/nofap/ - Fappers Anonymous★

Under the light of this information, the whole process is revealed: willful indulgence of lust --- of sexual materials and thoughts — leads to arousal; arousal starts to deteriorate your willpower; and the deterioration of willpower accumulates and reaches a critical mass, at which point you can no longer endure the temptations and end up failing. So, it is absolutely imperative that you understand the whole process and not lock yourself into a narrow understanding. You must see the whole process from beginning to end, know every aspect of the abstinence. Overlooking this critical aspect of arousal and what causes it — which is willfully indulging in lustful materials and thoughts — will lead to perpetual failure; because how can you forbid yourself to do one thing while allowing yourself to do another thing that leads to it? You can’t forbid yourself to masturbate while allowing yourself to indulge in lust which leads to the accumulation of arousal which then leads to masturbation. After a certain buildup of arousal, you will not be able to endure the urges and failure will be inevitable. This leads us to the conclusion that rejecting the indulgence of lust is just as important as rejecting masturbation itself. It is essential that you see lustful materials and thoughts as direct threats and the willful indulgence in those lustful materials and thoughts as mini failures that accumulate into the full failure of masturbation. Like little cracks slowly forming on a vase that, if left untreated, shattering the entire thing, those seemingly innocent and harmless little indulgences build up and lead to relapse. For example, in yogic science, it is said that semen exists in a subtle form throughout the body, and is withdrawn and elaborated into gross form in the sexual organ under the influence of the sexual will and excitement. These ancient sciences put emphasis on the downward movement of your sexual energy. So, it’s not just the act of masturbation or recreational sex that directs the energy downwards, but it is also said even having lustful thoughts decrease your vitality and flows the energy downwards. Proper way is the upwards movement of your sexual energy by practicing sexual transmutation, by not spilling your seed for an invalid reason and, instead, focusing your energy to achieve higher goals and projects. Same thing with chakras; instead of having your life energy descend to your root chakra to be converted into sexual energy, it should ascend up through the chakras for higher purposes. We should only indulge in sexual acts when the context is right; and being hunched over in front of a computer, looking at a bunch of pixels on a monitor, and touching yourself like a dumb animal all the while being brainwashed by the mind parasite of porn is not the right context. The epitome of a failed man is an impulsive creature who will be stupefied at arousal, who will forget all his goals and aspirations when his lust is triggered, who will suspend all his principles for a mere touch sensation. When it comes to overcoming your lust and addiction, you must, by all means, reject willfully paying attention to arousing materials and thoughts. Whatever it might be, a picture, a video, a part of a video, certain websites, certain areas of certain websites, fantasies of a hypothetical or a past experience, etc. should all be avoided. In this hyper-sexualized world we’re living in, sexual signals are everywhere; the media, the Internet, the people… Wherever you go you will encounter something arousing but this is okay because growth cannot be achieved without hardship, and, ultimately, lust is in the mind and not in the environment.

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So, here’s what to do: once you encounter something lustful, something that --- if willfully indulged in — would lead to arousal, recognize that it’s a lustful material, and ignore it, don’t indulge in it. Don’t watch that video or just skip that part, don’t look at those pictures, don’t go to that website, don’t continue to think about it; simply move on without allowing it to arouse you. That way you would protect your willpower because it is the willful indulgence in a lustful material that causes arousal, and not an encounter that you shut down once you recognized its danger. So, these are all mini wars that you mustn’t lose, and it’s very important to not have a narrow perspective on this. It’s about the all-encompassing concept of lust and not its sub-categories like masturbation, porn, or anything else. You can’t hope to succeed if you’re focusing on some aspects of lust but ignoring the rest. You should renounce every thought and behavior pattern that’s connected to lust. It’s all or nothing, anything else would be lopsided thinking and their results will mirror that exploitative behavior. All-in-all, it’s about continuous, unwavering, focused, and intelligent discipline that doesn’t allow any compromise.

No doubt, as you’re enduring your addiction, slowly but surely rewiring your brain to a healthy state, you are facing grave challenges in the form of withdrawal symptoms. Your brain that has been trained and conditioned into expecting so many sexual signals is now denied of those signals; and because of this, it’s constantly urging you to satiate its wants, which you can’t. Due to the cunning nature of your addiction, it will employ many tactics to reinstate itself, to get you to fail. You need to be aware of these tactics and be ready to debunk and shut them down once they occur. There is a problem relevant to our topic here and that’s the thought of “I’ll just look at a couple of stuff but I won’t touch myself. It’ll take the edge off, I’ll just watch, that’s all”. This is a very dangerous thing to do, and it won’t take the edge off at all, it’ll make it much worse. Because looking at arousing materials in a mistaken attempt to make things easier would be willfully indulging in lust which will cause arousal, and that’s a recipe for eventual failure. You might not fail today, maybe tomorrow won’t be the final twist of the knife, not even the day after perhaps, but eventually your willpower will too weakened to continue and you will fail. It’ll make things significantly harder and you won’t hold out for much longer. Recognize that it’s a trap --- a conniving tactic from the addiction to reinstate itself — and not give in. Stay clear of anything lustful, and allow your brain and body to fix themselves.

In closing, I would suggest writing something, a manifesto of sorts, for when you feel weak and tempted to remind you of your mission. In it, you can write about what’s gonna happen if you fail, what’s gonna happen if you continue, why you should continue, and its essentiality in your success, so that you can transcend your current predicament and not give in to the temptations.

This concludes my video, I hope it was helpful in realizing an often overlooked and dangerous behavior of willful indulgence of lust. Good luck in your conquest. Go forth and step out of darkness into the light.

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