeed doesn't apply to yours. You've simply fallen into the standard trap of having nothing better to do.

>It's not the fapping that is the problem, but easy access to porn.

If you know how to set up a filter, you also know how to knock it down, so it won't help you. Other than to remind you why you put it up in the first place, and sometimes, that's all you need. Regardless, you can't get around the fact that it's easily accessible. You'll need to willfully ignore it and decide to do something else.

If the jogging idea doesn't work for you, due to laziness or poor weather (I know it wouldn't work for me due to those exact reasons), you could also just play more vidya. I know, I know, folks think that's bad too, but it's more useful, improves hand-eye coordination and all that jazz. Try out a more wide variety of games, knock up the difficulty of the ones you already play. I'd recommend trying some of the old greats, since they're cheap, challenging and fairly easily accessible these days. I suspect you might have quite a few of them already, though.

Here's a couple of tips: Freespace 2 Source Code Project, updates an old classic, often called the pinnacle of the space dogfight sims and offers plenty of high-quality fan productions to add at your leisure.

Thief 2, great game in it's own right, has had a solid decade of a dedicated fanbase cranking out fanmissions, some of which are arguably even better than anything the base game offers.

Heroes of Might and Magic, I personally like 2 the best for nostalgic reasons, but 3 or 5 would probably be the best of the lot, objectively speaking. Easy to get into, offers a good degree of replayability.

Another thing you could try is art. Not the modern kind that's more about the bullshit explanations around the pieces than the pieces themselves, I'm talking good old fashioned, hardcore replication-of-reality kind of art. With the advent of the digital age, you don't even need to blow a huge wad of cash to get started, just get yourself a cheap drawing tablet and some basic software (Paint Tool Sai is a good choice and only costs around 50 bucks to acquire legally) and you're set. Then you just git gud at it, for extra challenge try doing nudes without getting overly aroused (it's actually quite easy, so long as you focus on mechanically replicating what you see). It gives you something to do that requires effort but isn't physically taxing, provides you a vector for socializing by way of local art clubs and if you git gud enough, you'll have a marketable skill on your résumé.

Of course, I'm an artist-in-training myself, so take that glowing recommendation with a grain of salt. Just remember that you'll hate it at first, especially if you've never been much for drawing, since you'll suck something awful at first. But I've heard it said that even the best artists have a thousand shitty pieces. So get to shitting those thousand turds, you'll crap out nothing but diamonds after that, kid!


 No.920

For the sleep problem, I found this video to work pretty well.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HutgMrYMbfE

It's a guided meditation video that relaxes me and allows me to drift off to sleep faster than simply lying in bed fidgeting while trying to go to sleep. I play it in my phone and usually fall asleep in less than 20 minutes.


 No.926

>>920

Or let the wife Jack you off.


 No.937

You don't have to quit fapping. This is dangerous. If you could find anything bad about it or becuse of any circumstances, stopping would make anything only worse.

The problem lies behind the curtain of fapping that seems to be the problem.


 No.956

>>787

Reporting in.

I lasted one day (a full 24 hours) and then litereally blew it off.

Been thinking about it more today and going to attempt it again.


 No.957

>>893

>>Now see, this is the crux of the issue. If you just hang in your apartment all by your lonesome, you'll lose the battle over and over again. I suspect you already know this, even if you've not really consciously realized it. You need some activity that requires you to leave the house and socialize. A good entry-level one would be jogging, which would also help you get rid of the weight. It might not seem to help much with the socializing aspect, but you never know. The road has always been a good place for chance encounters, no?

I'm going to join a gym and book 1 or 2 PT sessions to help me figuring out a 5 day work out routine. I found an independent gym which takes cash so I can't make an excuse about direct debit bullshit either.

I don't have the fitness to jog but I am going to go for a walk each morning starting tomorrow morning just to get me doing something physical other than jacking it first thing when waking.

>>vidya gaem

It might work for some but the older I get, the more boring I find video games. As for drawing, I use to do quite a bit of drawing when I was a teenager but stopped doing it once I finished school. What would you recommend as a good tablet for drawing as I can actually see this being a good activity to engage in before going to sleep.


 No.959

>>957

>What would you recommend as a good tablet for drawing

I've got me a Wacom Bamboo, fairly old one but it's served me well thus far. Their newer models seem to be in the 60-100$ range. Buying used might work, but I'm not quite sure what extended wear and tear does to them.

Oh, and remember that adjusting for the disconnect of the tablet and the screen will take some time. I know I had some trouble getting used to it, but after a few pieces, it felt natural enough. Just remember; Ctrl+Z is your friend.

>this being a good activity to engage in before going to sleep.

I personally find it hard to do any art when tired, I'll make too many mistakes and piss myself off. But then, with digital it's relatively easier to correct mistakes.


 No.965

a come on men, you don't have to nofap. I say something because I think it is frightening that some would try this with that much effort.


 No.966

Why nofap?

Any good thing that you would get from it is gone by the horrific effort

It is some sort of fable that nofap is good.

What are the real reasons for nofap? I can think of some just like anyone here, but I would have to hear it from you. Because they are not listed in the board reasons here or elsewhere.


 No.967

Why nofap?

Any good thing that you would get from it is gone by the horrific effort

It is some sort of fable that nofap is good.

What are the real reasons for nofap? I can think of some just like anyone here, and do nofap too. But I would have to hear it from you. Because they are not listed in the board reasons here or elsewhere.


 No.968

There was this error prompt. now posted double. excus


 No.980

Anyone have any software/addons for firefox to blacklist/block porn sites?


 No.988

>>980

You'll just evade them and you know it.


 No.1004

>>967

>>893 here. You probably want OP, but I'll throw in my 2¢ too.

Now first off, I only just heard about this place due to the whole controversy. Came here to see what the gig was like, decided to help someone out just because. I'm quite likely one of the last people you'd expect to see here, being a long-term furry bastard that hates abrahamic moralizing on sex, which is sort of the reason I decided to start gabbin', offer a view from a different angle to most here, y'know?

It's quite true that this whole shebang is based on the faulty research of a couple of conservative US christians sorely lacking in qualifications on the subject. Still, they've got a few valid points and ideas, even if the reasoning behind them is lackluster.

As stated before, I don't consider fapping to be bad and abstinence from it to be good in-and-of-themselves. It is, however, not the best possible use of time, no doubt about that. Everything short of lying lethargically in bed all day could be considered more productive. And if all you do is fap, you'll just make it a less pleasant activity the more you do it. The doctrine here postulates that this is because you disassociate sexual pleasure from reality and that orgasm isn't the real goal of sexual stimulation or some other such shit, but the reality is that non-stop fapping just renders you numb to the pleasure. Luckily, since said pleasure is caused by your own body's chemicals, a short rest (a week to a month) will fix you right up. The usual pitfall is since it'll feel really good again after that break, you'll relapse into binging, and the cycle repeats. The key is pacing, I've found a fap or two every few days is fairly optimal, personally.

Another thing is the fact that the people who have a problem with masturbation tend to have other, far deeper problems. The doctrine here postulates that the masturbation is the cause, while reality is that it's a symptom. There are benefits to treating this symptom, however. One, controlling such a basic, instinctive behavior is seen as monumental effort, therefore being successful at it boosts self-esteem and confidence, which could be the break needed to address the other issues. Two, getting rid of the distraction that masturbation is could lead them to be unable to avoid confronting the underlying issues. Three, they might replace masturbation with another, more productive distraction. All in all, it is generally a better deal no matter what happens.

So yeah, hope that answers your question. Nofap is beneficial from a utilitarian standpoint, just be wary of all the folks who say you need Jesus.


 No.1005

>>1004

You make some good points and everything but I really hate you fucking "I'm so special" retards who rag on religious people. So go fuck yourself.


 No.1009

>>1005

I only rag on them when it's warranted. Hell, I spent a semester with a former theology student who listened to nothing but spiritual songs for a roommate and we got on just fine. Even had a few discussions on things like the problem of evil.

I can't help it if a lot of what comes out of religious pie-holes (especially in America) is downright factually incorrect, now can I? Doesn't much help that I often get the feeling they'd burn me at the stake if they could.

And I'd say I'm not much of a snowflakefag. Sure, I barge in here with long, detailed posts when I'm not really even supposed to be here, but my desire is simply to improve the discourse by providing a somewhat dissenting voice. If I was looking for attention I wouldn't be posting on an anonymous board, now would I?


 No.1013

>>1004

>>1009

I like you.

I love Jesus too, but I really like your mindset and your analysis of the situation.


 No.1015

We've gone off topic. OP is a sickening waste of oxygen.


 No.1016

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>>1015

I think you have the wrong mindset for a board focused on self improvement.




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